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So less so the actual person being masculine and more so the forcing of a person to fallow said norm. as a tl;dr?The greatest misinterpretation to the term "toxic masculinity" is that it applies to masculinity as a whole when that isn't the case.
Toxic masculinity refers to the cultural idea that being masculine means confirming to one standard of masculinity, which is often a cultural abusive form that suppresses male emotions, gender expression/exploration, sexuality, and basically requires men to fall into the cultural norm or be hated. This is what is referred to as "toxic masculinity" and it a problem with real effects on the mental health of mostly young men.
It's toxic when people tell me to "Man up" as a means of insult just cause as a guy myself, I may not be strong, look physically muscular, think gutless or courageous. Or much worst when some older person brags about things they done but you can't do. Basically is just terrible insult in competitive instances and I dislike it.
You think it's bad when a guy tells another guy to "man up" it's worst when a woman tells a guy to "man up." But to be honest, based on observation is more about what they expect of a guy, or how they see them or want them to be like. Of course that doesn't even compared to when guys talk to women about it. I mean remember how gender divided communities are? Where "This is for men, that is for girls" Man that still a thing today. You would get ridicule if a girl wanted to play video games. This is the real toxic culprit.
For the record, I prefer a girl who does play games over ones that don't. (Cause least I can have something in common, making it easier to connect with)
Though it's funny when is use as a joke or some kind for comical function, just look at the ripping friends.
You're exactly right. Sometimes people need to be told to man up. I constantly tell that to myself. Used correctly, it just means you need to tighten your belt and get something done, or maybe what you're crying over doesn't really deserve tears. I've never heard it used as an insult or degrading statementThis could take a while to unpack.
First please point to where girls are ridiculed for wanting to play games? It is not a generally accepted thing.
As for "man up" that is an interesting one. I would not have considered it much of anything. Most times I hear it then it is short hand for "are you bleeding, get back on the horse and get it done" or "it can be done, go do it". Generally it is not even on my list of phrases people take exception to.
you'll thank them later.So less so the actual person being masculine and more so the forcing of a person to fallow said norm. as a tl;dr?
I kinda understand, kinda why I have to hide anything from my own parents that's cute or colerful though then again that could just be them being extraordinarily homophobic and thinking I'm gay if I express any of said intrestes despite there assumption being false. Fun times.
That is exactly what toxic masculinity is, a forced social norm of what is expected to be "masculine."So less so the actual person being masculine and more so the forcing of a person to fallow said norm. as a tl;dr?
I kinda understand, kinda why I have to hide anything from my own parents that's cute or colerful though then again that could just be them being extraordinarily homophobic and thinking I'm gay if I express any of said intrestes despite there assumption being false. Fun times.
That is exactly what toxic masculinity is, a forced social norm of what is expected to be "masculine."
What you just said is a great example of the effects of toxic masculinity. You are afraid of sharing yourself with your parents because you are afraid that they might harm you in some manner for not meeting their expectations of "masculinity." They will most likely think you are homosexual, thus not "masculine," and therefore something to be ashamed of. That right there is a perfect example of both toxic masculinity and the effects of toxic masculinity on an individual.
Side note, I am sorry you live in that kind of situation. I really hope you end up in a safer place where you are free from that kind of negativity and allowed to express yourself.