Rape and pregnancy: the ignorance of the GOP

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Shouldn't a woman be allowed to decide what goes on with her body? I really don't think anyone has the right to force a woman to have something she doesn't want. Pro Choice.

I've been hearing this catchy little argument my whole life in favor of abortion-on-demand. And I consider the logic flawed, because the mother's choice extends well beyond her body if she decides to have the child, and yet the father's circumstances and interests are completely disregarded .... if you get a girl pregnant and want to keep the baby and would even raise it on your own without her help, but she wants an abortion, then there's nothing you can do to prevent that baby from being snuffed out. But if you get a girl pregnant and you feel you're not ready and want the abortion done, but she doesn't, then tough shit you're gonna pay.

You say, "I really don't think anyone has the right to force a woman to have something she doesn't want," but that's exactly the power the pregnant woman is given over the father. Should the father be allowed to 'opt out' of his responsibility for the child he helped create if he wants the pregnancy aborted but the girl refuses?? It seems to me all the arguments for forcing the father 'own up' to his responsibility for the child are the same arguments that are disregarded when it comes to the girl's responsibility, if she wants an abortion.

I do see you point, but it's the woman who will have to carry the baby for 9 months not the guy. Although yeah it would be nice if the potential father had more of a say, it's just not his body to command. It's hers and if she decides having a baby is not for her then what on Earth gives anyone the right to say otherwise?


I don't think you do see my point, because I was never advocating that a woman be prevented from having an abortion if that is what she wants. I abhor abortion, but if you read my previous posts you'll see I am opposed to any legal prohibition or government involvement. My point was about the unfair Catch-22 of helplessness the father is put in. -- If the girl wants an abortion but he doesn't, tough shit the kid gets aborted. Now, it's her body so I agree with you this is how it should be. A woman should not be forced to go through with a pregnancy and give birth to the child if that is really against her wishes. But if the father wants her to have an abortion, and she refuses because she wants the baby, why is he forced to provide financial support, health insurance coverage, and etc for 18 years?? If you think the woman has the absolute legal right to get out of the responsibility of having the child, why isn't the man given the same option? We're supposed to have equal rights for women and men, so let's have equal rights.
Because there is simply too much to read on here and I become uninterested incredibly fast. Yes it would be lovely if both men and women (and everything inbetween) had equal rights, but it all boils down to the fact that she carries the baby so it all goes in her favour. Laws are incredibly flawed but that's what we're governed by unfortunately =/
 

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So she chose to be raped? She decided the contraception won't work this time around? That argument is flawed.

If you had been reading my other posts, you'd have known that I am not against abortion for raped victims because "they did not have a choice". Consent between couples is the choice I was referring to.
 

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If anyone is interested, here is where I stand:

I'm one of those people that believes as soon as the sperm hits the egg it is now human. So, I do not believe that abortion should be used in any circumstance or at any time. It is extremely unfortunate and saddening when a woman gets raped and becomes pregnant but I do not believe someone should commit murder for any reason. (Now, you may believe that the fertilized egg doesn't become human until a certain stage in development so this wouldn't actually be murder, and that is fine. You have your belief, I have mine.) A child is a gift. It is always a gift. If someone doesn't think they are ready for the child, or they want to get rid of the child because every time they see him/her and it reminds them of the unfortunate event, they can always still put it up for adoption. The child can then have the opportunity to bring joy into the life of a different family. I believe there are always better options than abortion.
 

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It's not about killing the fetus for the sake of the mother, it's about "when a woman no longer welcomes this foreign entity inside her uterus, it no longer has the right to stay." That's what the goal of abortion is: get the fetus out of the woman's body. But of course the fetus won't be able to survive outside. But that doesn't mean we can force the woman to keep it in just for the benefits of the fetus.
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That "foreign entity" is her own child, but never mind that. Let's consider your closing, and the assumption that, "But of course the fetus won't be able to survive outside."

