Virginity..

[shadowboy]

I'm a virgin, and think sex w/o love is meaningless.
I don't care if the girl is a virgin tho.

My girlfriend is a rape victim :/

So yeah, pretty fucking depressing shit.
Kinda made any horniness I was starting to develop hit the floor... if we are truly in love then I know eventually it will happen, if not I don't want her to have to deal with something like sex again...
:< God fucking hate how horny men are to do something so despicable.

 

[xLadyKx]

I'm not a virgin. I've been with my guy for 5+ years. I lost it at 17.

My parents were strict. My mom wanted me to wait until marriage. I know my dad was hoping but all he really told me was to wait until I was in college (and out of the house lol) to start dating at least.

I never really thought about it. I knew it would happen when it would but I was in no rush. I absolutely knew that I wouldn't wait until marriage though, just until I met someone who was worth... sharing myself that way with.

Well anyways, lost it at 17. Got pregnant at 17 and had my son at 18. Yes, we were using protection. So we raised him together, got our own place and whatnot. 2.5 years later, I got pregnant again and had my 2nd son (with the same guy). So now I'm almost 22 (will be on the 26th of Jan) and I have a 3 year old and a 5 month old. I don't have any regrets, I love my life. I am extremely lucky that it worked out in my favor.

With all that said, I just hope that young people who aren't waiting for marriage really think about the consequences of having sex. Protection is never 100%.

 

[golden]

I'm not a virgin. I've been with my guy for 5+ years. I lost it at 17.

My parents were strict. My mom wanted me to wait until marriage. I know my dad was hoping but all he really told me was to wait until I was in college (and out of the house lol) to start dating at least.

I never really thought about it. I knew it would happen when it would but I was in no rush. I absolutely knew that I wouldn't wait until marriage though, just until I met someone who was worth... sharing myself that way with.

Well anyways, lost it at 17. Got pregnant at 17 and had my son at 18. Yes, we were using protection. So we raised him together, got our own place and whatnot. 2.5 years later, I got pregnant again and had my 2nd son (with the same guy). So now I'm almost 22 (will be on the 26th of Jan) and I have a 3 year old and a 5 month old. I don't have any regrets, I love my life. I am extremely lucky that it worked out in my favor.

With all that said, I just hope that young people who aren't waiting for marriage really think about the consequences of having sex. Protection is never 100%.

call me crazy but condoms are 90-98% protection so you guys just got EXTREMELY EXTREMELY unlucky. But it's great it worked out for you guys in the end.

 

[nin10do]

I see that American people tend to do oral sex and anal sex before vaginal, so they would "preserve" himen (or virginity.....yeah right

)..
But here, oral sex isn't that spread, you'll get some girl to sex with you easier then blow you, and anal sex is something that's rarely done, and much less talked about!

it seems they loose it at an earlier age too. tbh is there really any point in waiting? or is it better to get the hype thing outta the way?

 

[OSW]

Not a virgin. lost it to my first and current GF. I feel happy to have lost it to her.

I am her second. It didn't bother me at all at the start, but when i started to hear more about her ex, and had issues with her (i got ditched couple of times, cheated on, and she abused my trust, feelings etc etc), it all fucked my head up a bit.

It's still a bit painful but she's really treating me good now. As long as it continues then we'll be good together i think, i still love her strongly but the trust isn't quite the same.

Overall, I think virginity is not meaningless, and it's very nice to lose it to someone you love. But you gotta live with the way things are, so if you really care about someone enough you would get over it.

I also think I'd be hard pressed to expect to find many virgins who are 19/20 (most of the people i hang out with are these age).

IMO the past is the past, the important thing is the person that they are now (some people change, some people never change, be careful).

 

[Toni Plutonij]

Lost it.When I was 13 I banged a cute guy.I was gay back then.I fucked never got fucked.
Looking back now I do regret it.

at 15 I decided\changed\whatever to go straight and have fun with girls, but it was anal sex.

When you live in a shithole of suburbia and have an empty wallet, and have no parents, and your sister is your poor guardian, and everything in life bites you in the ass...well you need something to make you happy every once in a while.

I don't think that having anal sex counts as losing your virginity.

