Virginity..

[golden]

How many of you have lost virginity (had their first sex)?
At what age did you do it?
I haven't and I'm 16. I don't plan on losing it till I'm 18 or older but I do plan on losing it before marriage. I just don't really see the need to "do it" in high school.

Was that experience good/bad (good sex, bad sex?)
IDK, can't say since I haven't yet but I think it will be great/bad depending on who you choose to do it with. That's probably why so many people on this thread say they didn't enjoy it and others say it was great.

How do you feel about it, are you sorry for not waiting, for someone other/better/more special?
I feel anyone should do what they want after age 18 without any regrets. It's life. However, under 18 it's slightly risky since it is a fact that you aren't that mature yet no matter how much you want to say you know what you are doing or you are more mature for your age. There is a reason you become an "adult" legally after 18.

Do your parents (if you're young) know about it, and do they approve it?
IDK I don't think they would care. They would just want me to be safe.

How much virginity actually IS IMPORTANT to you? Do you want to wait for marriage, do you enjoy one night stands, do you want to do it out of a love with your partner?!
Virginity isn't important for me at all. No, waiting till marriage is kind of retarded, it's like digging your own hole in my book but I completely respect other people's choices if they decide to. I can relate this question to a very humorous episode of "Drake and Josh" for anyone that watches it, I'll just slightly change it so that people understand that don't watch the show. In one episode, Drake is in a serious relationship with a girl and his brother Josh says that it's getting really serious between the two and Drake gets very annoyed. He says "they are just going out" and nothing more. Josh says there's nothing wrong with having a close relationship besides just "going out" and Drake explains to Josh that "Girls are like candy". He says, "let's say each girl is a different type of candy. You like gummy bears? You can enjoy that kind of candy but that doesn't mean that needs to be the only candy in your life. One day you want liquorish or another day you want chocolate. Why would you want to only stay on the gummy bears?" It's an effective simile. Not trying to demean girls but it can be said the same for guys too in a girl's perspective. Waiting till marriage is dumb IMO because then your stuck eating gummy bears for life.

 

[papyrus]

I lost mine just last year and Im 20. To me that experience was okay not that great. I did it with my first gf well shes experienced but then she was in pain. She told me that the pain was like her first sex. To me virginity is not a big deal.

 

[Panzer Tacticer]

Hmmm another interesting thread.

I suppose being a father of a 14 year old, I've likely 'lost my virginity'

But I wasn't all that in a hurry in my case, as I was one till I was 25.
Granted, I didn't really give myself much of a chance. Unlike today's generation of internet dwellers (which are usually a bit nerdy and likely more likely virgins because you spend too much time alone in your room on your computer

), I spent all my time in a library with my nose in a text book (there was no internet in my youth eh).

But between 20 and 25 I was not abstaining, I was just not getting anywhere 'getting lucky"

 

[Maktub]

Hm, for me it seems that most of the posters in this thread seem to want to dosify their sex. Things like "not until", "not before", "only after", "I plan on losing it when"... I don't know, but it all sounds as if you wanted the perfect setting for the first time. Why? Do you expect to have the greatest ride on a bike the first time you use it? Or make the best test in a subject on the first term?

Also, the fact that we use the term "lose"... well, it sounds as if we were losing something, when we're actually gaining experience, knowledge about the very same life (and its origin) and rejoicing in pleasure.

Yes, this is an apollogy of sex. Seriously, there's no hurry, but there's no reason to fear it or postpone it if one feels like it

 

[Toni Plutonij]

WOW, so many interesting posts and thoughts!

Mine first time wasn't that good at all, I somehow always imagined that it should be perfect and all, but first sex won't ever be the best you'll experience, from my opinion, if you're with the girl that you love, first sex is something that should be done, so you can enjoy in sex after!
First sex will always be kinda weirdish, probably both of you will be shy (unless the girl is a nympho), and it'll never turn out the way you expect it, but every other time after the first, it'll be better and better and better..

