Games or relationships?

[AtomicBlue]

Relationships are way more important, you probably won't even remember what you played the next day.

 

[Ace Gunman]

Many of the responses in this topic infuriate me. Most of you have just blindly stated that the relationship is more important than a personal interest without asking the necessary questions. What if it is a terrible relationship? What if she makes unfair demands of him? What if he worked in a field directly relating to video games and it was his source of income?

Too many of you have not stopped to question where it ends. First she asks him to give up video games, then she may ask him to give up television and movies, then books, then she tells him he has to quit his job and work for her father, then she makes him give up his stamp collecting hobby. Etc etc. Where does it stop?

Do you all honestly believe that a relationship is worth more than everything a person is and that they should concede everything to be with someone else when they have made no such concessions of their own? That is not right.

Some people take, and they take and they take and give nothing in return. Give up your time to be with me, give up your interests to be with me, give up your home to be with me, give up your personal style to be with me, give up your career to be with me, give up your friends to be with me. If you give everything you are for a relationship there's nothing of yourself left.

You should never have to compromise who you are and who you want to be to with someone, because in that case you'll come to resent them and they really can't love you for who you are if they want every detail of yourself to change. That's not love, that's a project.

Some of you may think this is just about relationship time versus video game time. It's not. It's about someone giving you an ultimatum, making you give up something you care about with no intention of sacrificing for you. Right now it's video games, maybe next time it will be "I really hate your long time best friends of 15 years, if you don't stop hanging out with them I'll leave you".

Where does it end?

 

[kevenka]

Many of the responses in this topic infuriate me. Most of you have just blindly stated that the relationship is more important than a personal interest without asking the necessary questions. What if it is a terrible relationship? What if she makes unfair demands of him? What if he worked in a field directly relating to video games and it was his source of income?

Too many of you have not stopped to question where it ends. First she asks him to give up video games, then she may ask him to give up television and movies, then books, then she tells him he has to quit his job and work for her father, then she makes him give up his stamp collecting hobby. Etc etc. Where does it stop?

Do you all honestly believe that a relationship is worth more than everything a person is and that they should concede everything to be with someone else when they have made no such concessions of their own? That is not right.

Some people take, and they take and they take and give nothing in return. Give up your time to be with me, give up your interests to be with me, give up your home to be with me, give up your personal style to be with me, give up your career to be with me, give up your friends to be with me. If you give everything you are for a relationship there's nothing of yourself left.

You should never have to compromise who you are and who you want to be to with someone, because in that case you'll come to resent them and they really can't love you for who you are if they want every detail of yourself to change. That's not love, that's a project.

Some of you may think this is just about relationship time versus video game time. It's not. It's about someone giving you an ultimatum, making you give up something you care about with no intention of sacrificing for you. Right now it's video games, maybe next time it will be "I really hate your long time best friends of 15 years, if you don't stop hanging out with them I'll leave you".

Where does it end?

You do bring up an interesting point ace gunman. Therefor, the decision is up to the original author to decide. I personally think if love is true, losing everything else in the world but that person is worth it. Of course, it would be to only to some degree before ask, "Is this right?" Honestly, I think the change would actually be a positive change, but everyone has a different view on what a "good" relationship is.

 

[da_head]

i would say an equilibrium. it's nice having two things u love. though if you have to give up one for the other, sticking with your girl is the obvious choice.

what's the best solution? get a girl that likes to game as well

 

[Morgawr]

Many of the responses in this topic infuriate me. Most of you have just blindly stated that the relationship is more important than a personal interest without asking the necessary questions. What if it is a terrible relationship? What if she makes unfair demands of him? What if he worked in a field directly relating to video games and it was his source of income?

Too many of you have not stopped to question where it ends. First she asks him to give up video games, then she may ask him to give up television and movies, then books, then she tells him he has to quit his job and work for her father, then she makes him give up his stamp collecting hobby. Etc etc. Where does it stop?

Do you all honestly believe that a relationship is worth more than everything a person is and that they should concede everything to be with someone else when they have made no such concessions of their own? That is not right.

Some people take, and they take and they take and give nothing in return. Give up your time to be with me, give up your interests to be with me, give up your home to be with me, give up your personal style to be with me, give up your career to be with me, give up your friends to be with me. If you give everything you are for a relationship there's nothing of yourself left.