I wouldn't know, and I wouldn't care.
Sorry Eternal, but I have really hard time believing this, I just think you're trying to troll, and many of your posts lately are like that.. I really don't know why

But I had a friend that is gay, and there is no way that you can "turn straight" Gay people that don't like their homosexuality, live very hard, because they can't go against themselves, but usually they are raised by their parents/religion/media, in a way that homosexuality is bad..So they don't know how to act......but I think that you're laying as hell!

I'm a virgin, and think sex w/o love is meaningless.
I don't care if the girl is a virgin tho.

My girlfriend is a rape victim :/

So yeah, pretty fucking depressing shit.
Kinda made any horniness I was starting to develop hit the floor... if we are truly in love then I know eventually it will happen, if not I don't want her to have to deal with something like sex again...
:< God fucking hate how horny men are to do something so despicable.
Fuck, man....I'm really sorry to hear that..I knew a girl (friend of a friend) that supposedly got raped, just so we would find out later that she was crying for attention, and she made everything up..

I really hate people that rape, and in my opinion, everyone that raped anybody wouldn't just go to prison, but I'd cut off their penis, and see if they try to do it again!

Some people are really desperate!

I'm not a virgin. I've been with my guy for 5+ years. I lost it at 17.

My parents were strict. My mom wanted me to wait until marriage. I know my dad was hoping but all he really told me was to wait until I was in college (and out of the house lol) to start dating at least.

I never really thought about it. I knew it would happen when it would but I was in no rush. I absolutely knew that I wouldn't wait until marriage though, just until I met someone who was worth... sharing myself that way with.

Well anyways, lost it at 17. Got pregnant at 17 and had my son at 18. Yes, we were using protection. So we raised him together, got our own place and whatnot. 2.5 years later, I got pregnant again and had my 2nd son (with the same guy). So now I'm almost 22 (will be on the 26th of Jan) and I have a 3 year old and a 5 month old. I don't have any regrets, I love my life. I am extremely lucky that it worked out in my favor.

With all that said, I just hope that young people who aren't waiting for marriage really think about the consequences of having sex. Protection is never 100%.
Wow, that's quite a life story....I'm extremely glad it turned out well for you two! I hope you'll have a nice life..If you can, it would be nice if you could post some family picture

But you don't have to!

QUOTE(nin10do @ Jan 6 2009, 12:05 PM) QUOTE(Toni Plutonij @ Jan 5 2009, 01:56 PM)

I see that American people tend to do oral sex and anal sex before vaginal, so they would "preserve" himen (or virginity.....yeah right

)..
But here, oral sex isn't that spread, you'll get some girl to sex with you easier then blow you, and anal sex is something that's rarely done, and much less talked about!

it seems they loose it at an earlier age too. tbh is there really any point in waiting? or is it better to get the hype thing outta the way?

Well, the only point in waiting for losing your virginity is to maybe lose it with someone you love! Having anal sex and thinking that you're still virgin is really stupid! You had sex!! Now that's it!!

Some people feel ready to have sex at age of 15 (and get chance), and some people aren't ready even at age 20....That's just the way that human body works!

 

[Eternal Myst]

Lost it.When I was 13 I banged a cute guy.I was gay back then.I fucked never got fucked.
Looking back now I do regret it.

at 15 I decided\changed\whatever to go straight and have fun with girls, but it was anal sex.

When you live in a shithole of suburbia and have an empty wallet, and have no parents, and your sister is your poor guardian, and everything in life bites you in the ass...well you need something to make you happy every once in a while.

I don't think that having anal sex counts as losing your virginity.

I wouldn't know, and I wouldn't care.

Sorry Eternal, but I have really hard time believing this, I just think you're trying to troll, and many of your posts lately are like that.. I really don't know why

But I had a friend that is gay, and there is no way that you can "turn straight" Gay people that don't like their homosexuality, live very hard, because they can't go against themselves, but usually they are raised by their parents/religion/media, in a way that homosexuality is bad..So they don't know how to act......but I think that you're laying as hell!

