I'm shy too, and I can't help you there.
I think Orc asked the good question : what do you think makes you doubt yourself and become shy.
If it was for me, I would say I don't like speaking to people I don't know and doing the first step to start a conversation.
I feel like I would loose my senses and forget my words, and plus, I think I'm bothering other people who didn't ask for me to speak to them.
I'm like "don't do others what you wouldn't like others do to you", and I think I'm a burden to others (because everyone I knew tried to avoid me at school and even after).
Test84, you said you have problems only with women, but I'm even more shy because I do have problems with every one.
I refrain to do things, like I don't enter shops even If I want to buy something because I would have to speak.
I've difficulties to make friends and I know nobody in my town who I can speak with.
I don't approach others because I think it's useless and I will not be interesting for them.
As for girls, I would like to make friends too (only friend, not girl friend), but I'm afraid they thinks I want to go out with them, or being a pervert (of course, if mens speak to womens, that's only for sex ¬_¬).
I's hard to speak with stranger without thinking I don't have bad ideas.
And when I do have to guts to ask someone if we can see again (even some old school friend, boys or girls), they always answer "yes no problem", but i's a polite answer and they do not want to. If I insist they let me know I'm not welcome.
And then I go back to my loneliness state for few months, thinking I'm an idiot because I already knew it was useless, and I'm better alone. Nobody bothers me, and I bother nobody in return.
Test84 said:
Since girls always look the "other way"I'm doing that when someone looks my way walking in the street, it's not because I don't like the other person, but because I'm shy and I don't like crossing my eyes with someone else.
In contrary, if I look away it's usually because I don't want the girls thinks I'm looking at her because they are pretty or good looking. I'm not that bother with people not my age.
VehoSpend time in company of people who love to make you blush
It would be very hard for me to be with people doing that, I couldn't stand being their friend if they were putting me in bad situation constantly.
But I understand what you are trying to do, and I'm sure it's working.