Tips on getting over a relationship

[Issac]

Well, no... swedish girls aren't all closed.. depends on the person.... Like in any country..

is she swedish? as in born here?

well, you could do the easy thing, and ask her what's going on... "why were you acting like that" or something...

(you're a girl, and she's a girl... am i right?) if so.. then she's not doing this all for make up sex atleast

haha... (sorryyyy)...

Bottom line: Ask her what's going on... that you arn't feeling well when it is like this...

 

[deathfisaro]

Man I can so understand that.
Cheer up, I was dumped after a week of relationship, because she actually wanted to go out with my friend but toyed with me since that didn't go well. I thinkshe's the only ex I don't talk to any more. I still hang out fine with the other ten. (And I never dumped anybody, I was the one who always get dumped

)

Usuaully I play games as if Decepticons are gonna dominate the world tomorrow to get over a broken relationship. Spending time playing games is what I sacrifice in a relationship, so I need to stock up some activity until my games hibernate.

 

[RayorDragonFall]

Yeah born in Sweden.
Btw, what makes you think she aint? XD I'm not sure if I should feel insulted lol.

And I have asked her, but she just like changes topic or she says she doesn't know why she treats me like this, and that shes sorry blah blah bullshit bullshit. What I think when she says sorry is "Yeah I'm sorta sorry, but Ill probably do it again" kinda thing.

 

[Veho]

And I have asked her, but she just like changes topic or she says she doesn't know why she treats me like this, and that shes sorry blah blah bullshit bullshit.

Maybe she's moody, cranky, depressed, or has a problem of some kind that she's reluctant to share with you (my bets on that one). I know I tend to snap at people or act funny when I'm having problems.

Either that or it really is "Yeah I'm sorta sorry, but Ill probably do it again". And I don't know how to find out for sure.

 

[iwakura]

My advice is not to do anything you'd regret. If drugs would honestly help you through this (and not leave behind consequences) then...well I still say that's going way too far. If you want to break up, make sure you won't regret it in a month. Fixing something from where it is right now will be a lot easier than breaking up and trying to fix it from there...

 

[4ppleseed]

artin @ Jul 10 2007, 03:33 PM)]RayorDragonFall is a WOMAN.

Fine, fine ... go f*ck HIS best friend then

 

[RayorDragonFall]

I dunno Iwakura, I dunno if I want to keep things anymore. Like I know I do, I hate giving up on things and I always seem to forgive and give people more chances than they deserve, but I have self respect and I can't let her treat me like a bag of shit she can use whenever she wants.
Yea shes hot and funny and stuff, she's special to me, but that shouldn't be a permit to mess with me and my feelings, and screwing me up. Like on my birthday, I actually had to wait like 2 hours and a half for her to show up, and when I asked why she had taken so long she said "oh I thought we weren't meeting up" and I got pissed, she saw I was pissed and ran back to the party she had been at.
She's made me stress so much and get angry, sad and disappointed. I've helped her become a better person, she was so screwed before, and this is what I get. Lol I remember shouting at her something like "Fine, go back and get wasted like you always do!" that day. She really really gets on my nerves sometimes.

 

[jaxxster]

Meh, Me and my lady recntly split up. That was 19 months long, Its gunna be hard at first but honestly time heals all...Go chill with your friends, I've found that helps so much, Find some other boys/girls to take your mind of things. Whatever you dont go chasing something that aint going to happen, You'll just get more hurt.

 

[RayorDragonFall]

You know what guys? When she stopped talking to me it looked like if it had finished. I got worried because even though she hurts me shes also been nice to me and stuff, and I recently had listened to an old song that I liked. I got the music sheet for 1000 miles by Vanessa Carlton, since I play the piano (easy song if you guys that play piano want something to mess about with) and was ready to record myself and send it to her, but now the way things were today I'm glad I didn't waste too much time on it. I dunno what has gone wrong to be honest.. Do I sound desperate? >.

 

[Little]

Lol, Little what do YOU do if those suggestions aren't coming from experience?
Or maybe you haven't had a break up yet.

