cuddling, a discussion.

can cuddling be platonic?

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  • only with someone of the same gender.

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  • only between female friends.

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Note: I have more questions, but there was no more room.

For my part, as a straight man, I think that if more men would admit that they want to be cuddled, they would have much more successful relationships on an emotional level.

That said, I really look foreword to seeing what you guys think!
 

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Does it matter?
I can always switch.
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I agree with Rydian. Women can hold men too. It feels good.
 

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I think cuddling is a pretty intimate act. If you were in a relationship and your significant other cuddled with someone else, I'd say that goes along the lines of cheating.
 

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I think cuddling can be platonic depending on the friendship.. I mean: I think cuddling is like a hug, or just warm thoughts about eachother... like... "aww my cat died" "oh, com'ere" -hugs- something like that... And I think that's okay depending on the friendship!
And... Why wouldn't it be okay for a man to ask to cuddle?
 

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I wish I got hugs more often
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I need a "Free Hugs" t-shirt to wear around. Maybe a few folks would go for it... maybe...

In other hug related news. I do believe most hugs are platonic and a few are intimate. Depends on your relationship with the person and how close you/they are willing to get.
 

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I like cuddles.

It can be platonic depending on the person and I don't mind if I was with someone and she hugged someone though obviously not one of those long hugs.

Hugging someone on the settee while watching TV is something I miss from a relationship. Sadly my female friends are in relationships so its not something I can get from them which I understand but a little warm embracing hug will do.

ProtoKun7 said:
Not that I get to that much.
Get over here big guy.

Don't worry its gay as in happy.


QUOTE(Rydian @ Oct 22 2010, 08:29 PM) I wanna' be held for once, godfuckingdamnit. Saying it's the guy's job is sexist.
Yeah that, sometimes its good to be held and if guys feel weird about it then they have issues.
 

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Requesting a cuddle from another guy in my neck of the woods will get you beaten and tied to a city lamp post.

Not saying that's the way it should be: just stating how it is.
 

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There's another type of cuddle too, not platonic or romantic. I cuddle my 6 month old Baby all the time and I love that.

On the other cuddle types, I think a platonic cuddle is a hug, isn't it? I hug my male friends quite often but we never cuddle. Come to think of it, I never get cuddled, I'm the one who does the cuddling in my relationship! Hell, I want a cuddle!
 

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When you're talking about cuddling a baby, it's a little different.
I love it when my baby nephew falls asleep laying on my chest.
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What I'm referring to is the case of two adult males.
 

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Exaltys said:
I think cuddling is a pretty intimate act. If you were in a relationship and your significant other cuddled with someone else, I'd say that goes along the lines of cheating.
personally, I wouldn't mind if my (hypothetical) gf were to cuddle with someone else, so long as she was not actually having sex with said other person--who knows, I might even join the non-sexual cuddle!

Issac said:
And... Why wouldn't it be okay for a man to ask to cuddle?
For some reason it is not perceived as manly for a man to want to snuggle/cuddle, especially after sex. Search me as to why....

Mesiskope said:
what if they were the same gender?
I assume you mean: what if they are both guys? Since I can't imagine anyone finding the sight of two women cuddling even remotely distressing....

To answer you question with my opinion:
So?
Some man bonding never killed anyone.

QUOTE(ProtoKun7 @ Oct 22 2010, 03:00 PM)
I like hugging.

Not that I get to that much.
*manly hug*
 

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Jamstruth said:
I wish I got hugs more often
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I need a "Free Hugs" t-shirt to wear around. Maybe a few folks would go for it... maybe...

In other hug related news. I do believe most hugs are platonic and a few are intimate. Depends on your relationship with the person and how close you/they are willing to get.
*cuddle*

QUOTE(SixtySixHundred @ Oct 22 2010, 03:52 PM) There's another type of cuddle too, not platonic or romantic. I cuddle my 6 month old Baby all the time and I love that.

On the other cuddle types, I think a platonic cuddle is a hug, isn't it? I hug my male friends quite often but we never cuddle. Come to think of it, I never get cuddled, I'm the one who does the cuddling in my relationship! Hell, I want a cuddle!
*cuddle*
 

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Gaydrian said:
Sadly my female friends are in relationships so its not something I can get from them which I understand but a little warm embracing hug will do.Yeah, I'm possessive so I agree with no full-on cuddling others if you're taken, but a hug is a hug, hugs spread happiness. Spread hugs.

QUOTE(SixtySixHundred @ Oct 22 2010, 04:52 PM) Come to think of it, I never get cuddled, I'm the one who does the cuddling in my relationship! Hell, I want a cuddle!
Thiiiis.
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And I grew tall quickly so it seems when I do get cuddles (which I haven't in over four years, I move a lot and people scare me IRL) I'm always the one doing the holding because the other way around wouldn't work well physically.
 

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SixtySixHundred said:
There's another type of cuddle too, not platonic or romantic. I cuddle my 6 month old Baby all the time and I love that.
I love cuddling my daughter also.
 

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Vulpes Abnocto said:
When you're talking about cuddling a baby, it's a little different.
I love it when my baby nephew falls asleep laying on my chest.
happy.gif


What I'm referring to is the case of two adult males.

I'm fairly sure a cuddle with another man would be a tad too homo-erotic for me. A hug with a male friend, however, can be quite a manly thing to do.

Also, do straight women cuddle each other or is that just hugging too?
 

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