I'm still with the girl I had my first sex, we're engaged as well, in a relationship 4 years and a bit over 1 month..Before that we were friends for a year or so, so I know her really well!
I really feel like I found the love of my life, and will spend the rest of it with her!
At the beginning we were really maniacs about sex, lately sh has some problems, we'll have to go to surgery and all that bad stuff, so we're "taking a break" from physical activities..

 

[Vater Unser]

I'm almost 21 and still a virgin...
Never really made an effort to lose it. I'd just feel awful walking into some club and basically get some chick I don't know AT ALL to sleep with me.
That kind of "dating" just screams of desperate horniness...Could as well visit a brothel

That's not saying I'm not open for one-night-stands...But walking up to some strange girl and touting for her affection just to get her to do me would make me feel disgusted of myself. And without wanting to judge every one of them, it's mostly those kind of chicks who (for me) don't seem to have any appealing personality whatsoever.
I wouldn't say 'no' if I just randomly met a nice girl, maybe through a friend or something, and we got into talking and sometime later ended up in bed, though. I just didn't have that kind of luck so far

Well, that was I lie. I did have that kind of luck once, and recalling that day, she would've probably totally fucked me, but I was too much of a pussy to ask her. Blast it!

Anyway, on top of it, I also just don't feel comfortable with my body shape at the moment. I lost almost 25kgs like 3 years ago, but again gained like 10kgs ever since. Damn, that was my chance to go.

Even though many chicks told me I'm "not fat at all", I'm absolutely positive I am. Fuck their sympathy, I don't need anyone to tell me that I don't need to lose any weight, when it's obvious I do. Well, I'm far from the shape of a sphere, but still like 20kgs overweight.
I've been planning to regularly visit a gym for like a year now, but there's always been something else that kept me from doing it...Mostly the ridiculously high monthly fees most gyms ask for. But now that I'm going to university, I can train for much cheaper (like 60€ for half a year - that's 10€ a month, and the gym's supposedly just as good as any other gym). Once exams are over, I'll start bringing my body back into shape. Going to university is without any doubt the best chance ever in life to meet some awesome girls, so wish me luck

It might interest you to know that I've never even really fallen in love with a girl, either. I dunno, I think I was just unlucky enough to live in a small town where only stupid cunts live. Now that I'm living somewhere entirely else, I've already started to meet girls who, well, kinda apply more to my tastes

I also don't take virginity that important. If I get the chance to shag a girl, I won't spend too much thought on whether she's the right one or not. Unless of course it's obvious it'd make things worse in the end, like her being an ex-girlfriend of one of my friends, who happens to still love her, or something. Of course, if I'm not attracted to her in the first place, I won't do it. But it's pretty obvious to me that my first time will most likely not be with a girl I really, REALLY love, so that doesn't leave all that much room for disappointment. Yes, it'd be awesome if it really was the perfect girl for me, but I'm certainly not planning on still being a virgin when I'm 30. The sex itself doesn't have to be super-orgasmic, either...How rude would it be to say "Man, that was so bad, I really wish I didn't sleep with her"? If some girl said the same thing about me behind my back, that'd be like my worst nightmare.
I also don't care if it's vaginal, anal or oral sex...Personally, I think it's just retarded to make any difference there, like "Hole Nr. 1? Na-ah, not yet! Hole Nr. 2? There you go!". That really makes no sense to me, unless the girl's maybe still afraid of vaginal sex for some reason. If she doesn't want the guy to penetrate Hole Nr. 1 just in order to "keep her virginity", she shouldn't fuck him AT ALL, period. Is that what virginity is to some people? Keeping the hymen, a fucking piece of skin? That's the dumbest definition of virginity I've ever heard of, ever. So when a girl breaks her hymen masturbating, she's not a virgin anymore? Holy fucking god. Defining losing virginity as getting penetrated in the vagina is just equally dumb. Anal sex means that a guy sticks his wiener into a girl's pooper. So "reserving" hole nr. 1 for "the right guy" pretty much translates to "I'm not the kind of slut who loses her virginity to the first guy, but still enough of a slut to suck on his cock and let him penetrate my ass". Congratulations, I don't care, you still lost your virginity, since you fucking fucked a guy, for christ's sake.
What if two people really love each other, but just prefer oral sex, or something completely different, let's say bagpiping? Will they be virgins forever? What about homosexual people?
Who even got up with this ridiculous excuse for not losing virginity by not having vaginal sex? "Son, say, did you have sex with that girl?" "No, I didn't*! Hihihi!"
(* We just had anal sex!)

