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  1. Yes, Make spanking illegal

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  2. No, a parent should have the right to spank their child

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  1. DeadlyFoez

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    Should it be illegal to spank your child?
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    I was just wondering how you guys feel about spanking a child that has seriously misbehaved. I am not about abusing a child, making them bruised or bloody or anything more intense than a spank that only causes fleeting pain.

    In my area, spanking is perfectly legal, but I also know many places that spanking a child is considered abuse.

    Please partake in the poll and give us the reason for your answer in the comments.

    I thank you all for taking your time. Have a great day!
     
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  2. kumikochan

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    I know in countries like France it is illegal to even slap someone on the wrist but i know in Belgium it is considered fine. I guess it depends where you live but spanking is a bit 2 much but a slap on the wrist should be okay.
     
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    If spanking or anything to the effect of hitting/slapping is the only way one has to get the message across to one's child, then one should not be a parent.
     
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    For this "Question" you´ll get burned alive here in Austria.
    Spanking a child,your OWN,thats even worse (and just as adults in first line women) is Number ONE on the list of the worst things here.
    Not murdering,not robbery,not raping........

    It takes too much time and lines to describe this "attitude" for spanking that has drastic changed in the last 20 years in austria.

    For me,too much.
    They simply can not find a middle ground or compromise.....
     
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    Abuse is abuse. Hitting a child over absolutely anything is just wrong. I am talking more like if the behavior was extreme, like that child was trying to drown your cat in the toilet, or you have already done every punishment from timeouts, grounding, crappy chores and manual labor and the kid is still grossly misbehaving.
     
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    While spanking a child is probably not illegal where I live, I think it sends a confusing message to the child. "If my dad (or mom) loves me like he says, why does he hurt me like that?" He might also develop a fear of doing anything slightly wrong, just in case the parent snaps, and spanks him. Growing up in a semi-terrorized state is not a good thing. And there are so many harmless ways to punish misbehaviours from a child. Just need to be creative and hit (not physically) where it will hurt him (again not physically) the most. And I don't mean screaming at him or demeaning him either. Just taking away some privileges should do the trick.
     
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    Have them remain grounded and revoke further privileges (no more games, no more chocolate, etc. etc. you can't run out of these really) eventually they will be desperate to get out of that situation themselves, which is better than not even being convinced, just coerced because a spank physically hurts.
     
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    Spanking should not be illegal.

    Spanking a kid and hitting him are different things. I believe spanking does good and is needed at times. Nowadays people are too afraid of everything.

    Giving your kid a love tap sometimes, it won't harm the kid and it'll help him learn. I don't mean beating them up, which most people seem to think it's what spanking is all about.
     
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    I think spanking a kid for misbehaving is a terrible way to parent, but I'm uncertain if it should be an illegal offense. I'm not sure I like the idea of the government decreeing how adults should raise their children, though, at the same time, you really shouldn't be smacking a hit to "teach" them lessons imo.
     
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    If you have the right stance and Tone of Voice there is no need in most cases and Grounding does not work just creates more Anger and Frustration a good slap puts the child in its place and move on dont do it again.

    As a child I was a Devil and got my fair share and Love my Family and Respect them something that is lacking nowadays No Honor , Loyalty or Respect.

    If you dont Love me You will Fear me You Fear me because you have done something wrong not through my doing your own.
    One of these Days you will thank me and that is so True.
     
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    Some therapists now say that a grounding longer than 2 weeks becomes ineffective.

    My wifes nephew kept havign issues with porn, constantly stealing other people devices and looking up porn on them. You could imagine my wifes face when she took her daughter to cheerleading practice and her daughter pulled out her ipod to show off pictures of her cat and there was dozens of porn pics that all these 8 year old girls saw. I struggled with the boy for 5 years to deal with his rampant porn issue that was causing major problems within the family.

    Try to tell me that these kids do not need a spank...


    IIRC. The kid in the second video was caught keying cars or something like that. The original video is much longer and it shows the kid swearing at everyone and absolutely freaking out. Yes, the parents are terrible as well and need to get handed some punishment too. But many times the child has just gotten too out of control no matter how good of a job the parent did.

    Some people go around their whole life talking shit to people and thinking "Yeah, you can't do shit to me" and they keep instigating people. It isn't until someone finally snaps and punching them in the mouth do they finally smarten the hell up. I know when I was a kid I was quite the little shit. I certainly needed my ass handed to me, and I would say that I have learned quite well from those lessons and never repeated those behaviors. My father has whooped my ass multiple times when I did some rather terrible things, and I deserved it, but I also learned it.

    I feel spanking a child is alright when it is used as a last measure.
    Not every child responds well to being spanked like I did. Some children are just sociopaths and things like that doesn't matter to them and they don't give a damn and will do whatever they want... and then end up in prison later on in life.
     
