Earlier today, I was talking with one of my best friends who dropped in on my TA (Teacher Assistant) period to hang out and get some work done. We're talking a bit, off and on, and it comes to a point where she is talking about this freshman that likes her. She mentioned this freshman (Freshman A) commented on her necklace (a necklace with a very specific purpose), and has shown obvious interest. My friend then said this though: "She's cute, but she's a freshman, so I'm not going to do anything." I have a feeling I may know her specific reasoning for saying this, but still, it struck me as odd considering the possibility that my presumption is incorrect.
For anybody unfamiliar with how US high schools tend to work, it goes like this, in terms of age:
Freshman - 14/15
Sophomore - 15/16
Junior - 16/17
Senior - 17/18
This really got the gears in my head going, as this freshman gal (Freshman B from here onward) I see and talk to often is definitely interested in me, and I find myself interested in her. We have become close, too, so it isn't entirely a me being a big fish thing. I then had to think about everything I heard though, and the rolling trend. Seniors don't date freshman. I know there are a couple of okay reasons an individual may say that, that don't entirely revolve around personal taste. In the end though, I got to thinking. Age has never made a difference to me. If I'm interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with a girl, and she's interested in the same with me, then no issues should be had. There is something like 8 or 10 years between my aunt and uncle, and they are very happy with their marriage and lives. I feel I just need to ignore the social pressure to follow a specific path, and do what I find to be correct. Yes, I realize, maturity does play a certain factor, especially in this teenage years. I've taken this into consideration deeply while making my decision.
Now, I'm wondering how the community here feels. Do you think that age should be a deciding factor in pursuing a romantic interest? Or are you of the belief that (within reason) age doesn't matter? Do you fall somewhere in between? How about in general relationships such as friendships? Would you find age to matter there?
Remember, if you don't like the topic, no need to comment. I realize not all of you are a fan of the more dating oriented line of questioning that crops up every now and again. I'm genuinely curious, and this community tends to be fairly informative.
Last note: sorry for any errors or flowing issues. It's late, and I haven't been sleeping great. I've been making an astounding number of errors lately.
For anybody unfamiliar with how US high schools tend to work, it goes like this, in terms of age:
Freshman - 14/15
Sophomore - 15/16
Junior - 16/17
Senior - 17/18
This really got the gears in my head going, as this freshman gal (Freshman B from here onward) I see and talk to often is definitely interested in me, and I find myself interested in her. We have become close, too, so it isn't entirely a me being a big fish thing. I then had to think about everything I heard though, and the rolling trend. Seniors don't date freshman. I know there are a couple of okay reasons an individual may say that, that don't entirely revolve around personal taste. In the end though, I got to thinking. Age has never made a difference to me. If I'm interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with a girl, and she's interested in the same with me, then no issues should be had. There is something like 8 or 10 years between my aunt and uncle, and they are very happy with their marriage and lives. I feel I just need to ignore the social pressure to follow a specific path, and do what I find to be correct. Yes, I realize, maturity does play a certain factor, especially in this teenage years. I've taken this into consideration deeply while making my decision.
Now, I'm wondering how the community here feels. Do you think that age should be a deciding factor in pursuing a romantic interest? Or are you of the belief that (within reason) age doesn't matter? Do you fall somewhere in between? How about in general relationships such as friendships? Would you find age to matter there?
Remember, if you don't like the topic, no need to comment. I realize not all of you are a fan of the more dating oriented line of questioning that crops up every now and again. I'm genuinely curious, and this community tends to be fairly informative.
Last note: sorry for any errors or flowing issues. It's late, and I haven't been sleeping great. I've been making an astounding number of errors lately.