It's very complex aye. I'm quite ashamed of the way it always works out. When my relationships start going bad, I tend to start getting unintentionally close to my best male friend of the time. I'll confide all the rubbish stuff that's going on to my best male friend. Then they tell me that they love me and I release I love them too and I end up breaking up with the boyfriend and "dating" the best friend. That's happened like uh 3 times now but now I'm with someone I super love and have no close r/l male friends =) and since I'm past my bi tendencies, no chance of it happening again. Obviously changing relationships so quickly, means no grieving.
That is all. That probably makes me seem like a bad person =/

 

[RayorDragonFall]

Little thats kinda confusing. I'm guessing your a girl, so what does "and since I'm past my bi tendencies" have to do with anything in your post? XD

 

[Issac]

Ah, well, I guess it all comes back to what you really want and feel.
1, Do you like her still?
2, Do you love her so much, you could get hurt a bit, and take it.
3, Will you regret it if you let it go?

Think about those...

 

[Darkforce]

RayorDragonFall - We can't comprehend your situation but, and I don't mean this in a nasty way, try not to dwell/contemplate on all this crap too much, okay

. It'll just eat you up and really f your head in.
If possible don't try and end things in some spectacular argument, I wouldn't say ignore her but give yourselves some space, let things cool down a bit and reassess things. In the mean time kick back and try to enjoy yourself, not like others have suggested by sleeping around or getting wasted >_> but like hang out with some other friends or make some new ones, travel about a bit maybe, socialise ~ Know any people you havn't talked to in a while? Go give them a call/text and see how they've been doing. Your social network extends beyond this one girl and there will be many people who enjoy your company, care about you and appreciate your friendship. Hang out with them and have fun.

 

[Issac]

yeah.. pretty much what darkforce said

 

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[Taras]

Deal with it.

 

[ozzyzak]

RayorDragonFall - We can't comprehend your situation but, and I don't mean this in a nasty way, try not to dwell/contemplate on all this crap too much, okay

. It'll just eat you up and really f your head in.
If possible don't try and end things in some spectacular argument, I wouldn't say ignore her but give yourselves some space, let things cool down a bit and reassess things. In the mean time kick back and try to enjoy yourself, not like others have suggested by sleeping around or getting wasted >_> but like hang out with some other friends or make some new ones, travel about a bit maybe, socialise ~ Know any people you havn't talked to in a while? Go give them a call/text and see how they've been doing. Your social network extends beyond this one girl and there will be many people who enjoy your company, care about you and appreciate your friendship. Hang out with them and have fun.

This is pretty much what you've got to do. What I've been doing since my relationship faded out. Definetly don't dwell on it.

Always remember that if you want to so badly be with the wrong person, imagine how great it will be when you find the right person. Cheesy, but true.

 

[sandreezy]

honestly bro, how old are you?

if your under 25, then who cares dude. you really shouldent, specially if it was only a 9 month relationship. i just got out of a 3 year relationship and let me tell you, i have never been happier.

im only 21, so in my point of view, i wasted 3 years of my life with one girl. i mean i liked her alot, but it wasnt like i was going to marry the b*tch. the way i see it, investing too much time in a relationship when your as young as i am is stupid. your wasting the best years of your life. you could be out having fun with your friends, sleeping with different women, doing whatever you want. (mainly sleeping with many, many women)

so your getting out of a 9 month relationship, be glad it wasnt any longer.

now! go out with your friends! pick up random chicks!!

 

[ozzyzak]

honestly bro, how old are you?

if your under 25, then who cares dude. you really shouldent, specially if it was only a 9 month relationship. i just got out of a 3 year relationship and let me tell you, i have never been happier.

im only 21, so in my point of view, i wasted 3 years of my life with one girl. i mean i liked her alot, but it wasnt like i was going to marry the b*tch. the way i see it, investing too much time in a relationship when your as young as i am is stupid. your wasting the best years of your life. you could be out having fun with your friends, sleeping with different women, doing whatever you want. (mainly sleeping with many, many women)

so your getting out of a 9 month relationship, be glad it wasnt any longer.

now! go out with your friends! pick up random chicks!!

Not to bust the bubble, but not all of us are whores. Some of us do want lasting, meaningful relationships. Let's not paint everyone with the same brush. Maybe you wasted three years of your life, but it's because you were with the wrong person who you weren't in love with, your mistake bro.

 

[jimmy j]