The secret to becoming good at soldering is to not use cheap stuff, low quality stuff. Good soldering iron, with good solder and flux will make a massive difference to soldering skills.
Desoldering stuff is generally a lot harder and you need to be very gentle or you're going to rip a soldering pad loose.
I wouldn't recommend desoldering a large smd capacitor if don't have the experience, some people absolutely destroyed their GBC doing it.
It's just as you say: You need good equipment, time, a proper workplace and also the skills to do harder solder-jobs. And i'am lacking in all of the above
So i decided to rather not wracking anymore consoles