Suppose the fetus could survive outside the womb? And I'm not talking about the "partial birth abortion" scenario. I mean, suppose that through advancements in medical science it becomes possible in the future to "get the fetus out of the woman's body" but keep it alive through to full development?? It's not such a long shot. A few years ago I had a discussion with someone who worked in an neonatal ICU who told me that just during his career the number of weeks at which a 'preemie' could be kept alive had shrunk from around 28 weeks to about 22 weeks. So, when science reaches the point that any fetus can be saved, and a pregnant woman decides she wants that foreign entity out of her body, should she still be held responsible as the parent of that child if it survives? Or is abortion really just about eliminating the consequences of irresponsible behavior?

In a lot of the situations where the woman ends up choosing abortion, abortion is actually the most responsible solution at that moment in time, certainly much more responsible than any of the other alternatives suggested by uninterested, faraway parties who have absolutely no personal stake in the woman's situation. These people are too busy with their own agendas to look after the best interests of the mother, the child, and the family.

Once the child is born, their best interest should be the focal point in all discussions related to parenting. I don't see any particular reason to treat the children "born" under abortion any differently than other newborns? There are already existing processes for parents of newborns, whether they choose to be the legal parents or not.

Re: equality, once a child is born, *both* parents share equal parental responsibilities, regardless of their initial intentions before childbirth. A father who doesn't want the child has to provide financial support, just as a mother who doesn't want the child has to do the same, as well. So there's your "equal rights" for women and men. The only inequality is in the period before the child's born, and the things that happened and the decisions that were made during this period (pregnancy). But this inequality is dictated by the inequality in biology.


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I didn't call your angle wrong because it's not "my" angle, but because it's not from the angle of anyone in question. So I demonstrated a way to look -- from the perspectives of those individuals whose bodies were actually involved -- at what the right to bodily integrity would mean to "them". That's all.

Why are there so many contradictions in your posts? It's almost as if you'd never QAed your ideas before you uttered them...

If it's truly, TRULY, your conviction that abortion is equivalent to killing a human being, then you can't justify allowing exceptions for ra.pe. Since when can murder ever be justified on grounds of the murder victim's mother being a victim of ra.pe? Can a baby be legally killed because their mother was ra.ped?

If we are to assume that a fetus should have the rights of a person, when should it begin having these rights? "A fetus that is in the process of forming organs which already has a nervous system in place or is in the process of forming one" would be a third-trimester fetus. So first- and second-trimester abortions are ok?

From the perspective of the fetus, as long as it's in one piece with no missing body parts, its bodily integrity could be considered intact. How can this non-violation of the fetus's bodily integrity be used to argue against the mother's right to her own bodily integrity?

If it can't be argued in that way, then can it be argued with the fetus's right to life? If the fetus's right to life can be argued in favour of trespass to the person for the mother, then it would open the door for involuntary organ donations. (whether or not the donor and the recipient are physically attached to each other is a completely irrelevant point, as it was never even used in the argument to support right to life over right to bodily integrity to begin with.)

Another equally irrelevant point is whether or not the pregnancy itself could've, would've, should've been prevented in retrospect. Even if you were to take her past (in)actions as some form of "opt-out"/"implied" consent to being pregnant, she still retains the right to withdraw that consent at a later date. When she does withdraw consent, the only argument left is her right to bodily integrity vs. fetus's right to life.

If someone's right to life > another person's right to bodily integrity, is valid if and only if, during pregnancy, then fetuses would have more rights than any other groups of people. What is the justification for this?

Human reproductive biology gives the mother the choice to place her own priorities before those of the fetus, by the fact that women can terminate their pregnancies if they need to (abortions have been performed ever since ancient times, often unsafely). To justify overriding this "right" that nature has given women (control over their own bodies) through social means, you're going to need some very rational arguments, that can stand the test of scrutiny, to demonstrate the system provided by nature is inferior to the one you propose. I have yet to see anyone do that.

What I have seen so far is nothing more than an irrational desire to punish pregnant women for their alleged "irresponsible behaviours", so as to satisfy someone else's own notion of "justice". Thankfully, this desire isn't nearly as strong when it comes to other groups, otherwise smokers would have to face even more troubles than they already have...
 
