Should spanking your child be illegal?

[gamesquest1]

Spanking is abuse. It's that simple.
I'm disgusted at how many people voted no. Guys, spanking can scar a child for life. I still remember when I was spanked by my dad's wife as a kid and I still harbor some resentment for him deep down for doing nothing about it. I've gotten over it, but I'll never be able to 100% forgive him for it.

see i think its something only real family should ever be allowed to do (i assume by the way you phrased it she isn't your mother), and as in my post earlier only for real life or death situations, but i feel like as in your case if you receive a smack for something and you don't feel like it was justified your never going to get past it, personally i know my dad loved me and he would never do it just a some way to get me to shut up while he watched TV or something, might a stern word have worked......possibly, but if i answer honestly....probably not, and it could have been me hit by the car if i continued playing the game

 

[The Real Jdbye]

see i think its something only real family should ever be allowed to do (i assume by the way you phrased it she isn't your mother), and as in my post earlier only for real life or death situations, but i feel like as in your case if you receive a smack for something and you don't feel like it was justified your never going to get past it, personally i know my dad loved me and he would never do it just a some way to get me to shut up while he watched TV or something, might a stern word have worked......possibly, but if i answer honestly....probably not, and it could have been me hit by the car if i continued playing the game

He hit me sometimes when he was mad at me, and that was mostly just scary, but spanking is on a whole other level.

 

[gamesquest1]

He hit me sometimes when he was mad at me, and that was mostly just scary, but spanking is on a whole other level.

i guess i will have to look it up, i always just assumed "spanking" was a US term for getting a smacked butt

 

[The Real Jdbye]

i guess i will have to look it up, i always just assumed "spanking" was a US term for getting a smacked butt

It is.
But she did it with a wood branch.

 

[FAST6191]

Guys, spanking can scar a child for life.

So can any number of things, including mental and financial punishments. The question then becomes is it so likely to cause such harms, and for what results?

 

[The Real Jdbye]

So can any number of things, including mental and financial punishments. The question then becomes is it so likely to cause such harms, and for what results?

It doesn't serve a purpose, nor do the other 2, there are much better way to punish your kids.

 

[gamesquest1]

It is.
But she did it with a wood branch.

ok well i would class the use of any sort of weapon more of an assault than a spank, but i guess its a more broad term, i guess it all boils down to specifics though, a tap on the leg with a slipper would be less harmful than a full force smacked arse, if someone is in pain for more than a few minutes i think you have used too much force

 

[FAST6191]

It doesn't serve a purpose, nor do the other 2, there are much better way to punish your kids.

I will ignore the "no purpose" thing for now. If something physical is off the table, if mental things are off the table and if financial things (though to some extent that probably is a subset of mental) then like what?

 

[Frankbel]

I love spanking my children. I wait for their mistakes so that I can punish them.
Usually, for small mistake, I spank them. Bigger mistake, then I slap them.
Unfortunately, they are growing and their mistakes becomes rarer.
One day I shall miss this genuine fun!

 

[DeadlyFoez]

I love spanking my children. I wait for their mistakes so that I can punish them.
Usually, for small mistake, I spank them. Bigger mistake, then I slap them.
Unfortunately, they are growing and their mistakes becomes rarer.
One day I shall miss this genuine fun!

Start using jumper cables.

 

[CallmeBerto]

Damn right it should be illegal. It is no difference then abuse as far as the research shows



Here are some useful links I think everyone should take a look at -

http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifes...-child-outcomes-study-20160428-htmlstory.html

http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/pediatrics/101/4/723.full.pdf

https://www.livescience.com/7895-children-spanked-iqs.html

http://www.repeal43.org/docs/Pediatrics-2012-Afifi-peds-2011-2947.pdf

 

[The Real Jdbye]

I love spanking my children. I wait for their mistakes so that I can punish them.
Usually, for small mistake, I spank them. Bigger mistake, then I slap them.
Unfortunately, they are growing and their mistakes becomes rarer.
One day I shall miss this genuine fun!

Get out.

I will ignore the "no purpose" thing for now. If something physical is off the table, if mental things are off the table and if financial things (though to some extent that probably is a subset of mental) then like what?

Start confiscating anything that gives them enjoyment until they stop. That's what most people do.

 

[DeadlyFoez]

Start confiscating anything that gives them enjoyment until they stop. That's what most people do.

some kids will just not care and then just do negative behaviors to get attention. I have been dealing with that with 2 kids. Therapists say it is normal. So they basically legitimize the behavior.

 

[FAST6191]

Start confiscating anything that gives them enjoyment until they stop. That's what most people do.

Is that not some combo of mental and financial? Even assuming it is its own thing then I am not sure why mental and financial are off the cards.

 

[Frankbel]

Get out.

Any problems?

Start confiscating anything that gives them enjoyment until they stop. That's what most people do.

With my children it does not work. They just have fun with something else. It is just irritating how they don't care about the soft punishment.

 

[The Real Jdbye]

Is that not some combo of mental and financial? Even assuming it is its own thing then I am not sure why mental and financial are off the cards.

You're not taking them away permanently, just confiscating them. Nothing of value is lost. I guess you could say it's mental related but it's not actually harming them.

some kids will just not care and then just do negative behaviors to get attention. I have been dealing with that with 2 kids. Therapists say it is normal. So they basically legitimize the behavior.

Yeah some kids are just impossible. I don't have a solution for that, but I can say spanking isn't it.

Any problems?

With my children it does not work. They just have fun with something else. It is just irritating how they don't care about the soft punishment.

Then take away those things too. If they go outside and play then at least you got them to do something healthy for once.

 

[Frankbel]

Damn right it should be illegal. It is no difference then abuse as far as the research shows



Here are some useful links I think everyone should take a look at -

http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifes...-child-outcomes-study-20160428-htmlstory.html

http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/pediatrics/101/4/723.full.pdf

https://www.livescience.com/7895-children-spanked-iqs.html

http://www.repeal43.org/docs/Pediatrics-2012-Afifi-peds-2011-2947.pdf

I do not trust this pseudo-science. I have studied some of this crap as school teacher. I hate pedagogy, it's producing generations of children without spine.

 

[CallmeBerto]

@Frankbel I would disagree, generations of children without spine are being produced because of safe spaces not because they weren't hit as a child. You want your child to grow up with a spin? Teach them to face their problems head on and stop relying on others to solve their issues.

 

[Frankbel]

@Frankbel I would disagree, generations of children without spine are being produced because of safe spaces not because they weren't hit as a child. You want your child to grow up with a spin? Teach them to face their problems head on and stop relying on others to solve their issues.

You don't need to tell me how to handle my children.
And I have complained about pedagogy. In the last 20 years I have observed an evident decrease in the quality of education. Both at high school and university level.

 

[CallmeBerto]

You don't need to tell me how to handle my children.

I wasn't, I was speaking in general just as you were in your reply to me. Raise your child how you want.