You should never have to compromise who you are and who you want to be to with someone, because in that case you'll come to resent them and they really can't love you for who you are if they want every detail of yourself to change. That's not love, that's a project.

Some of you may think this is just about relationship time versus video game time. It's not. It's about someone giving you an ultimatum, making you give up something you care about with no intention of sacrificing for you. Right now it's video games, maybe next time it will be "I really hate your long time best friends of 15 years, if you don't stop hanging out with them I'll leave you".

Where does it end?

Wow, you always surprise me! You preceded me once again in what I wanted to say, the same words almost too XD

Yeah, it really makes me mad to think some people just say "Yeah, a relationship is way more important than personal interests" (because that's what you all are saying). Actually, it's not. Giving up one's own interests and hobby is ALMOST NEVER a good choice in the long run. It just exposes you to something that you wouldn't normally do, but you'd just be doing it for someone else for no reason at all. It's not fair to change just to be able to stay with a person, at least if she doesn't change for you. So, always remember to keep everything balanced in a relationship.


Another good point is the fact that if you grow too attached and clingy to a relationship, you may ruin it for the both of you and in the end just lose it because of it. This means that maybe, taking some time for yourself and leaving some time for your significant other is important for the relationship itself, to make it go in the right way. ^^

 

[kevenka]

Ideally, maybe you would find the person who fits your view in life, but in reality, it is a give take kind of thing. Seriously, putting games above your significant other or even on par is kind of stupid to me. (Posting this on a gaming website will probably give me some hate mails -.-'')

 

[Deadmon]

I say equilibrium. I see it as one cannot be truly happy with themselves if they're forced to give up all their personal interests.

Basically, Ace's argument.

 

[Morgawr]

Ideally, maybe you would find the person who fits your view in life, but in reality, it is a give take kind of thing. Seriously, putting games above your significant other or even on par is kind of stupid to me. (Posting this on a gaming website will probably give me some hate mails -.-'')

It's not about giving them more importance, it's the fact that one shouldn't just give up everything for a person or a relationship. It can be bad for both you and the relationship. If you value that relationship more than everything else, to the point where you give up everything and your most important hobbies too, it's unhealthy for the relationship itself and it may ruin it.

Obviously I'm not saying you shouldn't care for the relationship and just game game game game game and game again, but think about how much time you'd be willing to give up for it and how much time your significant other gives up for you and see how it goes. If in the end you reckon the balance is unfair, then there's something wrong. However I do know that relationships are very important (I'm in one myself too), but hobbies are as well.

 

[kevenka]

Ideally, maybe you would find the person who fits your view in life, but in reality, it is a give take kind of thing. Seriously, putting games above your significant other or even on par is kind of stupid to me. (Posting this on a gaming website will probably give me some hate mails -.-'')

It's not about giving them more importance, it's the fact that one shouldn't just give up everything for a person or a relationship. It can be bad for both you and the relationship. If you value that relationship more than everything else, to the point where you give up everything and your most important hobbies too, it's unhealthy for the relationship itself and it may ruin it.

Obviously I'm not saying you shouldn't care for the relationship and just game game game game game and game again, but think about how much time you'd be willing to give up for it and how much time your significant other gives up for you and see how it goes. If in the end you reckon the balance is unfair, then there's something wrong. However I do know that relationships are very important (I'm in one myself too), but hobbies are as well.

Here may be a better counter argument... suppose your girlfriend gave up everything for you? How would you feel about this person? Of course, there is a chance that you will end up breaking up, but the point is you tried everything in your power to keep the person you love in your life. That is what matters the most to me in life. That the person I will marry in the future commit so much to make things work.

The best way to think about it is, what kind of person are you and how much do you value your significant others? Do you value her more than your life? If so, this should be a no brainer

 

[Morgawr]

Ideally, maybe you would find the person who fits your view in life, but in reality, it is a give take kind of thing. Seriously, putting games above your significant other or even on par is kind of stupid to me. (Posting this on a gaming website will probably give me some hate mails -.-'')

It's not about giving them more importance, it's the fact that one shouldn't just give up everything for a person or a relationship. It can be bad for both you and the relationship. If you value that relationship more than everything else, to the point where you give up everything and your most important hobbies too, it's unhealthy for the relationship itself and it may ruin it.

Obviously I'm not saying you shouldn't care for the relationship and just game game game game game and game again, but think about how much time you'd be willing to give up for it and how much time your significant other gives up for you and see how it goes. If in the end you reckon the balance is unfair, then there's something wrong. However I do know that relationships are very important (I'm in one myself too), but hobbies are as well.

