How do you make friends?

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  1. sarkwalvein

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    ^ this.
    Making friend would mean I have to lose time meeting and listening to them and won't be able to indulge in my lonely high quality pleasures as much. /s
     
  2. Cyan

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    that's how you make friend!
    Show interest in the other person, and talk about anythings (that you may share or not).


    I don't make friend, I think I'm frightening other people.
    people rarely share the same interest than me, and if they do I find them annoying (they are excessive in the way they love their things).
    I think it's my fault not keeping people near me, I don't do any effort keeping contact with others, but others don't seem to care either.

    I might frighten people I'm interested to be friend with because I tend to remember too much info, and they find it not normal, they looks like they are afraid I'm stalking them.


    I'm shy and don't talk much. people probably think I'm not interested/interesting.
    I listen more to other's talking, than share about me. If I talk about me, the conversation quickly become centered on me for hours and depressing and how I ended alone for 40 years, never had a girlfriend, why I have no friend and they all search a reason and try to teach me how to act to match their way of life, etc.
    it always end like I don't keep contact with anyone.
     
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  3. Quantumcat

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    Yeah that is tricky, you'd get along well with someone with the same experiences as you but they would likewise tend to be isolated so difficult to find.
     
  4. Stephano

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    When i declared my major in college, i did not no a single person. But since my degree is in engineering, a lot of us had to work together to get by. After 1.5 years, i truly consider these people i study with as friends.
     
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    What friends?! BAHAHAHAHA (help me)!!!
     
  6. Quantumcat

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    Ah yes, that's true. My two years living on campus were the most fun of my whole life. Playing pranks, having adventures, all around just having fun every single minute of every day. It was so easy since you see these people every day and you're all going through a similar life experience. A lot harder in regular life though - requires real effort
     
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  7. Meteor7

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    Along with the advice already given of being generally affable, I think it really helps to be a good judge of character so you can identify at a glance who you'd likely get along with.

    As for being affable, I'm not exactly be the right person to be giving advice on that, but I'd recommend not being overly needy, don't put your emotional baggage onto people, and try and make them laugh. I made a group of friends on the internet just by making atrocious puns, so I'd say just about anything is possible.
     
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    i thought that was Dizzee Rascal - Pussyole (Old Skool).....

    "A friend in need is a friend indeed
    But a friend with no money and no weed
    Could flip the script at a ridiculous speed"
     
  9. m-e

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    I’ve learned in life to not rely so much on people called “friends”. The same ones that disappear and you never hear of again. The same ones that won’t warm you up if you ever feel cold. I don’t socialize for shit, due to the wounds that I hold.
     
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    Make them while you can. It's much harder as you get older. Haven't had anyone I could call a friend since 2013 (when I worked at my old job).

    I went to college as an old person for 3 years to finally get my bachelor's degree because I was sick of minimum wage, but I was so focused on getting it out of the way (22 credits per semester), that I barely spoke to a single person while I was there. It didn't help that I was a million years older than everyone and had practically nothing in common. Even if I did (rare), I didn't want to feel like a creepy old guy trying to hang around with the young kids.

    2016-Present: new job, but still no friends. Whenever I saw a group of 3 or more people, I forced myself in to get a conversation going. I feel like there was some success, as some people started greeting me or telling me good bye. I'm deathly afraid to actually open up to anyone because I'm a closet weeb and everyone working there is a super normie.
     
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    You wouldn't pirate a friend, would you?
     
  13. MasterJ360

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    I had a lot of cool friends during my childhood up to the end of my school years, but life split us all apart, I went from that dude that loses in beer pong to a room-shut in gamer.
    Tho I'd say school or a job well net you a friend easily it all begins with a simple conversation ask to hangout and you got yourself a buddy especially if you bring the alcohol ;)
     
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    *cue ethics debate of whether cloning is taking away other people's potential friends*
     
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    WHAT FRIENDS??? AHAHAHAHAH

    No really though, I have a super hard time approaching and talking to people. I know what I'm supposed to do, I just can't seem to bring myself to do it when given the opportunity.
     
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    How do I make friends you say?
    It's easy, I just bend over n drop me pants!


    Jokes aside, idk.
    I have a really hard time trusting people.
     
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    Follow up question: how do some of you function without friends? I'm introverted and relatively antiaoxial myself but I couldn't live without my friends.
     
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    I have friends, just not many. As of right now, I have no clue because I am hopelessly depressed. I keep trying to reach out to people to no avail.
     
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  20. Cyan

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    we don't do it.
    it has always been like that, we don't know anything else?
    it's not like it's done on purpose, it just happen to be like that.

    you don't know if you couldn't live without your friends.
    I'm sure you could "live" (not die). just live differently?
     
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