Have you sorted a will?

On "delete the porn" then maybe 10 years ago. Today browsers have porn mode and streaming sites have seemingly taken over. To that end no worries for most people there.

Computers do however pose an issue and there are however password escrow services. Things like your idevice account password -- hard to format them if you leave "find my device" checked.

As often as you like really. Though you are advised to have it all filed with your lawyer or something you may not have to do so if your surviving whatever can find one written at a later date than one you might have on file, surprising to me in a place where you probably want to have a notary involved if you intend to fart. Afraid "family law" is not my favourite area of the US law however so it might vary by state and whatever else.
Do you plan to be that specific though?

The law would probably call getting married an inherent point, your spouse then becoming your closest relative.
That said is getting married a big thing still where you are?

On songs for funerals then some nice choices


and slightly better quality




Eric Idle is a good choice too.
A friend had "should I stay or should I go" by the clash as the curtains went. Good choice too.

We did already have that thread though.

 

I am not sure of the specifics for leaving things to animals, however I would be surprised if you did not have to set up some trust or something and make the cats the responsibility of that, possibly also making your boyfriend a trustee or something and thus having your house to live in or whatever. I don't think it is a valid will to say "I, DinohScene, of sound mind and my own volition, as my last will and testament do leave the sum total of wealth and possessions in my estate to be shared equally between my cats Pissy Knickers, Boots, and Dave. DinohScene. 30th of Feb [some year]". I could be wrong but most things I see of "rich idiot leaves penthouse to goldfish" are usually a trust or some business arrangement, or at very least a condition on the sale of a property that reads "for the rest of their life and then to charity" or something.

On debts and "negative things" then you can't just foist them on other people, even your family, and they mostly die with you. There are things you can do like multi generational mortgages but that is not as much a debt as a possibly nice thing (if you are living somewhere where such things are a viable option for some then you have just given them a headstart, or the option to sell the equity). If you hear of such things then it is usually because the dead person had something and someone else wants it (say a family home or something rare or sentimental value) or a stake in a business that the remaining part of the might not want to go out to open sale, however as their estate has bills to pay then they end up paying for that first, possibly with difficulty if they lack liquid assets, to get it/keep it. If uncle fuckwit dies with a lot of debt and names me in the will then I am free to say keep his collection of soup cans and leave me out of it entirely. It can get far far more complex, surprising that what with it being an area of law and accounting, and there are all sorts of checks and balances, traps, taxes and tricky things that people do, but a fundamental aspect is you are perfectly free to walk away from debts that are not yours (do note that in the case of certain types of insurance or being a guarantor for a debt).
I guess you could try to convince them that millions are secretly buried under the floor of your beach hut and then get them to pay the debts to get at it but that would be active effort.

 

Private browsing, inprivate, private window, incognito mode... whatever you want to call it. I probably should stop calling it porn mode in semi formal settings but most people know what it is for, and it ain't buying secret gifts for people.

 

Maybe your significant other(s) are not available at that point in time, maybe as a release (I need to sleep, let us crank one out and sleep), maybe it is impractical (have you seen the prices and space required for a full sex dungeon? Certainly far more than £100 and a shoebox under the bed for a dilly), maybe it is impossible (CGI seems to have a place if some of the machines I have cleaned up lately are anything to go by), maybe you have some other proclivities (your BF looks delightful but if you have a desire for a 2.4m tall black guy one day I don't think a wig and a costume would do it...), maybe you want to see something fancy, maybe you want to see something not everybody can do (if females are your thing then I am told not all of them can ejaculate), this list could go on for a while but I think I will stop it there and say "why ask why when why not is a better question?". If yours does for all your needs then maybe try to place yourself in the shoes of some others that might not have such a luxury, if you are going to say you meant to emphasise browse when you could make your own then that is a pain in the arse, possibly literally (the angles and positions which look good on camera are not always all that pleasurable it would seem).
On not just going raw then maybe you use the computer for work (possibly not ideal to be doing some web work in front of someone and then to type into the awesome bar and basically have the alphabet of porn), maybe you don't want to think about viruses/cookie stealing/similar (fortunately many sites work with HTML5 these days so flash is less of a worry), maybe you want to do "open 20 tabs, use 5 and then close" without having to actually close 15 odd tabs (I know you could use a normal window/tab group but hey), maybe you share the computer at some level beyond you and one other that knows you that intimately, maybe your browser does something funny with volumes and you then get a separation layer and so on. Actually one of the pieces of advice my mum gave me was "have sex with whomever you like, just wear a condom", this would seem to be in line with the spirit of that.

Back on topic if you want your family (I actually like mine but I have met plenty that quite justifiably could say they are just some folks likely to share some DNA with me, or worse) to get nothing then best to make a will. It is the default position and you have to try seriously hard as an unmarried person to get anything done without one, trivial with one. I am not sure what government rates are these days and looking through the big book of accounting it is not a simple matter either.

 

I had not considered online friends/sites. About the only two times I gave it any thought was there was a my name is earl episode that had a theme like that, and after a friend died her partner had me delete her facebook account as part of things, though that was probably more because I had recently read https://what-if.xkcd.com/69/ .
I have had passwords for accounts for businesses, network gear... fail to be noted before someone shuffled off this mortal coil and then I have to sort it out. It was not an awful lot different to when a business gets sold and then they neglect to have someone like me involved (they call everybody from several flavours of accountants to representatives of every building trade in say their piece but neglect IT), however there we have a nice death certificate to wave around which seems to motivate people and bypass a lot of questions... probably a social engineering tool in concept in there somewhere.

I am in a similar position with social networks and such like, maybe someone would do a most visited search on my history (assuming they have computer passwords) and say something but I am not going to make an provisions for that and would probably say don't bother. If I do vanish then it might be that I vanished (I occasionally randomly delete things for fun), because I am on the run (maybe they will get bored of chasing small fry torrent site owners and go after those that help people with flash carts), because I decided to go wandering in places without internet (some consider it a nightmare to take a job in another country and be stranded there without money or means to get back, I would be thrilled and delighted) or because I did indeed kick the bucket. If I did get a "you have seven months left to live" diagnosis I would probably not say anything either, I figure no real point.

"Emails will probably be there forever until the ISP closes"
You clearly know computers and still use ISP email?