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    Nobody (I hope) would endorse spanking as 'the only way' of disciplining. It should be near the end of the spectrum, reserved for extreme wrongs or when other efforts haven't produced a change in behavior. But to dismiss anyone who resorts to spanking as being unfit to be a parent at all is too absolute. I've raised two, a son who is now 26, a daughter who is 15. I spanked my son on two occasions. The first time was when he stuffed about 10 gamecube discs in his pocket and snuck them out of the house to take to a friend's after a game had been stolen from him the previous day (he couldn't say which 'friend' it was who took it). He'd been told not to take his games out of the house anymore without permission. He ended up playing football too, and all the discs were ruined. About $300 wasted. The second time was when he, at about 13 years old, hit his two year old sister. I don't regret either instance. I don't think a stern reprimand, grounding and etc. would've been appropriate or effective at conveying how serious a mistake had been made.
     
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    My daughter was kicking and spitting on her bus driver while the bus was moving. Damn straight my daughter got a few well placed spankings. My daughter was jeopardizing the safety of everyone on the bus because she wanted to act out. Not only the safety part, but you damn well do not spit on people or kick someone that has not attempted to harm you first. I do not regret that. She never spit on anyone again after that.
    A neighbor had called DCYF on me because I did spank her. The woman from DCYF shrugged and said "I would have done the same if it was my child".
     
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    Should any human be able to reproduce if they're not going to educate their spoiled children?

    Consider that.

    I grew with my parents "spanking" me. This is a traditional Mexico's way to educate children.
    I grew up just fine, and thought I've promised to myself to never hurt my children, I'm willing to do so if they're deviating from the right path.
    MAYBE I NEEDED MORE VIOLENCE IN MY EDUCATION. Perhaps my life would've been much different if my parents had the guts to do so.

    This sounds weird? Maybe, but it's the truth.

    Children are too stupid to let them do whatever the heck they want to. Some of them, if not most of them, needs a nice leather belt on their asses. Should be illegal? NO
    Should be legal to let some stupid teenager get pregnant and let her choose not to take care of her children, let alone educating them in the first place? YES
     
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    For me, the feeling of my parents being angry or disappointed in me hurt a lot more than a spanking would.
    I think spanking is illegal here, and even if it wasn't I would never do that.
     
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    That second video reminded me of something that happened to me once. I was in my 30's. I was in a book store and just browsing the books, like all the other customers, when suddenly an old lady (problably 60 something) started to try to hit me. I was flabbergasted by the ridiculous situation, and was just blocking her attempts. What else could I do? I wasn't going to hit her back. Eventually, she just calmed down and went away. The other customers were just as puzzled as I was. I guess mental illness was the issue here. She must have thought I was the devil, or something... :unsure:
     
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    Would I do it? Probably not. It does not see me have some kind of visceral negative reaction like some of the words here would seem to indicate some posters have. At the same time there are far better ways of achieving things in your otherwise normal children -- children are always falling over so physical pain is nothing much to them, most don't have strong mental barriers yet (even those that have some lack others) so far less tiring and far more effective. Don't know if I would call the physical stuff entirely ineffective though. If I were to do the physical ones then stress positions, possibly also coupled with some good embarrassment*, would be where I go, or possibly martial training -- punching ice water really sucks.
    If my teenager kid thought themselves a big one and wanted to put on some gloves and step in a ring with me. All for that.

    *throw a tantrum in the supermarket? I will be standing here for the next 5 minutes doing a puzzle on this cereal box, you will be in an embarrassing stress position.

    Should it be illegal? Would not be a law I support. Not entirely sure what grounds I would object upon -- does not have any particularly clear free speech, personal liberty, "liberty to raise my kids the way I feel" cases from where I sit but a combo of the lot probably would get there.

    Should I be foolish enough to knock someone up and stick around to raise the results would I stay with someone that thought it a good plan? Wouldn't be a dealbreaker, probably would question it though. Wouldn't question a friend directly.

    Limits? Intentionally causing scars is right out. Blood is not much better. Welts is probably a bit excessive. Some modifiers for age as well. This also speaks to why it is not the most effective -- if what you get is no different to what you get when otherwise general rough and tumble is the order of the day then does it mean that much?

    Related. Corporal punishment in schools. Absolutely not. No objection to knackering kids out by having them run or pedal or swim or something though.
     
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    Just going to leave this here
     
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    I remember as a kid my principal at the private christian school I went to would spank children, usually rougher than the parents would do it.

    I absolutely object to any school figure spanking my child, but if my child brings a knife to school and is trying to stab someone, then yes anyone please punch my kid in the face before my child hurts someone else or gets shot by a cop.
     
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