Whoa, that's not true. I'm so horrified right now... How can you say something like that? I care for you and I don't want to see your life go down the hole when you've got me and all these people on this forum who care about you.
I don't think he needs counseling; I know he needs counseling. And 2 (10) (50) (600) people who can help with that. He's been in isolation so long that his pessimism is unbelievably horrific; we've got to help him snap out of it. It's obvious he can't do it himself.
Perhaps i'm alone in thinking it, but essentially it sounds like you need some counselling to deal with emotional and anger issues. Yes she cheated on you, but up to this point do you feel that she's been happy in your relationship?
In isolation you sound like an abusive, hot-headed spouse(as Foxi says flying off the handle and hitting someone is only appropriate if you're 5) who's probably quite erratic and scary to be around. You need to deal with your own issues first and then deal with those that deal with those around you. Getting counselling and living apart is a sensible first step to getting things back together.
I don't think he needs counseling; I know he needs counseling. And 2 (10) (50) (600) people who can help with that. He's been in isolation so long that his pessimism is unbelievably horrific; we've got to help him snap out of it. It's obvious he can't do it himself.