@Nothereed I get your point, and I don't mean to be dismissive by just stating
'it's both sides', and I know that it's not an overly helpful statement -- but at the same time, there is some truth to it. Like I said, people disagree, it'll always happen, and I do believe that everyone should be entitled to what they believe in. But I do know that people are being hurt by certain legislation decisions, and it's not like I'm blind to it either. Some people simply have bias, and cannot see past that for the life of them. But when I say '
both sides", it's not like I'm actually distinctly drawing a line and pointing blame at both of them. I just mean that people in general, they can fail to see a lot about a situation; especially when their beliefs are involved.. and that can turn into people getting defensive and hostile, no matter what beliefs you actually hold. Which, in my honest opinion, when people get hostile to protect their beliefs (which I understand why, I do, people feel threatened and it can feel like the only way to be heard) it instantly crushes any chance you have of being heard by anyone other than another person who already follows your line of thinking. Humans are typically one of the most stubborn possible species imaginable, even when presented with a problem, they generally do all they can to avoid change, or to outright stop things they don't want or understand from happening- which plays into what we're seeing right now.
Let me make it clear, like I said before; I am Pro-Trans. But I also still accept that we still genuinely don't know that much about it, and this is going to cause confusion, fear, and general misunderstanding. Not everyone's going to understand, and a lot of the people who don't understand something, probably won't accept it either. I don't agree with passing legislation that may lead to harming a group of people, and I don't agree with denying care for people that may actually need it. But even with one side on the matter actively working against the other, wouldn't it still be counter-intuitive to respond with hostility? I get that most people even if you respond calmly may not even listen to you in the first place, but granting that ammunition just gives them all the more reason to work against you in their mind. Because with their line of thinking, it'd basically be justifying everything they thought before, even if it may be wrong. But with topics as complex as Transgenderism, not everyone is going to be understanding and accepting, and I wish we could change that easily, or fast- but it won't, which means it'll have to take time.
Trust me, it's fine. I enjoy seeing other view-points, and talking with people about them; and I get that this is a heated issue with a lot riding on it for some people- and I saw some of your posts about your partner (I'm sorry btw, I hope your situation gets better), which means that I know you have a personal stake in it as well. Like I said, everyone is entitled to their own beliefs, and the right to defend them. But my point is, I just wish that everyone was able to discuss them with civility. Because, at least in my opinion, hostility will never send us forward with understanding, especially against people who already don't understand.