Big boys dont cry in love?

[Agjsdfd]

Hey guys.. so here is the link to my previous blog and what happend in the past: Here The Other Blog

I will summarize, my girlfriend had an EX and when he popped up back in her life she got all confused and was going back and forth with me.

Now the new ending..

A lot has happened since then, we got very far and BIG LIFE TIME situations that i dont want to bring up. Such as police, getting arrested for private reasons..
Even after all the police case, and big changes(in bad way) in her life, she didnt break up with me ever since the last time we got back together.
But yesterday, she says:
"I cant anymore.. you are 'abnormal'. You dont love me, you are just obsessed... its a disorder not love"
And so she breaks up with me..


Its not just a tennie love or stupid crush.. I love her more than everything, but she is being really harsh on me and isnt willing to give me any chance at all. The thing is, she started talking to her EX now, saying just "friends".

I am 19.. been crying a lot since yesterday.. and my mom is here to support me. It may sound very unmanly, but I cant stop crying..

I dont know the odds of getting back with her, but always i was the one paying high costs and went through hell, yet kept up with her. I still dont wanna give up on her. She is no emotinal support to me at all, but I love her

What should I do...

 

[jefffisher]

"I cant anymore.. you are 'abnormal'. You dont love me, you are just obsessed... its a disorder not love"

all girls say that when another guy shows up, it wasn't her idea no one comes up with that thought on their own the other guy tricked her into believing that, but it's too late now shit's done even if you did get her back it would never be the same again you need to find a new girl.

 

[DarkWay]

Since when is crying unmanly?
One thing for certain for a man to cry openly is strong thing. It shows your not an emotionless bum.

As for this girl, if she's confused about this ex of hers and you then simply give her abit of space BUT keep contact be friendly kind and generous and above all stay out of trouble dude, keep your nose clean and show her that your serious about her.

 

[Agjsdfd]

Thanks.

Well the way I have been crying..
And she knows how serious I am about her, only now she thinks I am obsessed with her and its a disorder not love...

I am already in big trouble officially(police, court hearing).. related to her. After all these, I have never thought we would end up this way...

For ME she even got her dad arrested due to false accusations, but thats another story that I dont want to bring up here.

There is simply no way to get back with her.. and if I give her space which she wants anyways.. that would mean no contact with her at all. Which then again means no chances of getting back.

I have kept enough patience with her, but right now I am upset, frustrated, unhappy...
Really dont know the next move.

 

[ThatDudeWithTheFood]

I've read all your other blogs and was fine with you trying to stay with her but now I just don't think shes worth it.

She is the one with the disorder not you.

Move on and find a girl that loves you back instead of always thinking about her EX.

Crying is manly people who don't cry are unmanly.

 

[redact]

"i tried to laugh about it, hiding the tears in my eyes. because..."

 

[OSW]

I hate it (with a passion) when girls try to tell you how you feel, thinking they know better than you do.

Tell her that you're a man who knows what he feels, and that she has no right to say that about you. Does she think she is an expert on what love is? Cause seriously, love is whatever the fuck you want it to be. It's a personal thing cause its a feeling, and only you can know how you feel.

Also that if she doesn't want to be with you thats fine, but at least make it for a real fucking reason not this lack of love bullshit (definitely don't mention the ex, she'll probably try use your words against you).

Thats the ultimatum she'll either
a. realize shes wrong (if she doesn't shes a stubborn bitch, or just doesn't love you)
b. tell you a better reason (ie. she doesnt love you anymore, or the ex thing)

As for the crying, it's normal and helps you release your sadness/frustration. But there comes a point where you do need to man up and realize that crying doesn't solve everything, wipe away your tears and learn to move some of your life away from this girl (even if you get back together, don't invest 100% cause you may set up for a downfall).

Hope that helps...

 

[Agjsdfd]

Thanks everyone..
I realize I have made no mistake. She will regret for everything she did to me...

I will have to get over it.. time healts

. hopefully..

 

[Chaosruler]

Since when is crying unmanly?
One thing for certain for a man to cry openly is strong thing. It shows your not an emotionless bum.

As for this girl, if she's confused about this ex of hers and you then simply give her abit of space BUT keep contact be friendly kind and generous and above all stay out of trouble dude, keep your nose clean and show her that your serious about her.

and if I am an emotionless bum, how do I fix it?