Changing the gender that you want to suddenly fuck isn't really that difficult.Maybe I should have stated that in my younger age I was in Palestine.Which is an islamic country.That means girls don't go around exposing themselves, or anything.Girls\Boys go to different schools.Girls are not allowed to leave the house.Girls only get exposed to the opposite gender when they are in college.

If you don't know were I am going with this.....then take a sharp guess.I was never really gay.I just wanted to be sexually active, and fuck anything that was available at the moment.I don't lie very often.

Im glad I left palestine.You don't know how it feels to hear\see death every fucking day.On the news pictures of young children dying in the gaza strip, and the violence of the hamas, fateh movements that inspired revenge, suicidal bombings.
I felt reborn when I left Palestine.Even though every part of me aches to go back.I don't really have a family to go back to, and the sexual behavior between men in Palestine was very "unusual".

So much for an Islamic country that says alcohol, and having sex with the same gender is, haram.

Toni, I don't lie very often.Also I will stop trolling, and become more of an asset than an anchor by helping out in gbatemp like I used to.

 

[nin10do]

Lost it.When I was 13 I banged a cute guy.I was gay back then.I fucked never got fucked.
Looking back now I do regret it.

at 15 I decided\changed\whatever to go straight and have fun with girls, but it was anal sex.

When you live in a shithole of suburbia and have an empty wallet, and have no parents, and your sister is your poor guardian, and everything in life bites you in the ass...well you need something to make you happy every once in a while.

I don't think that having anal sex counts as losing your virginity.

I wouldn't know, and I wouldn't care.

Sorry Eternal, but I have really hard time believing this, I just think you're trying to troll, and many of your posts lately are like that.. I really don't know why

But I had a friend that is gay, and there is no way that you can "turn straight" Gay people that don't like their homosexuality, live very hard, because they can't go against themselves, but usually they are raised by their parents/religion/media, in a way that homosexuality is bad..So they don't know how to act......but I think that you're laying as hell!

Changing the gender that you want to suddenly fuck isn't really that difficult.Maybe I should have stated that in my younger age I was in Palestine.Which is an islamic country.That means girls don't go around exposing themselves, or anything.Girls\Boys go to different schools.Girls are not allowed to leave the house.Girls only get exposed to the opposite gender when they are in college.

If you don't know were I am going with this.....then take a sharp guess.I was never really gay.I just wanted to be sexually active, and fuck anything that was available at the moment.I don't lie very often.

Im glad I left palestine.You don't know how it feels to hear\see death every fucking day.On the news pictures of young children dying in the gaza strip, and the violence of the hamas, fateh movements that inspired revenge, suicidal bombings.
I felt reborn when I left Palestine.Even though every part of me aches to go back.I don't really have a family to go back to, and the sexual behavior between men in Palestine was very "unusual".

So much for an Islamic country that says alcohol, and having sex with the same gender is, haram.

Toni, I don't lie very often.Also I will stop trolling, and become more of an asset than an anchor by helping out in gbatemp like I used to.

whao duuuuuuuude. i come from a pretty uptight cultural background myself. thoughts of turnign gay did cross my mind but i'd never actually do it. went to an all boys school myself. i also went to an all boys university. i'm sorry how things worked out for you. hope you manage to come back from it all.

i have a freind in palestine and he told me things are pretty bad there.

(trying to stay relevent to post.)...
there is another side to the story though. i have grown up with people with a strict background that waited till marriage for sex. a lot of them were really pissed that they couldn't have sex that early. but now at 23-25 most of them are happily married. and when i talked to them about it most (not all) tell me they are glad they waited. i guess it's all aobut personal prefference.

 

[Issac]

How many of you have lost virginity (had their first sex)?
I have.
At what age did you do it?
Just turned 18.
Was that experience good/bad (good sex, bad sex?)
It was... alright... my first time, of course a bit awkward and insecure.. but overall good!!
How do you feel about it, are you sorry for not waiting, for someone other/better/more special?
I'm happy about it, since it WAS that special one

 

[Toni Plutonij]

Changing the gender that you want to suddenly fuck isn't really that difficult.Maybe I should have stated that in my younger age I was in Palestine.Which is an islamic country.That means girls don't go around exposing themselves, or anything.Girls\Boys go to different schools.Girls are not allowed to leave the house.Girls only get exposed to the opposite gender when they are in college.