Here may be a better counter argument... suppose your girlfriend gave up everything for you? How would you feel about this person? Of course, there is a chance that you will end up breaking up, but the point is you tried everything in your power to keep the person you love in your life. That is what matters the most to me in life. That the person I will marry in the future commit so much to make things work.

The best way to think about it is, what kind of person are you and how much do you value your significant others? Do you value her more than your life? If so, this should be a no brainer

Being with a person like that is not healthy for both me and her. First of all I wouldn't want a girl that just gives up everything for me. Hell, if I love someone I don't want him(her, actually

) to give up everything for me, it's not fair and probably I'd lose respect for that person.
Also, she's free to do whatever she wants, but she must not expect me to do the same. In a way it'd still be her dictating the terms of the relationship, saying "I gave up everything for you, now it's your turn". I'd be like wtf? I never asked for that. Plus, it'd be way too much of a clingy person for my tastes. Yes sure I may love someone but I don't want her to stay with me 24/7 preventing me from doing what I want to do (ALL I want to do actually) just because she's not doing the same.

If it ends up that way I may even break up with her just because I value her so much that I'd rather stay alone but know that she's fulfilling her desire to do what she likes to do and not preventing herself from doing so just because she's staying with me. So yeah, in that case too it'd be a big no no.. ^^

 

[kevenka]

You continually try to avoid the possible reasons why it may be good. I mean, yeah, everyone needs space and it varies from person to person on how much time is spent with each other, but if love is true, you can spend years with the person you love and it would only feel like a minute. Also the statement, " I gave up everything for you, now it's your turn." is a weak argument. Honestly, they do expect you to return the love if you expect the relation to lsat, but they won't bluntly say it like that. They will treat you the way they like to be treated. If you do not like that type of relation style, you should just move on to a different type of person then =/

 

[fateastray]

Are you serious? Relationship over games. There's actually A LOT of things i pick over games. Like if she got mad at you for playing games late at night, instead of calling her, doesn't really force you to make the choice, that's a little black and white. But ultimately, Relationship > Games.

 

[Morgawr]

You continually try to avoid the possible reasons why it may be good. I mean, yeah, everyone needs space and it varies from person to person on how much time is spent with each other, but if love is true, you can spend years with the person you love and it would only feel like a minute. Also the statement, " I gave up everything for you, now it's your turn." is a weak argument. Honestly, they do expect you to return the love if you expect the relation to lsat, but they won't bluntly say it like that. They will treat you the way they like to be treated. If you do not like that type of relation style, you should just move on to a different type of person then =/

Mind you, I never said games > relationship. I just said that everything needs its own balance. Obviously I know that being in a relationship isn't bad at all (on the opposite

) and I'd pick it over games all the time, but in the end you must be careful because if you give up everything just because "OH MAH GAWD Relationship iz da bestest" then you'll get nothing back, since you're not helping it become stable. No matter what it can't last if you just give up everything for it. And this goes for both you and your girlfriend.

 

[Ace Gunman]

Here may be a better counter argument... suppose your girlfriend gave up everything for you? How would you feel about this person? Of course, there is a chance that you will end up breaking up, but the point is you tried everything in your power to keep the person you love in your life. That is what matters the most to me in life. That the person I will marry in the future commit so much to make things work.

The best way to think about it is, what kind of person are you and how much do you value your significant others? Do you value her more than your life? If so, this should be a no brainer

Actually that's not a superior counter argument, as my original post stipulates that just as you should never have to give up everything for someone, the same should be true of them. No one, be it you or your partner should be giving up their everything in order to be with someone. The same argument still applies, just flip it around so that you're the "taker" in the relationship.

It's as Morgawr stated, it's unhealthy to put all of yourself into one relationship. A strong relationship is one where you can be yourself with your partner and without. You shouldn't need someone else to complete you, but you also should feel something more when you're with that person.

If you spend all of your time and energy one your partner, it will end poorly. That's the definition of "clingy". I've had potential relationships go bad simply because my outside interests weren't diverse enough. If you're not a complete person with your own life, you really have nothing to offer someone else. You'd simply exist to feed into them, and most relationships will go awry in that scenario.