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@[member='leic7']

If it's truly, TRULY, your conviction that abortion is equivalent to killing a human being, then you can't justify allowing exceptions for ra.pe. Since when can murder ever be justified on grounds of the murder victim's mother being a victim of ra.pe? Can a baby be legally killed because their mother was ra.ped?
Do read what I said - I mentioned that it should be an early stage of the pregnancy. What I meant by that was that neither internal organs nor the nervous system is present in the developing embryo yet, meaning that it's still just a lump of flesh. I did say that if the child is alive and kicking then it's too late, even in the case of [censored]. ;)

If it can't be argued in that way, then can it be argued with the fetus's right to life? If the fetus's right to life can be argued in favour of trespass to the person for the mother, then it would open the door for involuntary organ donations.
It's nothing like that - the womb is a temporary space the child occupies until it is capable of leaving. If there was a landslide and a person was under the mud on someone's property, you don't exactly sue him for trespassing. The child did not choose to be in the womb - it was put there by its parents and had no say in the matter as it didn't exist yet. It's not like organ donation - the womb is where it's supposed to be and is never physicaly removed from the mother's body.

What I have seen so far is nothing more than an irrational desire to punish pregnant women for their alleged "irresponsible behaviours", so as to satisfy someone else's own notion of "justice".
With the amount of contraception ad campaigns, its low prices and high accessibility, "irresponsible" is the understatement of this still young century - it's a crime againts reason that should not cause suffering to others in any form or fashion.
 

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If anyone is interested, here is where I stand:

I'm one of those people that believes as soon as the sperm hits the egg it is now human. So, I do not believe that abortion should be used in any circumstance or at any time. It is extremely unfortunate and saddening when a woman gets raped and becomes pregnant but I do not believe someone should commit murder for any reason. (Now, you may believe that the fertilized egg doesn't become human until a certain stage in development so this wouldn't actually be murder, and that is fine. You have your belief, I have mine.) A child is a gift. It is always a gift. If someone doesn't think they are ready for the child, or they want to get rid of the child because every time they see him/her and it reminds them of the unfortunate event, they can always still put it up for adoption. The child can then have the opportunity to bring joy into the life of a different family. I believe there are always better options than abortion.
What if the woman is at risk of dying if she chooses to go through with the pregnancy
 

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So she chose to be raped? She decided the contraception won't work this time around? That argument is flawed.

If you had been reading my other posts, you'd have known that I am not against abortion for raped victims because "they did not have a choice". Consent between couples is the choice I was referring to.
Then you need to make that clearer, I have little time to read through every single post.
 

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So she chose to be raped? She decided the contraception won't work this time around? That argument is flawed.

If you had been reading my other posts, you'd have known that I am not against abortion for raped victims because "they did not have a choice". Consent between couples is the choice I was referring to.
Then you need to make that clearer, I have little time to read through every single post.

It was my first post in this discussion on the first page.....
 

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So she chose to be raped? She decided the contraception won't work this time around? That argument is flawed.

If you had been reading my other posts, you'd have known that I am not against abortion for raped victims because "they did not have a choice". Consent between couples is the choice I was referring to.
Then you need to make that clearer, I have little time to read through every single post.

It was my first post in this discussion on the first page.....
Lol was it? I didn't read all of it. I get bored easily. Like I only read the first post then I picked other random posts to read.
 

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If anyone is interested, here is where I stand:

I'm one of those people that believes as soon as the sperm hits the egg it is now human. So, I do not believe that abortion should be used in any circumstance or at any time. It is extremely unfortunate and saddening when a woman gets raped and becomes pregnant but I do not believe someone should commit murder for any reason. (Now, you may believe that the fertilized egg doesn't become human until a certain stage in development so this wouldn't actually be murder, and that is fine. You have your belief, I have mine.) A child is a gift. It is always a gift. If someone doesn't think they are ready for the child, or they want to get rid of the child because every time they see him/her and it reminds them of the unfortunate event, they can always still put it up for adoption. The child can then have the opportunity to bring joy into the life of a different family. I believe there are always better options than abortion.
What if the woman is at risk of dying if she chooses to go through with the pregnancy
A parent is there to love and help their child. How can a mother help her child if she kills it? If she did end up dying, she wouldn't be able the help her child after the birth, but she still helped it in the sense that she carried it and let it develop in her until it could breathe on its own and not die once it was born. And what greater love is there than someone giving their life for another?
 