If you don't know were I am going with this.....then take a sharp guess.I was never really gay.I just wanted to be sexually active, and fuck anything that was available at the moment.I don't lie very often.

Im glad I left palestine.You don't know how it feels to hear\see death every fucking day.On the news pictures of young children dying in the gaza strip, and the violence of the hamas, fateh movements that inspired revenge, suicidal bombings.
I felt reborn when I left Palestine.Even though every part of me aches to go back.I don't really have a family to go back to, and the sexual behavior between men in Palestine was very "unusual".

So much for an Islamic country that says alcohol, and having sex with the same gender is, haram.

Toni, I don't lie very often.Also I will stop trolling, and become more of an asset than an anchor by helping out in gbatemp like I used to.

OK, this post sounds far more honest and true..
I'll apologize for calling you out like that, I know that life there is really though, I'm glad you settled it after some time..

I'm really glad to hear that last part of your post, and I really do hope you'll keep your word, because I remember you as a good member, not troll who doesn't care if he'll get banned or not..

 

[Maktub]

If people just normalized sex, you wouldn't give a damn about virginity or stuff. Natural (and I'm talking about something anyone with some psychology basis will understand - for others just wiki/google it) behaviour in children is to explore and have sex. If you manage to educate children into having contact with that part of their lives without becoming a threat to social behaviour (like, having sex with their syblings anywhere in the street

), then they won't grow up repressed and do much of the kinky stuff some people end up doing (raping included, as a violent way to distress oneself from a hard repression).

Also, @Eternal Myst: I'd say your sexual "label" is rather bisexual as it seems you didn't have any problems when it came to having sex with guys. In that sense, I'd understand why you could "switch" between genders you had sex with. Anyway, it's a little bit stupid to label sexual behaviour.

 

[GamerzInc]

I'm 19 and I'm perfectly fine with being a virgin. In highschool I wasn't as much bothered with having sex but I was given protection by many family members. Throughout highschool and now through my second year of college I've pretty much done everything sexually related except for vaginal intercourse. I just haven't found that special woman. Personally I don't care about my virginity I'd just rather have sex with someone I actually love. Each time a girl has personally come up to me and asked me to have sex with her I've declined.

 

[R2DJ]

Holding it off for a girl who I will have a very good relationship with.

Most likely a girl that's fit and has a good attitude (don't want to deal with a nice-looking girl who is actually a gold-digger)

 

[Deleted member 76381]

I know my dad was hoping but all he really told me was to wait until I was in college (and out of the house lol) to start dating at least.
Wanted you to wait until college to start dating? Good lord! The average age for starting out dating was around 13 during my generation, probably has gone down in recent years...but hey, at least you've been with the same guy this entire time. Glad to hear that. =P

If people just normalized sex, you wouldn't give a damn about virginity or stuff. Natural (and I'm talking about something anyone with some psychology basis will understand - for others just wiki/google it) behaviour in children is to explore and have sex. If you manage to educate children into having contact with that part of their lives without becoming a threat to social behaviour (like, having sex with their syblings anywhere in the street laugh.gif ), then they won't grow up repressed and do much of the kinky stuff some people end up doing (raping included, as a violent way to distress oneself from a hard repression).
That's the strange thing about this country, and probably others too. It's both normalized and tabooed in different parts of the country, and the media doesn't help with that at all. I mean...You have what your parents say, but then your friends say otherwise, and TV says something else too. There are tons of sex toy stores/adult book/film/etc places, and just as many institutions that damn them. Sex is both celebrated and scandalous. The fact that many religious institutions sensationalize it doesn't help this matter with many people.

I once was one of those "until marriage" kinda people. Anymore, I'd be willing to go for it if the person I have in mind is, but we're still a ways off of that. =P I'm in no rush. I feel that sex is important to a relationship if things are supposed to be kept stable, and waiting until after marriage could be problematic. As stated before, what if your spouse doesn't want sex as often as you do (more or less)? Or some other excessively horrible problem? You're stuck with that person "for life." Not to say that you should run out and sex every willing person, but I still think that you should at the very least wait for the right person instead of the first one you see.

