My mother passed away

[AndorfRequissa]

i know.
i also know ill be chewing on that for years to come.
but i found that, longterm, videogames and friends and spending time outside helps. a little each day.

the comfort of an animal can help too. when i was at my lowest point in life it was a dog that brought me the most joy. the unconditional love of an animal filled my empty heart with joy. i spent 2years in the dumps when i lost someone close to me. for each person it is different but you gotta find the little things in life that you can hold on to and cherish. life is too short to be continually sad but trauma can be like a set of chains that are hard to break free of.

hopefully you find something that can help clear you out of the dreary feeling of loss.

 

[Nakamichi]

the comfort of an animal can help too. when i was at my lowest point in life it was a dog that brought me the most joy. the unconditional love of an animal filled my empty heart with joy. i spent 2years in the dumps when i lost someone close to me. for each person it is different but you gotta find the little things in life that you can hold on to and cherish. life is too short to be continually sad but trauma can be like a set of chains that are hard to break free of.

hopefully you find something that can help clear you out of the dreary feeling of loss.

right now, there is no way i could do an animal justice.
im not THAT great at looking after myself right now.
No animal deserves a life like that!
its not fair. Maybe someday, when things are more stable.

 

[lordofcombo]

My dad passed away last year from cancer too.After 7 years battling the tumor.Stay strong,god knows i myself is still in denial of his passsing.

 

[Nakamichi]

My dad passed away last year from cancer too.After 7 years battling the tumor.Stay strong,god knows i myself is still in denial of his passsing.

im so sorry!
a friend of mine lost his mother when he was very young, maybe 16 iirc, hes in his 20s now and it still pains him.
he said it doesnt hurt any less, but you learn to live with it eventually.

 

[subcon959]

So sorry. Life can feel very cruel sometimes.

 

[AndorfRequissa]

right now, there is no way i could do an animal justice.
im not THAT great at looking after myself right now.
No animal deserves a life like that!
its not fair. Maybe someday, when things are more stable.

i can understand that feeling. i treat my dogs better than i treat myself and they give me drive to be better. changing water multiple times a day, letting them out, giving them treats is a lot of work. its not for everyone and if you dont think u can do it its not a good idea if animals arent ur thing. its what got me out of my funk. it doesnt have to be a dog but if you can find something that everytime you start to think about your mom you can focus on to get out of the feeling of sadness its a big help.

i wallowed in sorrow for almost 2 years crying every day and spending most of my waking hours binge watching tv and playing video games. i played multiple 60+hr rpgs where i would play them for 14-18hrs a day. it all just felt unfulfilling to me. entertainment is hard to pull you out of sorrow.

maybe for you its growing a garden or painting. creating something that can give you joy. just think about what makes you happy and try out different things to try to get joy. just doing things to get ur mind off it for me was just a temporary feeling and id always cycle back to being sad again soon as i turned off the tv or put the controller/handheld down.

 

[CatmanFan]

Very sorry for your loss. Please know that your family has my prayers.

 

[paulttt]

Internet stranger, I'm really sorry to hear that. I can't imagine what it will be like to lose my mum.

I lost my dad to mesothelioma. He was a fantastic guy taken too soon, all trying to make his company money.

I'm not turning this into an "about me" situation. If there's anything I can do to help, please reach out.

 

[VinsCool]

My condolences to you and your family my friend.
At least now it's over, may she rest in peace.

 

[Nakamichi]

@AndorfRequissa right now, a lot of it is just watching tv, playing retro games like kirby, or example.
usually i like to cook, but im not really in the mood right now.

@CatmanFan thank you kindly!

@paulttt thank you for sharing, i know it isnt easy to talk about this so i appreciate it.

@VinsCool thank you for your kind words!

 

[paulttt]

Sorry to hijack the thread, but @VinsCool are you the same vinscool from the very first one plus one phone forum?

Where everyone needed an invite to purchase? Maybe back in the early 2010s?

 

[VinsCool]

Sorry to hijack the thread, but @VinsCool are you the same vinscool from the very first one plus one phone forum?

Where everyone needed an invite to purchase? Maybe back in the early 2010s?

Nope.

 

[MPRTwice]

After the tumor surgery, she was very confused. They couldn't remove the tumor completely, and she was bleeding internally. she was very confused.
The last two times I was at the hospital, she didn't understand why I wasn't discharging her. She said she felt fine.
She screamed and was very angry with me.
She said I was a bad son and a bad legal guardian.
When I left her room, she screamed after me.

Those were the last times I was able to talk to her.
I don't know if you can imagine how much that hurts.
Like a hot knife through raw flesh.
Im gonna have to live with that.
Even typing it kills me.

I just saw this: take it easy. I did everything I could for my uncle, and others chastised me for driving for hours to help him, but he died...the day after cursing me out, and trying to tell me I have no respect for God. he was not himself after his wife passed away, so I know how this feels.