It's the thought that counts, the decision to bend over for a guy, not the goddamn hole you get fucked in. Anal, vaginal...Isn't it both the same act, done for the very same reason?

 

[Agjsdfd]

i am no virgin, and am pretty ez going... if you know what I mean

. I dont really bother. AND I dont know how much it changed me...

@Vater Unser
how much do you weigh lol? why concerned bout weight?

 

[Shabadage]

I was 15 when I lost mine with a girl I had been dating for about 3 months. It was extremely awkward (Both our first times), but we both enjoyed it enough to continue screwing like rabbits for 5 more months till I moved to Colorado. This girl was my first love, and as is typical with first loves; you never forget them. We'd frequently hook up whenever I went back to RI, though I do still feel guilty about some of those times (one/both of us weren't single).

I wouldn't trade those times for anything in the world. There was something pure about it; something I've rarely been able to capture again. I have a feeling it's because of that first love thing I previously mentioned.

 

[golden]

I also don't care if it's vaginal, anal or oral sex...Personally, I think it's just retarded to make any difference there

wait, are you saying there is no difference between the two? wtf serious? outside of defining virginity or whatever your post was about, there really is a huge difference there.

 

[Licardo7]

Kind of off topic but do many of you, particularly the people in school, objectify girls, only looking out for the "hottest chicks" or do you actually look for personality.

Yes, I do look for personality because I learned that most of the girls that are in my school that are "smokin" are stuck up bitches and shallow. I don't objectify girls but it's hard not to get distracted once in a wile.

I have lost my virginity to my hand

at the age of

I think 12 or 13 and it was meh. Planing to lose it in college or something but I won't rush. Mean wile I have to rely on my hentai.

P.S: yay, new smileys

 

[Vulpes Abnocto]

I have lost my virginity to my hand

at the age of

I think 12 or 13

Many of this thread's respondents seem to define the loss of virginity differently from one another;

but I think most of us can agree that this does not constitute a loss of virginity.




Not even if you had friends watching.



No offense intended.

 

[Twiffles]

Nope, I still have mine in tact.. Could have lost it, but choose not to. Saving it for when my girlfriend wants to, I guess.
Kinda hard, seeing as she is afraid of men in general. Oh well, I'm not going anywhere anytime soon. I can wait.

 

[golden]

I have lost my virginity to my hand

at the age of

I think 12 or 13

Many of this thread's respondents seem to define the loss of virginity differently from one another;

but I think most of us can agree that this does not constitute a loss of virginity.




Not even if you had friends watching.



No offense intended.

I'm pretty sure that was a joke as in he is still a virgin but jacks off.

 

[Cyan]

I also don't care if it's vaginal, anal or oral sex...Personally, I think it's just retarded to make any difference there

wait, are you saying there is no difference between the two? wtf serious? outside of defining virginity or whatever your post was about, there really is a huge difference there.

it's a matter of culture.

I know American people have a different culture about sex than European.
I learn it on a TV report. Though it may have been wrong, but judging the comment here I see it's a fact.

For American, oral sex is not sex and is not a sin or a betrayed, like President B. Clinton did announce it without a problem, because it's not considered an offense as if it was vaginal.

American young people can have oral or anal sex and still says "I didn't have sex yet".


For european culture, sex in "having sex" is right to the moment it involve penetration.
Only masturbation is not considered virginity loss (but may be a point of view to some people).
As for blowjobs, I think it's most considered masturbation than having sex and losing virginity.

 

[Toni Plutonij]

it's a matter of culture.

