Too many questions. I think if all sides are fine with it, it's fine, as that seems fair to me.
I didn't expect everyone to answer all of them, just to get them thinking.
Laws can be changed easily.
And not enough people to go around? Using that is like saying that each person HAS to get married to a different person. Again, there's no real valid reason why a person can't have multiple spouses. There's no negative benefits at all.
Do you really believe laws can change easily for
unlimited amount of spouses?
Couldn't it possibly take away people from the ones not marrying?
But I suppose we have to remember that marrying for love seems to be on the decline.
in a world where it's lost it's meaning for most part.
On what bases do you think/say this? Sure people can marry just for the benefits, but I wasn't
aware on how many people do this. I would hate to be in a marriage with someone (or some people if I change my mind and/or preference) I have no feelings for when I could be with my true love/lovers.
Why marry someone you don't have feelings for just to get benefits, when you can get both?What are all these people fighting for marriage for? Just benefits? Iirc, civil union gives you that.
Marriage is the union between two people. It's a special bond you share, it's a commitment. I feel a person greatly tarnishes that 'commitment' when you tell the girl you love "gosh I love you with all my heart" and then turn around and say "gosh I love you with all my heart" to the girl behind you. I dunno, that's how I feel about it. Gender, race, and (to some degree) age really shouldn't hinder two people in love from getting married. However, polygamy is a whole other ballgame.
Marriage was supposedly between a man and a women by the same race even farther back if I may added,but that aside...
The person can be up front that they are polygamist/polyamorous.
So you are saying he or she can't love more then one person with all his or her heart?
Can you love someone that doesn't fulfill everything for you?
Couldn't your lover encourage you to look for another?
You are to talk and get consent with your spouse(s) before you act on anything anyway.
Also again.
I guess you feel it's a female superiority complex and male subjugation the other way around? What about if everyone marriage to each other?
What if they give each/the other consent to look for another before hand?
People need to remember this isn't just about sex...you're committing yourself to two or more partners to love, cherish and support. Jealousy is going to start playing into this at some point. I see nothing but bad things happening to a MAJORITY of polygamist marriages. Obviously not all will fail, but i'm quite certain a majority would.
If people want to be together with multiple partners, that's cool, but it's just not practical to legalize it officially for marriage.
Jealousy plays into everything at some point. You see a "MAJORITY" failing, on what bases?
So you feel they can show "love, cherish and support" and yet you say it isn't practical?
Monogamy doesn't seem to be working for 1/2 population or at least a large amount of people
for whatever reason. Can they do worse? Can this possibly work for them?
What would a polygamous marriage look like, anyway? Multiple individuals locked in a single marriage? I don't think that would work for the majority of non-monogamous/open relationships. If A has partners B, C, D, and B is in relationships with A, E, F, and if they all decided to get married, there would be 5 separate one-to-one marriages:
- a marriage between A and B
- a marriage between A and C
- a marriage between A and D
- a marriage between B and E
- a marriage between B and F
...but not a single marriage involving A~F. In all likelihood, C, D, E and F probably don't even know each other!
I don't see the problem with working out/with that involvement. They have to know each other to some degree since they would all need to give consent to each other. Otherwise, it's cheating.