tinymonkeyt said:
alucard77 said:
Well, I am here to tell you, that all of that is BS. No girl is really worth it.
Realistically, most woman stuff is a bunch of crap, that they pull us into.
Never have just one in the picture. Never believe the BS, that men should be faithful.
If you just have fun with them, and you can BS with them, it always works out better.
im so surprised at the way guys look at girls nowadays.
maybe you just have a bad choice in women.
not ALL women are like this you know.
thats what i hate about this forum
you bag on your girlfriends/women in general all the time
and its really demoralizing
blahblah they manipulate us blahblah theyre bitches blahblah
yet. guys arent perfect. not even near.
anyway. on topic:
sorry bortz you had to run into a girl like that. if she's just using you, just forget about her.
shes not worth it.
cancel hangouts, stop calling, avoid her. hangout with your bros.
just keep your mind off her and try to move on :/
I love my wife more then anything. She is the right person for me, and I respect her and I respect other woman. The fact is that respect should be equal. In this instance, do you feel like this girl provided equal respect to this guy? She lied, because she couldn't be a big enough person to tell him if she didn't like him. Then she strung him along, because she wanted some one to make her feel good about herself, while maybe other guys she dated made her feel bad about herself. She did a lot more damage then she could have if she was just honest.
The advice I am giving is based for a 20 year old. I would never provide the same advice for a 30 year old. Lets go over the parts you dislike:
1- Realistically, most woman stuff is a bunch of crap, that they pull us into.
The previous paragraph with her actions explain that in fact she did bring a bunch of crap onto him. In addition, I hate to tell you, but yes, the majority of 20 year old woman are immature and have no clue what they want, and how to deal with "nice guys". That is the age when you discover who you are and make mistakes. Most of which hurt the opposite sex.
The same can be said of Men. Trust me, I know plenty of Men who are real assholes. I have been in my day as well. But I did learn one thing. I am going to be honest. I am going to let you know what your getting yourself into. If you make the decision to go for it, it's your decision. The truth is 1000x better then lies that save some ones feelings. That's the problem, too many people lie now a days.
2- Never have just one in the picture. Never believe the BS, that men should be faithful.
This guy liked her, so he put all his eggs in her basket. She knew this. Who knows, maybe he would have met his true love in the 5 months he wasted. During the courting process you should have your options open. At 20 you should have your options open. People introduce you to new things, and your always changing as a person. To assume you'll be with the person your with at 20 when your 40 is just foolishness. That is why I am saying don't put your eggs in one basket, obviously, she didn't.
If the person shows that she is worth it, then feel free to dive in and give her your all. If she gives any less, meet some one else that will give you more. I have given this advice to both men and women. This works both ways.
3- If you just have fun with them, and you can BS with them, it always works out better.
Having fun with your significant other is the point. Love torrid relationships where all you talk about love never lasts. You can't sustain the highest of high feelings forever. All the ones that I have tried to sustain like that led to failures. It doesn't work. Be yourself, and have fun. I am not sure how that is anti-woman.
The main thing that I am trying to say is this. Yes, the majority of woman out there at 20 have no clue and the majority of them, because of having no clue do things like this. The same is true for men.
I didn't write anywhere in my post that this chick was a bitch. I am sure that this dude, being a nice guy could have been over bearing at times. I have seen that happen as well. She may have felt, I can't get with this guy because I will never live up to his expectations of me as a girlfriend. She could have said, I am 20 and just want to have fun, that's why I don't want to date, but I'll hook up. Maybe he didn't see those signs. There is a lot that is not known.
But I think my advice is sound. People bring luggage (crap) into any relationship and dump it on the other person. If you limit yourself to only that person, you can miss the wonderful other woman that may treat you better then the one that you are courting. If you cheat on the wonderful one your with, then your an idiot.
The main point is that you need to be a confident person, and never take some ones shit. This is probably the hardest thing someone between the ages of 15-25 can ever do. Don't be an ass, and just be honest. I am sorry if you disagree with me, but not all woman (or Men) deserve your respect. At 20, I would say there are more who don't deserve your respect then those who do.
At 31, where I am now, I am surrounded by wonderful women, who admit to their mistakes at their youth that hurt themselves and others. That's how you learn. But please don't act like you don't have girl friends of your own that you know that are being "bitches". You know you do. I know plenty of guys who were "dicks" when I was 20.