How do you make friends and keep them going? (online & offline)

[The Catboy]

People seem to like my gross indifferent and strange personality ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

[RevPokemon]

Then they arent real friends xD

You are right I need to stop giving them that 10% off at Diary Queen

Sorry i don't quite understand what this means.

You will learn soon enough

 

[Deleted member 377734]

ive found that I actually make friends rather easily . just talk about something they are comfortable with . I meet most of the people I know at parties or weddings . helping out . or at my local library

 

[Sonic Angel Knight]

People seem to like my gross indifferent and strange personality ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Could you eblabirate what is gross, indifferent and strange about your personality?

You will learn soon enough

Umm does it mean you're gonna tell me now, or something, what am i missing here?

 

[Alkéryn]

ive found that I actually make friends rather easily . just talk about something they are comfortable with . I meet most of the people I know at parties or weddings . helping out . or at my local library

Most people i know, i was the one comming like "hey what's up" + joke about context
then they were laughting and i introduced myself and proposed them to do so ^^

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Could you eblabirate what is gross, indifferent and strange about your personality?
Umm does it mean you're gonna tell me now, or something, what am i missing here?

It can have a sexual meaning

 

[Deleted member 377734]

Most people i know, i was the one comming like "hey what's up" + joke about context
then they was laghting and i introduced myself and proposed them to do so ^^

almost the same here . get em laughing play a few video games or talk bout movies and you get to know em in no time

 

[Aurora Wright]

I'm able to online, in person not really, sadly... I guess it just happens randomly.

 

[cvskid]

It depend of what you call a friend, if you want someone to have fun with and share things it is easy
but if you want real friends it is harder to find and it is what make them pressious
I would say the most important things are affection honesty and trust, knowing them and also know how to have fun with them

but the best way to aproach someone in ANY situation ( Friendship/ relationship / work ) is to have a good sense of humor and know how to balance it well depending of the person you are speaking to, the higher in hierarchy the person the most serious you must been
but the least you know a person the most you should be humourous and the most you know them the most you should be serious

but keep in mind that even if affection honesty and trust are the key to a good friendship, humour is the first step to get there
plus don't expect people to trust you if you don't trust them
don't expect people to like you if you don't like them
and don't expect people to be happy when they see you if you are not always happy when they see you.
it might seem dumb but people act a bit to you as you act to them
if you act as you are already close they will react so

physical contact is also a good thing for example a little slap on the shoulder or small discret things like that help others build confindence in you inconsiously

I agree with this. Probably easy to find someone to just hang out with but good luck making ACTUAL friends these days that stick with you through good and bad times.

 

[VinsCool]

As surprising as this might sound, I hardly ever make friends irl. The very few I had in years though, are valuable people I genuinely appreciate and care about.

Online is much easier, as I don't really have to actually talk, and appear in front of them. But the same principle stays, we could be great friends that I care about and do anything to make them happy.

To tell the truth, most of the friendships based on the text above almost all happened randomly. Forced friendship never ended well, despite genuine intentions It looks like that common interrests and mindset got the best matches.

 

[The Catboy]

Could you eblabirate what is gross, indifferent and strange about your personality?


Umm does it mean you're gonna tell me now, or something, what am i missing here?

I am an extreme moderate on everything and I mean everything. I take very little personally and I don't get upset easily. Thus I am grossly indifferent about everything and my personality is rather odd.

 

[Sonic Angel Knight]

I am an extreme moderate on everything and I mean everything. I take very little personally and I don't get upset easily. Thus I am grossly indifferent about everything and my personality is rather odd.

Gross is a rather negatively harsh word to use, so i don't understand what you mean when using it. But So far your description of your personality has not seem to be of any issue to you or others... which is why i guess you made that statement about people liking you.

Still i don't think is gross or odd, just how you are, i already accepted that so i mean no problem right?

 

[VinsCool]

my personality is rather odd.

That describes me rather well lol.

 

[Deleted member 377734]

That describes me rather well lol.

I'm seen as odd by other hutterites . since I'm into gaming and so on . but outside the colony I get along well with quite a few people.

 

[osaka35]

Laugh at me if you want or even call me names or whatever, but this is a serious question. Believe it or not, there is people out there who do not know how to do this yet, despite their age, is just something not easy to master. Understanding that, I will just like to say that if someone willing to admit to having trouble with this, is okay.

But the thing is since these are probably more personal.. ummm skill... techniques... habits... opinions (Whatever you wanna call them) Is however you do it personally, may not work for everyone, these are suggestions. So i guess this statement is a disclaimer for anyone who tries these personal experiences or SUGGESTIONS, not to complain if it doesn't work, really is just "Trial-and-error"

Also I would like to ask if you could specifiy the experience if is for online i guess either long distance, people from around the world, playing games online, social media like the instant messages or whatever communities, or offline around the local area doing whatever, that will help i think. If i should come up with another idea to help add detph to the experience then this post will be updated.

I just assume no one sticks around. Enjoy the temporary friends you have, create memories, and just be ready to move on and find new friends. Or, at the very least, expect non-consistency. A best friend this year may be a casual friend next, and maybe turn back to best friend in a couple of years. Personally I just talk with people about mutual interest and enjoy events that we'll both share. My relationship skills are zero on natural ability, but around a 4-6 on acting/learned behavior. I just try to be nice and considerate, and it seems to work out somewhat well.

I'm curious to see what advice people offer. Knowing a thing should be done, and being able to do a thing well, are very very different things.

 

[Deleted member 377734]

half the people just left to google hutterite.

 

[Alucardio]

half the people just left to google hutterite.

Yes, me lol

 

[EthanAddict]

Well, I found my "best" friend because of the same interests, robotics to tell the truth at the computer programming club in school, then we hanged out and I later joined his robotics team. Made our robot with an arduino(why not raspberry pi?) and NXT programmed in Python 3, but thats another story. Anyway the point is that I like to hang out with people who can tell them my secrets and generally trust them.