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My mother passed away

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Nakamichi said:
After her fight with cancer for over 6 years now my mother passed in the afternoon..
the cancer had already spread to her meninges and there was nothing the doctors could do for her anymore.

I know i spoke a lot about it, to a lot of people here the last few years, so it feels wrong not to tell you how it ended.
the hospital shes at is pretty far away, my best friend is gonna drive me there tomorrow morning.

i'll miss you mom
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Mate, my sympathies. I am really sorry to hear that. A big hug from away, hope soon you can remember her with joy and the sorrow go away
 
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sorry for you lose .. unfortunately this is life nothing stays the same for long time .. it is keep changing if we like it or not .. you must not stay sad for long time not good for your health .. you in this world can do nice things to her after death by for example help people in her name.
 
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im playing "Split Fiction" with a friend tonight. bought it without watching a single review because we liked their previous games andi could really use a relaxed co-op evening.
Life can continue tomorrow.

EDIT: thats a co-op game from hazelight who specialize in co-op games. they made "a way out" and "it takes two" as well. those were really good. i hope its fun. we'll start playing in like 20 minutes.
 
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I am so sorry for your loss.

I know it's tough and time's a healer but take the time to grieve and remember what she stood for, share all the happy memories that means she will be with you always.

If you need to chat reach out.
 
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I'm really sorry to have read this, my condolences. I know you're not here looking for advice, but if I can give just a small bit, embrace the good people you've got around you. Sounds like your best friend is already stepping up, so that's great. Stay strong.
 
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Life is brutal. You live long enough people you love are going to die around you. The older you get the more it will happen. Maybe that's not the most comforting thing to hear, but at least she went with her mental faculaties, because I do believe that it is worse when people go into dementia and the person becomes mean and unrecognizable to you before they pass, so that's now your most recent memory.

Power of negative thinking, it could always be worse, and I don't know the age of you or your mother, but she probably lived to become an old lady? Maybe lost 10 years of life? I view it that way, they didn't lose their whole life, but a part of it.
 
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Life is brutal. You live long enough people you love are going to die around you. The older you get the more it will happen. Maybe that's not the most comforting thing to hear, but at least she went with her mental faculaties, because I do believe that it is worse when people go into dementia and the person becomes mean and unrecognizable to you before they pass, so that's now your most recent memory.

Power of negative thinking, it could always be worse, and I don't know the age of you or your mother, but she probably lived to become an old lady? Maybe lost 10 years of life? I view it that way, they didn't lose their whole life, but a part of it.
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sadly thats exactly what happened. even tho it happened fast.

read post 18: https://gbatemp.net/threads/my-mother-passed-away.682043/post-10864348
that shit haunts me like crazy.
 
Nakamichi said:
sadly thats exactly what happened. even tho it happened fast.

read post 18: https://gbatemp.net/threads/my-mother-passed-away.682043/post-10864348
that shit haunts me like crazy.
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Sorry, didn't know about that. That is the worst, I do think you have to focus on all the good things she did and that this last chapter was because of illness. I believe you will get there eventually even if it doesn't feel like it right away. I hope it eases your pain somewhat sharing, and I think you are strong for doing it.
 
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Sorry, didn't know about that. That is the worst, I do think you have to focus on all the good things she did and that this last chapter was because of illness. I believe you will get there eventually even if it doesn't feel like it right away. I hope it eases your pain somewhat sharing, and I think you are strong for doing it.
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i know.
i also know ill be chewing on that for years to come.
but i found that, longterm, videogames and friends and spending time outside helps. a little each day.
 
Nakamichi said:
i know.
i also know ill be chewing on that for years to come.
but i found that, longterm, videogames and friends and spending time outside helps. a little each day.
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Yeah, time + not shying away from the feeling will eventually make it "alright" (don't know what word to use). But it can take a long time, from my experience losing a loved one it just zapped me of energy completely, I don't even know what I did the first year, I had no energy for anything. My mom is still alive so I don't even know what that's like... both my brothers are dead though. I think you can learn a lot, about compassion, what you'll do in a situation reminiscent of the one you experienced etc. I think it can open your eyes for how fortunate you are for the people in your life that are still alive, and that you can tell them how important they are to you before it's either their time or yours.
 

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