If you have no outside interests, what will you talk about that endears you to your mate? If you give up all of your interests and embrace theirs without genuine interest in said subject, you're lying to yourself and your partner and it will eventually turn sour. Neither person in a relationship should give up everything, because then neither of you are anything.

In addition just for a moment lets say the author's favorite thing in the world is gaming. How would you feel if someone forced you to give your favorite thing up? 10 years down the line that will come back and haunt the relationship. It's not healthy to put all of yourself into anything, be it gaming or a relationship.

Which is where the give and take comes from. The equilibrium. It's not an unfair personal demand to want time to yourself and your hobby. Nor is it an unfair demand for your partner to want to spend time with you. It is however an unfair demand to say you can do either or, but not both.

EDIT: Again though, it's not about the video games. And I'm not stating video games are more important than personal relationships. One needs balance in their life, in all things. Replace video games with whatever you like in the above examples and it still holds true.

 

[dewp]

the logic in this thread is just beyond me.

'if your gf is just take take take then blah balh'

just end the relationship then

.... comparing a relationships with your desire to pla games is just so rediculous i can't believe people are even taking this thread seriously tbh

 

[FAST6191]

I know I already went and I have no intention of altering my words there at this time I will say I would really like to debate with Ace Gunman (purely for sport, I actually agree with most of what he said).
I would, however, be unable to do it without starting a proper debate and thus derailing this topic. Also for something I am not entirely convinced exists I am going to have a damn hard time using traditional scientific evidence.
Secondly while I am not sure it is true such matters are usually considered to be age dependent* and even then I will stand by the scientific principle of repeated analysis, how much good advice do you expect to get from a forum predominantly comprised of those that have not really "been there".

* I lack access to advanced journals right now and trying to beat a basic search engine into producing valid information is not something I am up for but several studies have show brain development continues well into the 20s, something like http://www.juvjustice.org/media/resources/resource_134.pdf is a start. Being concerned with legal matters it holds an obvious link to risk and situational analysis which it would seem this topic is primarily concerned with, thankfully many legislators have either missed this or ignored this or we could be facing age restrictions far in excess of what we have now.

On the flip side rather than have a quasi-metaphysical debate I will inject some thoughts/make counterpoints.

"A strong relationship is one where you can be yourself with your partner and without"
While I would not go so far as to accuse such a statement as being constructed from weasel words there is a definite element of weak wording, my point then is what is the reason for the relationship under such conditions. Such a statement is harsh considering that I think you were aiming for the following meaning:
A good relationship is one where you do not rely on the other person(s) but have them around to make life easier/more enjoyable.

Relating back to the 20-something debate (apologies for assuming) do you really want commitment at this point in time? If yes then why? In colloquial terms this would be "considered playing the field my friend? (bars/similar may be expensive but lacking kids tends and your already having mentioned you have money for games.....)".

Regardless of how possible it is many women aim to change their mate (kind of throws a wrench into the "true love idea" when I look at it), considered trying such a thing in reverse?

"-She could cheat on you, get AIDS, give the AIDS to you, and you could die. Theoretically."
Not responding to the point but you do not give AIDS; you transmit HIV (which can then turn into AIDS).

"well, I would think gaming is some kind of drug...lasts shortly and doesn't statisfy you for a long time"
Might I introduce you to some of my friends (a situation I am sure could be repeated for others hopefully meaning I dodged the no personal opinions in debate thing), "relationships" are quite often considered disposable pleasures. Also "short term" does not necessarily apply to drugs.

"the person you love"
Can there not be more than one?

"comparing a relationships with your desire to play games is just so ridiculous"
Why are personal relationships a more valid pursuit than gaming?

 

[Depravo]

A gaming addiction is much cheaper than having a girlfriend.

 

[kevenka]

Here may be a better counter argument... suppose your girlfriend gave up everything for you? How would you feel about this person? Of course, there is a chance that you will end up breaking up, but the point is you tried everything in your power to keep the person you love in your life. That is what matters the most to me in life. That the person I will marry in the future commit so much to make things work.

The best way to think about it is, what kind of person are you and how much do you value your significant others? Do you value her more than your life? If so, this should be a no brainer

Actually that's not a superior counter argument, as my original post stipulates that just as you should never have to give up everything for someone, the same should be true of them. No one, be it you or your partner should be giving up their everything in order to be with someone. The same argument still applies, just flip it around so that you're the "taker" in the relationship.

