You know you're trans when...

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Feb 25, 2012
  1. ShakeBunny
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    ...you're not quite sure what your name is anymore.

    ...as soon as you come out as a transguy, you start buying dresses for when you're a drag queen.

    ...you go to a gay club, and no one knows if you're a gay male, or a gay female. (Okay, so this one actually happens to me a lot.)

    ...a church group tries to approach you and all you can think is, "I'm sorry but your religion doesn't believe in me."

    ...you are glad you are bisexual, because at least people won't be confused about what you like.

    ...athletic fit T-shirts are your enemy.

    ...you're in a same-sex relationship with someone of a different gender. (This is true for me.)

    ...you can share boxers with your partner as you are both the same size.

    ...you default to "human" when someone asks who/what you are in hopes it educates them.

    ...when you're introducing yourself to friends of relatives (who don't know), you forget your old name.

    ...Youtube keeps directing you to the Trans-Siberian Orchestra.

    ...you go to the store to buy aftershave and tampons, both for you.

    ...you not only want to go through puberty a second time, but you're willing to go through seeing a therapist for months in order to do so.

    ...you're in such deep stealth you consistantly bitch about periods you don't even have.

    ...you dress in so many layers you start feeling like a .PSD file.

    ...you ask a store employee to refill the toilet paper in the restroom, and they ask, "Which one?"

    ...any form that asks you to identify your gender stops you dead in your tracks.

    ...the phrase, 'duct tape can fix anything' couldn't be more true.

    ...there are people who expect you to undergo major surgery before they will respect who you are.

    ...someone tried to insult you by tell you you look like a boy/girl, but you are flattered because you were told you look like a boy/girl.

    Just felt like throwing these out here.

    Try to think up some more! :D
     
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    Woah. A huge list. About the "...you ask a store employee to refill the toilet paper in the restroom, and they ask, "Which one?"". I question. Which toilet do you go to o.o? No offense intended. You dont have to answer this if you dont want to. Just really curious.
    Keep it up with your new life :yay:
     
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    Depends on how I'm dressed, who I'm with, and where I am.
     
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    ... Someone saying “if you grew your hair out you would make a pretty hot chick” made your day untill they went on to say “just kidding”

    ... Someone calls you handsome and you wish they’d said pretty.

    ... All you’re non-internet friends know you by your given name and all your online friends know you by your chosen name.

    ... You unconsciously write all your papers using gender-neutral pronouns… and later have to explain what ‘sie’ and ‘hir’ mean to your professor.

    ... Your dad says, with disdain, that your new hairstyle makes you look like a boy/girl and you take it as a compliment.

    ... Your class discusses gender, and what they say makes you lose faith in humanity.

    ... You know more about steroid hormones and their administration than your Biology teacher.
     
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    Wow... I don't want to be rude, but so much of what you wrote in response to my little quips is just... wrong.

    1. Sex and gender are very much so connected to one's name in a huge way. Our society has name which are strictly for men, names for women, and names either can have. For a trans person like me, this can cause a huge problem when the name you have coorelates too well with the sex you were born with. I was born male, and my legal name is Ben. So, when I came out I obviously needed to change it to match my new self, right? However, it's not as easy as just going by a new name. Everyone around you has to know why, and the trans person in question needs to be extremely patient while those people learn to use that name consistantly. I've been out for well over a year, and despite pleading to the ones I care about to be more considerate when they address me, most of them still use my legal name instead of my preferred name. So, this becomes an extremely huge issue when I'm dressed as a girl, and one of my buddies calls me Ben, and someone else immediately finds out I've not been a girl my whole life.

    2. I agree that not all trans-people dress in accordance with their 'true' (the word is true. Saying it's 'preferred' assumes being trans is a choice, which it is not) gender. I am actually one of those people. About 90% of the time I still dress like a boy, simply because I like the clothes. They're comfortable, and I look good in them. It is this fact why when I go to a gay club people have a hard time telling, because my physical body is far too androgynous for people to figure out 'what' I am with that information alone, so the turn to what I'm wearing for clues. Since I'm dressed as a boy, it's more difficult to tell, because about 95% of the cis-gendered women there are also dressed in male clothing.

    3. As far as church goes, dress up as the opposite gender and go to your Sunday service. People /do/ stare, and most, not all, do have a problem with it.

