Hello fellow tempers!

So, I'm finally in a stable relationship after quite some time. This is the first time I've had anything like this last this long; a month and a half to be precise (not that long, I know).
Everything is going great except there's this "thing" that slightly bothers me. The thing part being her male best friend. They've known each other for about 10 years and she told me that he's like a big brother figure to her. Obviously, I'm a bit worried.
I know that jealousy is not a good thing but I just fear losing what I have. And yes, I've already heard it: "it shows signs of insecurity; you'll put her off.." blahblahblah. I try my best not to show it, but it is how it is.
She hasn't yet introduced me to him but I'm curious to see how they act around each other, just so I could judge the matter as it is and not how my mind chooses to see it.

Should I worry? Do I ask her to introduce me to him? Have you had any experience with handling this sort of stuff?

Just curious to know what you guys think about this. Thanks!

 

I asked for constructive advice, not unstructured criticism. Thanks for the input though.

 

the constructive advice would be , "calm the fuck down and don't do anything stupid if u don't wanna ruin it " they have been friends for many years before you , have some sanity , they're just friends , if anything , she would chose him over you , and i can see why ,you're too suspicious , no one is into that.

 

It's easy to see such a thing as threatening, but at the same time, you have to let that go. Disapproval of someone she's known that long, let alone jealousy will sink the relationship faster than the titanic. You shouldn't need to judge the matter at all, and instead trust her.

 

do that. ask her to introduce him.. meet him, see if you can also be friend with him...
but do this in an honest way, don't be a fuck head that just want to be friend with him to controll your gf...
i mean.. meet him and see if you also like him, maybe you get a new friend?

i don't see no harm if my girlfriend had a relationship with a guy since they were little kids... however. try to ask and talk if they had any experiences like dating or seen each other naked, or touched each other in parts... or tried stuff...
if they had some sexual experiences, bad news for you..
i mean... if they know each other for 10 years, and are too confortable with each other, isn't something i would be confortable with...
if this happens, then there will be loads of problems for all parts (you, she and him.. someone will get hurt or start some shit)
in this cenario, you are pretty much fucked, unless you are ok with o polygamy relationship


if their relationship is really just friends and respect each other and they never tried sexual stuff, then there is no issue... and it's totally unfair if you come asking her to leave him.. (you can go bye bye really easy if you try to stop that relationship)

 

The last thing I want is to be telling her who she should be seeing or not, so controlling her is definitely not my goal here.
I had an unfaithful encounter in the past and I'm just worried it might happen again, so I'm trying to be extra cautious without causing too much chaos. Thanks for your share

 

If he has at least a little respect for you then don't worry about it. If not, then be slightly worried.

 

That stuff that you heard about insecurity is true.

That bitch is yours and you need to tell her that if she's acting inappropriately with her "friend".

 

First off, lol never ask your girl if she had sexual contact with her bestfriend if you can't handle the answer because thats just going to make things worse. The less he knows the better in his case. He already is worrying about something that most likely hasn't or wont happen. I told my girlfriend in the beginning of our relationship that I don't like and won't tolerate cheating. If she ever cheats on me its done. Adios amigo. Your a man dude take your role and own that shit. Girls want a man that are MEN. Not someone that's always in there feelings lol. If they wanted that they can just date a women xD. Sounds to me that her best friend is a pussy xD He's been trying to be with her for over 10yrs and it hasn't worked lol. Like i stated in my last post no guy just wakes up one day and is like hmmm i want a girl as my best friend. No shit doesn't happen. Every guy that has a girl as a friend wants to hit that shit. That's literally there sole purpose of that friendship. He just really sucks at it.

 

so just suggest she invites him for a movie evening and then dont act like an ass if they understand one another better and have inside jokes.
if she wanted to be with him, she probably would be.

 

...As a woman, hearing that guys don't want women as best friends is baffling. I mean...not everything has to be romance...right?