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I've learned you can't argue with certain people who are "pro-life". You seriously just can't. No matter what reason, whatever explanation, whatever call to reason, freedom, logic, love of another adult (sometimes even underage) human being, or even respect, they just won't listen. They'll carry on with this makeshift imaginary moral high horse and prance around on it because their heads are so far up their asses (or, more appropriately, women's wombs) that they are genuinely convinced they aren't retarded. Tell a pregnant [censored] victim that she should give birth to this baby because "its the right thing to do". Go on, I mean, they're only traumatized right? A little psychological trauma is no reason to put yourself in another's shoes.
 
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I've learned you can't argue with certain people who are "pro-life". You seriously just can't. No matter what reason, whatever explanation, whatever call to reason, freedom, logic, love of another adult (sometimes even underage) human being, or even respect, they just won't listen. They'll carry on with this makeshift imaginary moral high horse and prance around on it because their heads are so far up their asses (or, more appropriately, women's wombs) that they are genuinely convinced they aren't retarded. Tell a pregnant [censored] victim that she should give birth to this baby because "its the right thing to do". Go on, I mean, they're only traumatized right? A little psychological trauma is no reason to put yourself in another's shoes.

And why is it that you focus on the extreme rather than the general consensus of the "pro-life" group?

Very few people think that a raped victim should "deal with it" because, as said many times, it was not their choice to begin with. The rest of the "pro-life" group feels that if a woman goes through the process that leads to pregnancy by their own free will, then they should live with that decision rather than feel they should be able to get out of being responsible for their actions. Pro-choice? Getting pregnant was a choice, the choice to have intercourse because one leads to the other, no matter how you look at it.
 

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I've learned you can't argue with certain people who are "pro-life". You seriously just can't. No matter what reason, whatever explanation, whatever call to reason, freedom, logic, love of another adult (sometimes even underage) human being, or even respect, they just won't listen. They'll carry on with this makeshift imaginary moral high horse and prance around on it because their heads are so far up their asses (or, more appropriately, women's wombs) that they are genuinely convinced they aren't retarded. Tell a pregnant [censored] victim that she should give birth to this baby because "its the right thing to do". Go on, I mean, they're only traumatized right? A little psychological trauma is no reason to put yourself in another's shoes.

And why is it that you focus on the extreme rather than the general consensus of the "pro-life" group?

Very few people think that a raped victim should "deal with it" because, as said many times, it was not their choice to begin with. The rest of the "pro-life" group feels that if a woman goes through the process that leads to pregnancy by their own free will, then they should live with that decision rather than feel they should be able to get out of being responsible for their actions. Pro-choice? Getting pregnant was a choice, the choice to have intercourse because one leads to the other, no matter how you look at it.

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Given that and the context of this thread ("Legitimate" [censored]), its safe to assume I don't mean all. I read your comment earlier and this wasn't even about you. Hell, that's why I even focused on that specific extreme. Those are a very real threat. Maybe you haven't seen a girl confess to her pastor at a youth group that she was [censored] and pregnant, and that she didn't know what to do and that she didn't want to have a baby because her family would never understand only to have the pastor say that she should have the baby regardless because it was a "Gift from God" and that she should feel blessed, but that very nearly fucking sickens me. Its not even an issue whether they're a minority or not. I've made it my personal issue because its a very real threat, and a persistent one. This viewpoint of forced pregnancy being a "Gift from God" in its entirety needs to be expunged.

Now, since you're pro-life (not that I'm bashing you for your viewpoint as long as you're not bat-shit crazy), how would you draft a piece of legislation centered around providing tax-payer funded abortions to those who were raped? How would you sort out those who were raped from those who weren't? No one can seem to find a proper method of weeding out these details and this is where everyone is stuck. There is no effective method to sort this out. So, we're stuck with choices of:

1) Taxpayer-funded abortions

2) Privately-funded abortions

3) No abortions
 

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Sorry, my mistake when you said "certain" people.

With your "gift from God" example, even I am repulsed by that thinking, and I am a religious person at that. There was no love in that violent act, and that seems to put the blame on the victim rather than the offender by forcing the victim to carry the bastard child (pardon my language). That is why even though I am pro-life, I am also pro-abortion for [censored] victims.
 

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Sorry, my mistake when you said "certain" people.

