How do I ask out a complete random

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Nov 29, 2011
  1. confused_hmmmm
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    Firstly let me point out, im really shy around women i've never asked a girl out since school and she shot me down flat, pretty much laughed in my face. Im 26 now

    The relationships I have had I've known the girls before hand and well it kinda moved on naturally.

    Now I live in a new area dont know anyone but theres this girl who works in my local supermarket who I think is pretty cute, I want to say something but don't know how or what as Im too worried ill get shot down.

    I know im not the best looker, ive got a heart condition which stops me from putting on weight so im pretty small, ontop of that ive got a lazy eye which as you can imagine is great for my confidence.

    As well as that I've got 2 kids from a previous relationship which puts alot of women off.

    Any ideas how the hell I would go about doing this or even if its worth doing, all I know is her name (as she wears a name tag) never seen her outside of the supermarket or anything like that.

    Sigh stuck in a confidence limbo
     


  2. BORTZ

    Global Moderator BORTZ wtf, nintendo

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    Let me get this straight. You joined a primarily video game oriented website forum to as for dating advice?
    ...
    That aside... i mean the easiest thing to do is be your self. Dont be someone else, cause they can always see through that.
    Just have some confidence. Talk to her.
     
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    As a former cashier and sexual compulsive I can tell you cashiers get hit on all the time. The easiest thing is to offer to take her out... but not in "date" intense way... a casual I may ask you later for a date way will do quite nicely. To help you take your worries away you could ask the store gossip (there always is one). If you have shopped at this store a lot then you know one. You'll get an earful but you'll know if she has "somebody". Which shouldn't stop you from trying (that part is from the sexaul compulsive). If you don't try you will never get anywhere...
    Why ask random people here when you could be there talking to her while she serves other customers...

    Don't even be weird about calling a sitter in front of her after you get her to agree to a date...It'll show her a good side of you.

    I wanna say good luck but what you need more is confidence booster. If you were gay and asian I would be asking you out... myself... skinny guy with kids, uh huh nothing like a daddy that needs to get wild for a night... sigh...
     
  4. Chikaku-chan

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    By going up to the person and say:
    Look you, me date this weekend~
     
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    ...and if you say it just like your punctuation indicates, I'd stand there confused thinking to myself "What is this moron trying to say?"
    Even if you actually said that right (it's readable due to the fact it's typed out), you do realize me and most women would slap you, walk away, dump their drink on you, or a combination of all 3, don't you?

    This isn't EoF, the OP is seriously asking, don't post joke answers. If that wasn't a joke answer....... wow.
     
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    that was a joke in reality I would be friendly, become friends, playfully flirt and ask out eventualy
     
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    lol nice.

    but For realsies op, all you gots to do is start slow as shit.
    what you can do is take the long approach, and introduce yourself to the OTHER cashiers, so that you become known around the store.
    tell them that you're new in the area and ask for cool/intresting places, or if you arent trying to hide the fact that you have kids, (living with you or not) ask about places where kids can play.
    once you've become kind of acquainted with the other cashiers, nonchalantly ask one of them about your target, OR go up to her yourself and talk about how shes probably the only one you havent met and repeat the other steps.

    Mind you this is the long term plan, but it could work.
     
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    When you say all you know is her name do you mean that literally? Because I don't see why you would want to pursue a relationship with somebody that you know practically nothing about. Just try having a few simple conversations with her and get to know her a little before worrying about asking her out. After you get to know her, you can actually make a decision on whether you want further the relationship, and it should be a lot easier if you do because you'll (hopefully) be more comfortable around her. Asking somebody out without knowing anything about them just because you think they're cute is usually not the best way to start a relationship.


    lol, I love how you went off on him and then you didn't even the answer the OPs question either
     
  9. Hells Malice

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    Just casually ask her out on a light date (coffee? cliche as hell...but it works).
    She's a random person as you said, the worst that happens is she says no. Not the end of the world since you probably would never speak to her again or see her on a consistent basis.

    EDIT: and don't use her real name when you ask. I dunno if it's just me but I find it weird when people call me by my name when i'm at work.
    I know it's on my nametag, but it still throws me off. I actually prefer when people don't use a name, or call me guy/dude/bro.
     
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    I told the OP not to do what he said, it'd have disasterous results. And I didn't give me own advice on how to ask out a woman because..... uh..... I've never tried to ask out a woman.
     
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    You can't always know what you're getting into before you get into it.

    I met my current girlfriend through work. One day, she had a shift in my department (back then) and HR told me to train her for the day (as she worked clothing). We hit it off instantly, talked a little, and within a week we were dating. 4 months later I wouldn't change a thing.

    OP, just go for it. My personal approach is to play around, hve a little bit of flirt but not too much - you want them to know what your game is, but not to the point where they're gonna be creeped out or put off.
     
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    How do we give you advice when we absolutely know nothing about this girl? There is not a single advice that works in all situations.
     
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    in my experience being straight forward has always worked.
    walk up to the person in question and let her(i assume) know how you feel.
    "Hey I noticed ya here quite a bit and think you're really good looking" some sort of compliment really.
    "I was hoping that maybe I could take you to get a cup of coffee at starbucks." an easy encounter in a somewhat public, yet still intimate setting
    "Great, i guess I'll meet ya then" and a polite closer to seal the deal.
     
  14. confused_hmmmm
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    Yeah, im not gay sorry lovely people.

    Just gunna talk to her to start of with, ask her how her days going, whats shes upto when she manages to escape from work.

    It'll be stupid to ask her out straight away it'll be creepy and if she does say no i;ve blown my shot + ill feel awkward going food shopping there, so start with the standard, hey hows you?, fun day? upto much when you finish your sentence, if she smiles compliment her on it, beyond that im kinda lost though lol.

    Oh and i didnt join a gaming site just for this, im already a member under a different name, just felt a little embarrased
     
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    So what you do is you go straight up to her, sit her down, look at her dead in the eye and say
    "Don't blow up my planet".
     
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    wtf are you serious, that wont get him anywhere, doesnt even make sense lol
     
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    You walk up to her and say, "hey baby, wanna play with my Wii? :tpi: "

    But seriously now. Play up the "I'm new in the area" thing. It's a good excuse to talk about anything. She's the only person you've seen more than once there, it's a good opening. Ask her about any good bars, restaurants, book stores, [objects of interest] in the area, for example.
     
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    Did you know the admins (maybe the mods too?) probably can see your IP?
     
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    I think you either missed what I was saying or didn't read the OP. You talked to her first and were dating within a week. He only knows her name and nothing else, and wants to date her now.


    I'm pretty sure duplicate accounts are against the rules. And it's the internet; who are you afraid of being embarrassed in front of?
     
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    We certainly can.

    Anyway, I'd tell the OP to just 'be himself' but that would be pretty facetious given the circumstances.
     

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