    4. I realize sexual orientation and gender identity do not coorelate at all, but most do not. This is convenient for those of us who are bisexual, because when they come out, they don't have to worry about people assuming they're attracted to one gender or the other. I myself am a lesbian, but most assume that just because I'm a trans-girl I must be attracted to guys.

    5. Athletic T's can be troublesome for anyone with gender issues, simply because they are very revealing. A trans-man (born a girl, but transitioning towards male), has a problem because they do not want their chest to show, because it can give them away as being born female. A trans-woman (born a boy, but transitioning towards female) could have a problem with them because they are not completely 'out' yet, and can't afford to let certain people know they're trans just yet. This is true for me. My clothing options when dressing as a male have drastically diminished since starting hormone therapy.

    6. When one becomes used to using their new name (which they actually like), it's normal to forget what their old name was. I've done this a few times.

    7. Transpeople for whatever reason do tend to wear more layers than other in order to create a certain appearance. Like me, I wear more layers to build up the way my chest looks, but for a trans-man, he may wear a chest binder in order to compress and conceil his breasts in order to help him pass better.

    8, Calling a trans-person's appearance in their prefferred gender role a 'disguise' is so incrediably inconsiderate. When I dress as a girl, it's not a costume, or a way to hide anything, it's an expression of who I am, and how I prefer to be percieved by the general public. I'm just dressing the way I feel I look best and am most happy, the same way everyone does.

    9. Forms which require gender disclosure really are a trans-person's worst nightmare, because most times we do in fact have to check the box for the sex we were born with as opposed to the gender we actually are. This is extremely upsetting, especially when the person in question is presenting themselves as their true gender, and the person reading the form sees the difference. It means yet at least one more person has to know you're not quite what you should be, and I can say from personal experience that this is depressing.

    10. I can and do blame people for wanting me to conform to the general order of things they are used to. I might be trans, but despite what I have and don't have I am a girl. People who expect documentation and a 100% 'correct' physical self could not be any more closed-minded. I have good friends who refuse to treat me like a girl because I have not had surgery. Being okay with that, and not blaming them just isn't fair on my part. It's like saying, "It's good that you've come out, and found who you really are, but I'm not going to accept you or treat you how you want to be treated until you spend years of you life and thousands upon thousands of dollars to make it official."

    11. And finally, correct me if I'm wrong, but I assume that 'mister...miss?' comment is directed towards myself. If so, I can even begin to say how incredibly rude and inconsiderate you're being in saying that sort of thing. I am a girl, a lady, and I expect to be treated as such. If you aren't open to that, that's fine, but you do not have to be a jerk about it.

    Anyway, I suppose I'm finished ranting. I realize this novel probably won't change how close-minded you percieve people like me, but hell, at least I tried.
     
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    Damn. I actually thought this was about transforming like in Power Rangers. D=
    Seriously tho, I have no probs with transgenders, especially seeing as the body and the soul are too different things so whilst your body makes you one think, your heart and soul tells you you're another. z.z
    But as for me both my heart and soul feel the same gender and I only do drag for fun sometimes (a festival we have in my country where we mask ourselves kinda like halloween but more cheerful), although I purpousefully make a crappy job at it for fun.
     
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    @ShakeBunny

    I've sent you a PM clarifying what I wanted to say, sorry if I offended you - I didn't mean to, it was a matter of me putting words together crudely rather then some planned and thought-through maliciousness. ;) I've since removed my post as I realized that we strayed a little bit off-topic. :P
     
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    It's no trouble.

    Forgiven. :)
     
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    ...when the first step to applying your makeup is making sure you're cleanly shaven.
     
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    So are you a guy or a girl? :S
     
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    She's M>F, IIRC.
     
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    I am a girl.

    The specifics of that are sort of personal. :P
     
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    Damn, I wanted to compare specs.

    Anyways, linked this thread to a friend of mine, hopefully they'll take heart in it.
     
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    Which body parts do you have?
     
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    That's really my own business, and no one else's unless I /really/ get to know that person.

    And.... I'm kinda already involved, so no dice. :P
     
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    Creating a Trans topic on a generally non-Trans board. This is gonna go well. (I'm a cynic)

    I think Firegrey has demonstrated a "you know your Trans when..." thing though. People won't stop asking about private things like that.
     
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    Haha, this is very true. :P
     

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