GamerzInc

Each time a girl has personally come up to me and asked me to have sex with her I've declined.

*revokes your Man Card*
*shot*

 

[newyears1978]

I waited til I got married to have sex, I was 21. Good decision and I think that everyone should do this.

Unfortunately for me I ended up getting divorced so saving myself didn't really turn out all how I thought..but still to this day (I am 31 now) I have only had sex with my first wife and now my fiance..and I find it better this way..

 

[sprogurt]

i think that if 2 people are in love then that's just a way of showing each other that just like cuddling but more intimate.

 

[xLadyKx]

call me crazy but condoms are 90-98% protection so you guys just got EXTREMELY EXTREMELY unlucky. But it's great it worked out for you guys in the end.

No, we just got extremely, extremely LUCKY. We're still together, our boys are healthy and they have everything they need and too much of what they want. We have our own place and my hubby's making good money (especially with the way the economy is going) and I get to stay home with the kids and focus on getting my degree. We still get to indulge in things we want as well and our fridge is always stocked. What more could I possibly ask for?

By the way, one of my best friends were using birth control pills and she still conceived. Her little boy is almost 4 years old and she's 21. Every protection method that's out there claims to be almost 100%. But almost is not 100% so it's still infallible.

QUOTE(xLadyKx @ Jan 6 2009, 12:41 AM) I know my dad was hoping but all he really told me was to wait until I was in college (and out of the house lol) to start dating at least.

Wanted you to wait until college to start dating? Good lord! The average age for starting out dating was around 13 during my generation, probably has gone down in recent years...but hey, at least you've been with the same guy this entire time. Glad to hear that. =P

Yes, my dad wanted me to wait until college to start dating. Funny how he tried to be so strict about that and this is how things turned out. (Obviously they were so strict that I rebelled) But oh well, they absolutely love my kids now and they're happy that I'm happy. We have a better relationship now.


Toni - I'll post pictures up of my boys.. maybe one of me lol.

 

[nin10do]

No, we just got extremely, extremely LUCKY. We're still together, our boys are healthy and they have everything they need and too much of what they want. We have our own place and my hubby's making good money (especially with the way the economy is going) and I get to stay home with the kids and focus on getting my degree. We still get to indulge in things we want as well and our fridge is always stocked. What more could I possibly ask for?

i luv happy endings.

 

[War]

Ah, the subject of virginity. Personally, I find it so sickening how most teenagers treat virginity nowadays. Apparently, they think its "cool" and some sort of achievement to lose your virginity, and the younger you lose it, the "cooler" you are. Just thinking about that infuriates me.

I'm not religious at all, but I still think that you should only have sex when you are with someone you REALLY love and you know things will work out with them. I'm 17, still a virgin, and I don't plan on losing my virginity at LEAST until I get out of high school. Hearing about kids my age losing their virginity just sickens me. Call me old fashioned like that, I guess.

I just don't believe that 13-17 (God forbid any younger) year old kids know what love is, and shouldn't be having sex just for the hell of it. I'm not saying IM an expert, or that I know what love is, because I don't. But having sex at such a young age can be really life-changing, especially for kdis that don't know the consequences.

My parents are divorced, and I live with my mother and sister while my 2 older brothers live with my Dad in South America. My dad is one of those dad's that think that drinking is okay for a 15 year old, and having sex isn't a big deal. Because my brother grew up living with him, my brother had tons of sex at the age of 16+. What did that lead to? Right now, he is 21, has 2 kids, hasn't finished college (after dropping out), has a crappy job that doesn't make him enough to even support himself, has to borrow money from my dad monthly just to get by, and he's not even with the mother of his children.

That's one of the main reasons why I want to wait for that special someone, and I want to wait until my situation is a little more planned out. Yes, I know there's condoms and pills and all that, but there's ALWAYS that chance that the girl can still get pregnant.

 

[knilsilooc]

16 years old, still a virgin. The current plan is to wait until marriage, something that my girlfriend and I both agreed on. However, I don't suppose it would be that bad if it happened before that, especially if it's with someone I truly love.