I know American people have a different culture about sex than European.
I learn it on a TV report. Though it may have been wrong, but judging the comment here I see it's a fact.

For American, oral sex is not sex and is not a sin or a betrayed, like President B. Clinton did announce it without a problem, because it's not considered an offense as if it was vaginal.

American young people can have oral or anal sex and still says "I didn't have sex yet".


For european culture, sex in "having sex" is right to the moment it involve penetration.
Only masturbation is not considered virginity loss (but may be a point of view to some people).
As for blowjobs, I think it's most considered masturbation than having sex and losing virginity.

I'll backup on that, also from this thread I see that American people tend to do oral sex and anal sex before vaginal, so they would "preserve" himen (or virginity.....yeah right

)..
But here, oral sex isn't that spread, you'll get some girl to sex with you easier then blow you, and anal sex is something that's rarely done, and much less talked about!

 

[Shelleeson]

havent lost it
and wont lose it until marriage
yes. im THAT conservative

keep in mind if you lose your virginity at a young age with a random someone
you're fucking someone's future spouse.

Well to be blunt, I'm the virgin of the vagina, not the ass.

To be descriptive I had my first sex; well ANAL sex (the sex where you duke a girl inside the butt) at the age of 14 the same year that 9/11 happened. I remember it happen when oldest brother brought a two girls inside the apartment, he wanted me to screw with this girl that's the sister of the girl that my oldest brother was hanging with at that time. She did a few boys and I was just another sucker but I wasn't THAT dumb like all other males; no offense. So we chatted and I wasn't ready, she kept her persistence and she giving me a blowjob and I just wanted to get it out of the way so I did her in the ass. Not in the vagina.

I take virginity very important, I'm waiting to have a date, it grows into a relationship, then marriage and finally sex.
Until that time comes I'm still a virgin >.> since I didn't orgasm inside her ass.

are you serious?
i don't wanna burst your bubble here but you had sex it doesn't matter which hole you put it in

there's a saying in the uk, every hole's a goal (yes i know it's not a very nice saying but i didn't make it up)
it's like saying because someone has a caesarean they don't have kids (or they haven't given birth)

or if they didn't inhale they haven't really smoked

you may not like the person or the situation you had it in but you don't get to wipe it away
don't think i'm having a go at you these are just the facts
yep i've had sex although i wasn't very happy about it the first time it happened neither was i sober

gin = bad day and silly decision making

 

[Maktub]

it's a matter of culture.

I know American people have a different culture about sex than European.
I learn it on a TV report. Though it may have been wrong, but judging the comment here I see it's a fact.

For American, oral sex is not sex and is not a sin or a betrayed, like President B. Clinton did announce it without a problem, because it's not considered an offense as if it was vaginal.

American young people can have oral or anal sex and still says "I didn't have sex yet".


For european culture, sex in "having sex" is right to the moment it involve penetration.
Only masturbation is not considered virginity loss (but may be a point of view to some people).
As for blowjobs, I think it's most considered masturbation than having sex and losing virginity.

I'll backup on that, also from this thread I see that American people tend to do oral sex and anal sex before vaginal, so they would "preserve" himen (or virginity.....yeah right

)..
But here, oral sex isn't that spread, you'll get some girl to sex with you easier then blow you, and anal sex is something that's rarely done, and much less talked about!

Now that's soemthing really interesting and with which I'll have to agree, too.

 

[Vincent T]

Nope, haven't lost it yet, only 13 years old. A long way to go.

 

[Eternal Myst]

Lost it.When I was 13 I banged a cute guy.I was gay back then.I fucked never got fucked.
Looking back now I do regret it.

at 15 I decided\changed\whatever to go straight and have fun with girls, but it was anal sex.

When you live in a shithole of suburbia and have an empty wallet, and have no parents, and your sister is your poor guardian, and everything in life bites you in the ass...well you need something to make you happy every once in a while.

I don't think that having anal sex counts as losing your virginity.

I wouldn't know, and I wouldn't care.

 

[Maktub]

You... "decided" to go straight..?