Got a crush on a nurse and it's kind of eating me up inside

[Marc_LFD]

Long story short, I had an operation about a month ago and have been going to this nurse (and two others, mainly this one) who changes my dressing, at the beginning she'd be professional not too talkative, but now for a second time she asked me who do I live with and what will I do over the weekend (pretty personal questions, tbh).

She's pretty, quirky, funny, and friendly. I want be honest and tell her how I feel, thing is I don't want it to be awkward.

I guess I'll ask her next time why she asked who I live with and if she wanted to ask me out, I wouldn't have declined it.

Furthermore, I know it's morally and legally wrong for patients and nurses/doctors to have a relationship, but I just feel attracted to her that way. I obviously won't flat out say it to her (unless on my final day whenever that'll be I'll confess to her).

 

[impeeza]

Just be polite and brave, go ahead!

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it's better to regret of the things you do than the things you don't.

 

[Silterpy]

Just ask her out the last time you see her. the worst she could say is no, and it's better to get it off your chest.

 

[CMDreamer]

Ask her who she lives with and what she'll be doing next weekend, and if she say something like nothing "important", ask her out.

But as already mentioned, be polite.

 

[Hanafuda]

Don't "confess to her." Just ask her out. Suggest you'd like to take her along for something you like to do (not a weird thing), or some public outdoor thing like a local festival. Less pressure. And if she turns down that invitation, don't feel too bad about it. Nurses have been unintentionally getting male patients interested since the dawn of time.

 

[JuanMena]

She was being nice. Don't confuse things.

 

[RedColoredStars]

Girls with good jobs don't care much for guys that hang out on a video game forum all day.

 

[ZeroT21]

Just straight out ask her if she's available

 

[qqq1]

I had an operation on a toe last year. For reasons I don't understand this meant I couldn't even have on underwear during the procedure. After as I was waking up the very pretty nurse who was helping me moved my bed sheet and my gown had slid way up so she saw my equipment. It's not fair, she should at least have to go to dinner with me for that.

 

[Marc_LFD]

Ask her who she lives with and what she'll be doing next weekend, and if she say something like nothing "important", ask her out.

But as already mentioned, be polite.

And I'm always polite, even to people who may not.

Thanks for the feedback.

 

[Excitedguy]

Be confident and break the ice with her and see what happens.

 

[duwen]

I think it's totally natural to crush on people that give you care during and after medical procedures... it's one of the only upsides to facing life threatening procedures... that and all the drugs.
The nurses and drugs were instrumental in getting me through all my cancer treatment - however I understood the professional boundaries and would have never pursued any of them romantically (the nurses that is, not the drugs - me and the drugs are married now).

 

[RedColoredStars]

I think it's totally natural to crush on people that give you care during and after medical procedures... it's one of the only upsides to facing life threatening procedures... that and all the drugs.
The nurses and drugs were instrumental in getting me through all my cancer treatment - however I understood the professional boundaries and would have never pursued any of them romantically (the nurses that is, not the drugs - me and the drugs are married now).

I agree on this. Having a crush on a nurse or doctor is something that happens quite often with people and there are psychological reasons for it. I personally wouldn't ever persue it, and especailly not while they are on the job. If it's something a person feels they "need" to persue or it will bother them to no end, I would very strongly suggest doing it outside of the work environment. Like if you happen to see them at the grocery store, bar, movie theater, park, etc.

 

[Marc_LFD]

Today was the last day and I didn't see her, so I didn't get to ask her or thank her for being kind treating it (I was once treated by a male nurse and he was rough).

Feel saddened not knowing the answer to it. Maybe it wasn't meant to be, maybe it was... I'll never know.

I do wish I'd see her by luck again, but very unlikely.

My fault simply not asking right there and then: "Why?"

Sigh.

 

[AkiraKurusu]

So you're...nursing a crush on her?

BA-DUM-TISH. G'night, everybody!

 

[Dust2dust]

Today was the last day and I didn't see her, so I didn't get to ask her or thank her for being kind treating it (I was once treated by a male nurse and he was rough).

Feel saddened not knowing the answer to it. Maybe it wasn't meant to be, maybe it was... I'll never know.

I do wish I'd see her by luck again, but very unlikely.

My fault simply not asking right there and then: "Why?"

Sigh.

Don't feel too bad about it. It's probably better for her, professionally. If it had worked out and her employer found out, they might conclude she was the one who got a crush on you, and used her position to get what she wanted. This could be used as an excuse for sanctions, if they already had something against her. You never know. If you liked her, and wish the best for her, this is probably the best outcome, sadly for you though, but you'll find someone else.

 

[RedColoredStars]

I think it's for the best. It was all kinda creepy anyway. Asking someone out at their job, especially in health care, would have only put her in a bad spot to have to turn you down. You would have made things uncomfortable. Your feelings were most likely just due to the patient/nurse interactions. She was being nice because it's part of her job. You started crushing because she was being kind and taking care of you. It's a common thing, but that doesn't mean it's all okay. There are rules against this sort of thing that could have caused her to lose her medical license.

 

[Ligeia]

I feel for you as I have a somewhat similar crush these days, and I do tend to have trouble telling if people are just being nice or if there's something more. I suggest to casually ask her out, a big confession or anything too serious might look a bit scary. Since she's been asking you about who you live with, you could also ask her the same question and see where the conversation goes.

edit : didn't see you were finished with your treatment !

 

[impeeza]

Today was the last day and I didn't see her, so I didn't get to ask her or thank her for being kind treating it (I was once treated by a male nurse and he was rough).

Feel saddened not knowing the answer to it. Maybe it wasn't meant to be, maybe it was... I'll never know.

I do wish I'd see her by luck again, but very unlikely.

My fault simply not asking right there and then: "Why?"

Sigh.

You always can come back whit a bag of candies, thank her for all the good things and ask her if she like go out for a coffee...

DO NOT GIVE UP

 

[BigOnYa]

Or get hit by a bus, so you have to go back to see her. Jk. Candies, flowers and/or a thank you card would be a good start. Now you're not a patient of hers, should be fair game.