Being very overweight.
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My genes were the reverse, and made me a skeleton, just like my dad, and my grand father when they were young. My grand father had to tie a rope around his waist, because his "one size fits all" military uniform didn't fit him during WW2.
my mother was like "god, you're big. I don't mean fat, but muscular" yesterday. I have some pretty big arms, shoulders, and legs. that may be the reason I weigh so much, but I have a belly too.
As long as you have a balanced diet, no food is the wrong food. Walking is the best exercise as it exercises almost all (if not all) muscles. It costs nothing to do and you don't need a trainer to do it. Any exercise on a regular basis is better than no exercise. Stay away from foods high in sugar especially soft drinks.
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I used to be skinny too until the dreaded 'stress' got to me and I started 'comfort eating'.
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We can get 'Splenda' in the UK. Might give that a try. Have to look up why he suggested black cherry.I don't drink too many sugary drinks. I drink maybe one or two pops a day. I have been drinking black cherry using splenda, which is what my doctor recommended. it's better than sugar.
I have a sugar addiction, and I'm honestly shocked I'm not diabetic at my age. I really need to cut that shit out. I believe it stems from not having access to much sweets as a child, so my adult brain thinks I need to over-compensate for it.
I think part of the problem is the lack of understanding behind each individual, its easy to say "genetics makes me like this" but the reality is in many cases the genetics just makes your body not very good at getting rid of certain types of fats, or retaining water, if people took their own individual genetic factors into consideration and tried different types of diets they might be able to live a normal healthy life while avoiding the problem foods their body doesn't deal well with and not having to starve themselves and run a marathon every weekend to stay in shape, I see some of it like if a peanut allergy wasn't deadly it just made your body pile on weight you would have people with peanut allergies at 30 stone saying "its genetics" yeah sure it is genetics, but you could avoid peanuts to mitigate the issue
on the other hand I knew a kid in school who always rabbited on about metabolism and genetics being the problem while eating 3 plates of food and constantly snacking in class, sometimes its an easy crux for people to lie to themselves, I know another person who was feeding their baby chocolate milk at 8 months and melted down Easter eggs for easter, this is a true story I couldn't believe it when my sister was telling me I though she was taking the piss, but nope, there were pictures on Facebook of the mum proudly melting down Easter eggs so the baby could "drink it"
, apparently the school even phoned social services because they were so concerned about the welfare of the child, but nothing was ever done and there is now another baby that resembles a baby elephant with the mother is claiming genetics is the problem because her mum was big, and she is big and thus her children will obviously be big and anyone who questions them are evil biggots who are denying science and fat shaming, I just feel terrible for the kids knowing that they are going to be the butt of jokes for the entirety of their childhood and its not really their fault but the fault of their parent.
the eldest tried to go on a diet and was immediately shamed and mocked by her own mother, unfortunately these things happen and often the parents have a hang up themselves and project it onto their kids and repeat the cycle
on the other hand I knew a kid in school who always rabbited on about metabolism and genetics being the problem while eating 3 plates of food and constantly snacking in class, sometimes its an easy crux for people to lie to themselves, I know another person who was feeding their baby chocolate milk at 8 months and melted down Easter eggs for easter, this is a true story I couldn't believe it when my sister was telling me I though she was taking the piss, but nope, there were pictures on Facebook of the mum proudly melting down Easter eggs so the baby could "drink it"
, apparently the school even phoned social services because they were so concerned about the welfare of the child, but nothing was ever done and there is now another baby that resembles a baby elephant with the mother is claiming genetics is the problem because her mum was big, and she is big and thus her children will obviously be big and anyone who questions them are evil biggots who are denying science and fat shaming, I just feel terrible for the kids knowing that they are going to be the butt of jokes for the entirety of their childhood and its not really their fault but the fault of their parent.the eldest tried to go on a diet and was immediately shamed and mocked by her own mother, unfortunately these things happen and often the parents have a hang up themselves and project it onto their kids and repeat the cycle
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@45 years I came in at 87kg. I'm about 1,76M so that's overweight in my book. I changed form eating at the canteen at work to taking a walk eating some fruit during lunchtime. Now I'm 51 and 76Kg, I think a much healthier weight. Had to change my complete wardrobe though...
Tough topic. My girlfriend is... Borderline obese. Especially now that there are more chores than ever, that kind of pains me. Not just for her health's sake (she has pain in her back, knee and /or feet on an almost daily basis), but because she becomes so damn dependable. She often can't even lift our little one, let alone do actual work (last time she really helped with house renovations was before her pregnancy). It's not laziness, but it's often hard to keep that in mind when she tries to do the laundry but has to outsource the 'put the laundry in the machine' part to me (result : don't ask us who does the most in our household, because she still thinks she does the laundry).
We've talked about an operation, but while it was initially her idea, she now postpones it all the time.