It's as Morgawr stated, it's unhealthy to put all of yourself into one relationship. A strong relationship is one where you can be yourself with your partner and without. You shouldn't need someone else to complete you, but you also should feel something more when you're with that person.

If you spend all of your time and energy one your partner, it will end poorly. That's the definition of "clingy". I've had potential relationships go bad simply because my outside interests weren't diverse enough. If you're not a complete person with your own life, you really have nothing to offer someone else. You'd simply exist to feed into them, and most relationships will go awry in that scenario.

If you have no outside interests, what will you talk about that endears you to your mate? If you give up all of your interests and embrace theirs without genuine interest in said subject, you're lying to yourself and your partner and it will eventually turn sour. Neither person in a relationship should give up everything, because then neither of you are anything.

In addition just for a moment lets say the author's favorite thing in the world is gaming. How would you feel if someone forced you to give your favorite thing up? 10 years down the line that will come back and haunt the relationship. It's not healthy to put all of yourself into anything, be it gaming or a relationship.

Which is where the give and take comes from. The equilibrium. It's not an unfair personal demand to want time to yourself and your hobby. Nor is it an unfair demand for your partner to want to spend time with you. It is however an unfair demand to say you can do either or, but not both.

EDIT: Again though, it's not about the video games. And I'm not stating video games are more important than personal relationships. One needs balance in their life, in all things. Replace video games with whatever you like in the above examples and it still holds true.

The question will stay the same...How much do you love this person? If they want you to give up something for their sake would you do it? 'nough said?

And seriously, it varies from person to person but if my GF was clingy, I would be happy because she feels like I complete her, but you seem to view this as a negative thing. I don't know... what you call clingy, I call someone who cherishes my presence...of course, everything has its limits but it is up to you to determine how much does that person mean to you.

 

[Morgawr]

QUOTE 1:
"A strong relationship is one where you can be yourself with your partner and without"
While I would not go so far as to accuse such a statement as being constructed from weasel words there is a definite element of weak wording, my point then is what is the reason for the relationship under such conditions. Such a statement is harsh considering that I think you were aiming for the following meaning:
A good relationship is one where you do not rely on the other person(s) but have them around to make life easier/more enjoyable.

While trying to defend the point of view of Ace, since I 100% agree with him, I'll try to counter argument or just comment some parts of this.

First of all what I think he meant with that statement (at least what I think of it) is that basically you've been a "complete" and finished person all those years before meeting your significant other, meaning it's not fundamental to be with her 24/7 in an already mature relationship and that it is unfair for you (or her) to expect something like this. You both fell in love with the person you love because of who and what you and her were, not for what you and her will become after being in a relationship. Also, changing completely and giving up everything you've always done (hobbies) for a relationship tends to wear it off faster just because you're not the person your significant other knew before.


QUOTE 2:
Relating back to the 20-something debate (apologies for assuming) do you really want commitment at this point in time? If yes then why? In colloquial terms this would be "considered playing the field my friend? (bars/similar may be expensive but lacking kids tends and your already having mentioned you have money for games.....)".

Regardless of how possible it is many women aim to change their mate (kind of throws a wrench into the "true love idea" when I look at it), considered trying such a thing in reverse?


Throughout all this thread I was talking about serious relationships that eventually become marriage and never end until you die (or until a divorce

). At least relationships that start with serious intents, not just girls you take up at pubs or locals to f*ck or just make up. I'm 18 years old but with my girlfriend I'm planning out a real future for the both of us (obviously discussing this with her too, she feels the same), with marriage, children and a stable and real life after university. It's not as frightening as some people find it (at least to me) and it's not so unlikely to think of ^^

QUOTE 3:
"-She could cheat on you, get AIDS, give the AIDS to you, and you could die. Theoretically."
Not responding to the point but you do not give AIDS; you transmit HIV (which can then turn into AIDS).

I'm almost sure this was considered a semi-joke response...


QUOTE 4:
"well, I would think gaming is some kind of drug...lasts shortly and doesn't statisfy you for a long time"
Might I introduce you to some of my friends (a situation I am sure could be repeated for others hopefully meaning I dodged the no personal opinions in debate thing), "relationships" are quite often considered disposable pleasures. Also "short term" does not necessarily apply to drugs.


As goes with drugs and videogames, the same goes with relationships. There are some you do just for fun, some that take up a big portion of your life and some that just get stuck in your memories as memories (duh ^^). We tend to attribute value to what we like or dislike depending on our opinions so in this case someone can see drugs more important than games or see games more important than relationships, but it all depends on which game/drug/relationship so in the end there's nothing to discuss at this point.