With your "gift from God" example, even I am repulsed by that thinking, and I am a religious person at that. There was no love in that violent act, and that seems to put the blame on the victim rather than the offender by forcing the victim to carry the bastard child (pardon my language). That is why even though I am pro-life, I am also pro-abortion for [censored] victims.

Imagine what I thought hearing it from a church goer the next day. That church was dropped quicker than....something. But my point still is that there's no way to sort out who's been raped and who hasn't and there never will be.
 

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@[member='Foxi4']

Yes, and what you said is full of contradictions.

Is there an exception for ra.pe victims to obtain abortion? Yes or No?

Is there a period in which ra.pe victims can have abortion, where others can't? Yes or no?

Is the "cut-off" time for a ra.pe victim to get an abortion *before* "it becomes a human life"? Yes or no?

*Before* "it becomes a human life", can other women get an abortion? Yes or no?

Can women get abortions during the FIRST-trimester? Yes or no?

Can ra.pe victims get abortions in the FIRST-trimester? Yes or no?

Can women get abortions during the SECOND-trimester? Yes or no?

Can ra.pe victims get abortions in the SECOND-trimester? Yes or no?

About the connection between involuntary organ donation and involuntary pregnancy, I think all those analogies might be distracting you, or something. Just forget about pregnancy, the unborn child, conjoined twins, and all the rest. Just focus on involuntary organ donation alone. Can you tell us why involuntary organ donation is not okay? Again, focus. Why isn't it okay?


@[member='DiscostewSM']

I'm curious in which category you would put surrogate moms, who help other couples to carry their biological offspring. What happens if they change their mind during pregnancy?


@[member='Castiel']

If you were a parent, and if there were a "room" that you could send your child to, in which your child would have a chance to live a happy life, and also a chance to suffer a miserable existence; would you send your child into that "room", not certain what the outcome would be?

I wouldn't. I would love and cherish my child too much to GAMBLE on their future and happiness. If you win, that's wonderful. But what if you lose? Of course, the "room" is a metaphor for the world.

@[member='leic7']

If it's truly, TRULY, your conviction that abortion is equivalent to killing a human being, then you can't justify allowing exceptions for ra.pe. Since when can murder ever be justified on grounds of the murder victim's mother being a victim of ra.pe? Can a baby be legally killed because their mother was ra.ped?
Do read what I said - I mentioned that it should be an early stage of the pregnancy. What I meant by that was that neither internal organs nor the nervous system is present in the developing embryo yet, meaning that it's still just a lump of flesh. I did say that if the child is alive and kicking then it's too late, even in the case of [censored]. ;)

If it can't be argued in that way, then can it be argued with the fetus's right to life? If the fetus's right to life can be argued in favour of trespass to the person for the mother, then it would open the door for involuntary organ donations.
It's nothing like that - the womb is a temporary space the child occupies until it is capable of leaving. If there was a landslide and a person was under the mud on someone's property, you don't exactly sue him for trespassing. The child did not choose to be in the womb - it was put there by its parents and had no say in the matter as it didn't exist yet. It's not like organ donation - the womb is where it's supposed to be and is never physicaly removed from the mother's body.

What I have seen so far is nothing more than an irrational desire to punish pregnant women for their alleged "irresponsible behaviours", so as to satisfy someone else's own notion of "justice".
With the amount of contraception ad campaigns, its low prices and high accessibility, "irresponsible" is the understatement of this still young century - it's a crime againts reason that should not cause suffering to others in any form or fashion.
 
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I've learned you can't argue with certain people who are "pro-life". You seriously just can't. No matter what reason, whatever explanation, whatever call to reason, freedom, logic, love of another adult (sometimes even underage) human being, or even respect, they just won't listen. They'll carry on with this makeshift imaginary moral high horse and prance around on it because their heads are so far up their asses (or, more appropriately, women's wombs) that they are genuinely convinced they aren't retarded. Tell a pregnant [censored] victim that she should give birth to this baby because "its the right thing to do". Go on, I mean, they're only traumatized right? A little psychological trauma is no reason to put yourself in another's shoes.

I know exactly how that feels when trying to have that type of discussion with my religious father.
It's simply not worth the brain aneurism.
 

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