Don't get me wrong : I don't mind her being overweight by itself. I dislike that she sees herself as ugly (I can tell her she's not, but society disagrees). I dislike she won't even start with doing sports because of how she looks (1). And I'm kind of frightened on what kind of an example she's setting to our child.
On a more global scale : a former girlfriend of mine was fat (not obese) because of her genes. I've seen her food intake and sportive behavior long enough to know it's not some sort of urban myth. The tragedy wasn't so much with her (she had accepted that life dealt her a bad hand so she had to continuously live sober just to prevent ending up on an obese level) as that is such an easy excuse. My girlfriend, for example, isn't her weight because of genes (another easy way to start a fight between us : bring that up). And neither am I.
*sigh * I'm a bit overweight myself. Not visible, but lack of karate class do that (okay, and eating is just about the only fucking comfort left nowadays). It's my own fault. I hope to do better later on.
(1): actually, her main excuse is bad knee marrow. But any suggestion on any sport is rejected based on that. Plus : it's not like she cares enough about that knee to watch her snack intake
We've talked about an operation, but while it was initially her idea, she now postpones it all the time.
Don't get me wrong : I don't mind her being overweight by itself. I dislike that she sees herself as ugly (I can tell her she's not, but society disagrees). I dislike she won't even start with doing sports because of how she looks (1). And I'm kind of frightened on what kind of an example she's setting to our child.
On a more global scale : a former girlfriend of mine was fat (not obese) because of her genes. I've seen her food intake and sportive behavior long enough to know it's not some sort of urban myth. The tragedy wasn't so much with her (she had accepted that life dealt her a bad hand so she had to continuously live sober just to prevent ending up on an obese level) as that is such an easy excuse. My girlfriend, for example, isn't her weight because of genes (another easy way to start a fight between us : bring that up). And neither am I.
*sigh * I'm a bit overweight myself. Not visible, but lack of karate class do that (okay, and eating is just about the only fucking comfort left nowadays). It's my own fault. I hope to do better later on.
(1): actually, her main excuse is bad knee marrow. But any suggestion on any sport is rejected based on that. Plus : it's not like she cares enough about that knee to watch her snack intake
i know. no one believes me. it's so frustrating to have maybe not 'the answer' but an answer or at least some guidance on the issue. something that costs no money, only time, effort, and willpower. it'll replace working out one day. o well. i guess i'll just keep it to myself until i'm in perfect shape. it's hard to convince a fit person that you know more about fitness when you still appear to be overweight.
There are many different factors: genetics, bad eating habits, lack of exercise, stress, not getting enough sleep, depression, lack of knowledge regarding nutrition... and the list goes on. I think one of the main problems which others have already pointed out is food, there's lots of foods readily available that have a high amount of calories, and many of these have little or no nutritional value.
Also, generally people either know very little about nutrition or just don't care. I once saw someone have a cigar, a bottle of Coca-Cola, and a couple donuts for breakfast.
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If the problem is with her knees there are some workout alternatives that might be useful. The first one that comes to mind is swimming, which is one of the healthiest exercises there is. It puts very little pressure on the joints, compared to other types of workout like jogging or running.
Also, generally people either know very little about nutrition or just don't care. I once saw someone have a cigar, a bottle of Coca-Cola, and a couple donuts for breakfast.
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If the problem is with her knees there are some workout alternatives that might be useful. The first one that comes to mind is swimming, which is one of the healthiest exercises there is. It puts very little pressure on the joints, compared to other types of workout like jogging or running.
Sorry, but you're not telling me (us) anything new.
That whole "it's my knee" thing either happened some years before she knew me (when she played volleybal), or from her birth. Either way: a doctor told her there was something with her bone marrow...and that was it. No second opinion, no checking with specialists, not even the assumption that it could be healed somehow.
Swimming was one of the suggested workouts, indeed. But because she's ashamed of her figure, she seldomly swims (and if she does, it's more in the leisure kind of activity (basically bathing) than swimming laps).
I got this new doorbell camera thing, and an app that alerts me if someone is at my door. well, it goes off when someone is near, and I went out to get the mail yesterday. boy, did I look fat. I have an appointment to exercise on a stationary bike with health and wellness on Wednesday, before my appointment with my doctor, but I don't know if I want to go. I've been so stressed out this week, because my uncle is visiting (leaves Tuesday). I feel bad about that too.
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btw, that message was directed to @Flame (forgot to put that).
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btw, that message was directed to @Flame (forgot to put that).
its about self discipline.... no pain no gain.
maybe because fast food is the quickest, cheapest, and easiest to access food in some places. I'm not saying it's a good option, but some people don't have much choice given their life circumstances.
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I'm about 20 lbs over weight. I bought a stationary bike, but have only ridden it once. It now serves as a hat rack so to speak. I doooo intend to ride on it someday. I'm just happy to be able to walk with my walker right now.
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