QUOTE 5:
"the person you love"
Can there not be more than one?

There can be, but usually people stay in a relationship with just one person. I don't think I have to express what I think about this since it should be already clear as there's no need to add anything to this point actually ^^

QUOTE 6:
"comparing a relationships with your desire to play games is just so ridiculous"
Why are personal relationships a more valid pursuit than gaming?


Totally agree, as I've already stated earlier, we put values to things we treasure most, so in the end it depends on the person who makes the choice, giving it no final right or wrong to the decision.




I had to delete quotes and just report it as normal text (not colored) because I exceeded the number of max quotes in a post... Also, I'm quoting FAST there in case someone didn't notice.

 

[Ace Gunman]

On the flip side rather than have a quasi-metaphysical debate I will inject some thoughts/make counterpoints.

1) "A strong relationship is one where you can be yourself with your partner and without"
While I would not go so far as to accuse such a statement as being constructed from weasel words there is a definite element of weak wording, my point then is what is the reason for the relationship under such conditions. Such a statement is harsh considering that I think you were aiming for the following meaning:
A good relationship is one where you do not rely on the other person(s) but have them around to make life easier/more enjoyable.

Relating back to the 20-something debate (apologies for assuming) do you really want commitment at this point in time? If yes then why? In colloquial terms this would be "considered playing the field my friend? (bars/similar may be expensive but lacking kids tends and your already having mentioned you have money for games.....)".

Regardless of how possible it is many women aim to change their mate (kind of throws a wrench into the "true love idea" when I look at it), considered trying such a thing in reverse?

2) "-She could cheat on you, get AIDS, give the AIDS to you, and you could die. Theoretically."
Not responding to the point but you do not give AIDS; you transmit HIV (which can then turn into AIDS).

3) "well, I would think gaming is some kind of drug...lasts shortly and doesn't statisfy you for a long time"
Might I introduce you to some of my friends (a situation I am sure could be repeated for others hopefully meaning I dodged the no personal opinions in debate thing), "relationships" are quite often considered disposable pleasures. Also "short term" does not necessarily apply to drugs.

4) "the person you love"
Can there not be more than one?

5) "comparing a relationships with your desire to play games is just so ridiculous"
Why are personal relationships a more valid pursuit than gaming?

I've numbered your comments to simplify the replying process.

1) You are partially correct. "A good relationship is one where you do not rely on the other person(s) but have them around to make life easier/more enjoyable." The previous line is absolutely part of what I was attempting to say (and I realized I had phrased it poorly at the time, but was drawing a blank in regards to rephrasing).

Additionally I meant that if you can't be happy on your own, how can one be happy with someone else? For the longest time I was unhappy with who I was, and as such I craved love to fill the hole in my own self-worth. Not only is that sort of behavior unhealthy, but it doesn't do any good to a long term relationship.

No person can fill the hole in your own self worth, and trying to force them into that role will only postpone the inevitable breakdown you'll face in the long term.

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As for long term commitment, well, I think that completely depends on the person. There are those who want marriage from the time they're 5 years old, and others who will never want such a thing.

I personally feel it's important to "sow your wild oats". To live life to the fullest and have as many experiences as possible before settling down. Better to do it before than to feel you missed out and damage your marriage or what have you after.

I also believe in long courtships. The best way to test if a relationship will last in the long term is to have a long engagement. Stay together for 5 or 6 years before tying the knot, and if you don't despise each other at the end of the time it likely has a greater chance of working out. Just my personal philosophy.

2) That was simply an over-simplified joke con in response to tiny's comment about sight loss or some such. It was meant to be every bit as poorly thought out and absurd as her matching statement.

3) Agreed. In some situations relationships are every bit expensive and temporary as any video game. Just like with a video game, when you're done a relationship all you're left with are the memories and potential lost funds. Actually, in that way a video game has one up on a relationship in that you can pick it up and play again at any time.

4) I've found that it's possible to love more than one person, usually for differing reasons. Monogamy is not generally part of human nature. Ultimately it would depend on the person and their own views and characteristics.

5) Without going into as much detail as my previous post, that was one of my points. Who's to say one's interests aren't more important to them than personal relationships? Or that the relationship itself is strong enough to be more valuable than a personal interest? Not every relationship is a good one, after all.