How do I ask out a complete random

[GundamXXX]

Also protip... just ask if she has a boyfriend

the response should be pretty clear, if not ill clarify

If awnser is:

Yes - You say "Too bad, well cya" and you DONT start sobbing or be depressed. its not the end of the world
No with a "why-the-hell-are-you-asking-me-you-creep"look - you say "huh... im surprised. wanna go out?"
No with a smie - say "good to hear that.. wanna go out some time?"

The only other response possible is "No but I dont want to go out" - response is basicly the same as has bf one

direct straight to the point, might save alot of wasted time, but not really my style

Truth is... most of the connection of "love" is made on first sight
If she doesnt dig you at this moment then USUALLY she wont dig you enough in the future but thats just my point of view and seeing as how im still single... yea

 

[ShinyLatios]

So what you do is you go straight up to her, sit her down, look at her dead in the eye and say
"Don't blow up my planet".

haha, Team Fourstar reference. come on am I the only one who got this?

 

[mucus]

i didn't get it

 

[yusuo]

i didn't get it

yeah didnt get it either, small niche, prob not worth using as a pick up line, ill just get the 0_o look

 

[emigre]

I find being awkward and British to be somewhat successful with women.

 

[JoostinOnline]

I'd help, but I'm still trying to ask out a girl I've known for years, lol.

 

[mucus]

direct and cordial, it always gets best results
and what gundam said about the boyfriend crap

 

[JoostinOnline]

direct and cordial, it always gets best results
and what gundam said about the boyfriend crap

So profess my undying love for her and say you want her to meet my parents? Thanks man!

 

[_Chaz_]

Asking out a random person is the worst idea I've ever heard.

You've been watching too many movies.

 

[mucus]

you're a fool chaz.
i met my wife randomly.

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[yusuo]

Asking out a random person is the worst idea I've ever heard.

You've been watching too many movies.

Ok then I shall sit in my house not knowing anyone around me, ya know being new in the area and all.

Seeing as i dont work, ya know if i never speak to anyone ill prob be happy forever

 

[mucus]

Asking out a random person is the worst idea I've ever heard.

You've been watching too many movies.

Ok then I shall sit in my house not knowing anyone around me, ya know being new in the area and all.

Seeing as i dont work, ya know if i never speak to anyone ill prob be happy forever

you tell him!

 

[yusuo]

I've kinda figured out my tactic, speak to her a few times while im buying groceries see if shes interesting, get her interest and then one day after buying something run back into the shop and say "i forgot to give you this" hand her a little note, with my phone number and a little question just asking her if she;d fancy chatting outside of the shop sometime, if she doesnt call oh well, if she does win

and yes i need a tactic otherwise ill stumble and fail

 

[DeathStrudel]

I don't see why you would want to pursue a relationship with somebody that you know practically nothing about.

Isn't that how most relationships start?
You see a girl / guy that you like the look of, start chatting to them.
Finding out about them is the most interesting bit.

I met my wife after chatting to her in a bar. I just walked up and asked if I could buy her a drink, and took it from there.

Now 8 years married with a 6 week old daughter

I think you're misunderstanding what I'm saying. In your case you chatted with her first and then you decided to further the relationship, that's what I'm saying he should do. In the OP's case he knows absolutely nothing about this girl except her name, but has already decided he wants to go out with her. Maybe I'm just not shallow enough to understand why someone would ask somebody out when they've never even had a conversation and don't know what kind of person they are.

 

[yusuo]

I think you're misunderstanding what I'm saying. In your case you chatted with her first and then you decided to further the relationship, that's what I'm saying he should do. In the OP's case he knows absolutely nothing about this girl except her name, but has already decided he wants to go out with her. Maybe I'm just not shallow enough to understand why someone would ask somebody out when they've never even had a conversation and don't know what kind of person they are.

Im gunna talk to her first, it'll be creepy if i just asked her out, make small talk find out small things but theres only so much you can learn when shes standing behind a counter

 

[DeathStrudel]

I think you're misunderstanding what I'm saying. In your case you chatted with her first and then you decided to further the relationship, that's what I'm saying he should do. In the OP's case he knows absolutely nothing about this girl except her name, but has already decided he wants to go out with her. Maybe I'm just not shallow enough to understand why someone would ask somebody out when they've never even had a conversation and don't know what kind of person they are.

Im gunna talk to her first, it'll be creepy if i just asked her out, make small talk find out small things but theres only so much you can learn when shes standing behind a counter

Maybe I'm just weird, but I'm having a hard time understanding this. I don't just see somebody I think is attractive and then decide I'm going to pursue a relationship (which is what it seems like you're doing); that just seems really shallow to me. If I meet someone and I like the type of person they are, then I will pursue a relationship. I'm not trying to discourage you and maybe I'm just misinterpreting what you're saying, but it seems like you're very bent on dating this girl when you don't really know her, which could end up clouding your judgement when you actually do get to know her.

 

[_Chaz_]

Asking out a random person is the worst idea I've ever heard.

You've been watching too many movies.

Ok then I shall sit in my house not knowing anyone around me, ya know being new in the area and all.

Seeing as i dont work, ya know if i never speak to anyone ill prob be happy forever

That's what I was thinking too, good to see we're on the same wavelength.

 

[yusuo]

Maybe I'm just weird, but I'm having a hard time understanding this. I don't just see somebody I think is attractive and then decide I'm going to pursue a relationship (which is what it seems like you're doing); that just seems really shallow to me. If I meet someone and I like the type of person they are, then I will pursue a relationship. I'm not trying to discourage you and maybe I'm just misinterpreting what you're saying, but it seems like you're very bent on dating this girl when you don't really know her, which could end up clouding your judgement when you actually do get to know her.

I think you are a misinterpreting a little im not bent on forming a relationship with someone I dont even know, that would be weird, what im bent on doing is mustering up the courage to ask her out so I can see if shes worth getting to know, if not oh well its just someone I then know in the area who I can hang out with and through that get to know other people through her, if she is interesting then obviously see where it goes.

But my only intention at the moment is just getting to communicate with someone I find attractive

 

[Skelletonike]

I believe in love at first sight, however, you need to build a 'connection' with that person first, like... Get to know that person.. I usually played word games with my gf's (before they were my gf's) in order to learn more about them, the more you know about someone, the easier it'll be for yu to deepen the relationship, also... Even if that woman is already dating someone, it makes no diff... It's always easy to crush most relationships since most nowadays are weak and platonic...

 

[GundamXXX]

Fact: Love at first sight is bullshit

"Love" is commonly misjudged as lust
And this doesnt have to be sexual lust but its there

Real love is a state of mind not where you love others as they are but you love them despite what they are not


The direct way is the best because a) you will get a straight awnser without fucking about rather then invest time and emotion into talking with her and ending up getting turned down after a month. Asking a girl out is like ripping off a band-aid. The quicker the better

Also who's the moron who thinks that dating = relationship?
Seriously? Its goes like this (from beginning to end)
Fancy>Ask out>Date>it BECOMES a relationship>You tell them you love them>She puts half her clothes at your house and you put your toothbrush at hers>Moving in together>Marriage (upon choice)>Kids (upon choice)>you die together

People need to start dating again and not just go "OI I LIKE YOU LETS FUCK" -_-