Well, the whole first person perspective is awesome in itself. If you don't feel like you're part of the game, you must not find video games fun and enjoyable.
That is a very narrow minded and flat out stupid thing to say.
And then there's the realism issue. Everyone says "DEVS JUST WORK ON REALISM AND NOT FUN LIEK OMG!"
Here are some points I'd like to bring up:
1) Realism can be fun. I'm sure you played cops and robbers as a kid, or did something where you pretend you were doing something you could never do otherwise, without going to an extreme length to do it. With realistic FPS's, you can do that. I find it fun to go with friends and act out a breaching scene, or get all serious and use military slang while playing an FPS.
Ok. Realism is fun to a point but nothing appealing to me about video games about things in the real world. Cod, Battlefield, etc
2) The argument that FPS's are all repetitive and dull is pretty much bullcrap. Most major FPS series have something that truly defines them. For example Battlefield is focused more on "real time" war, where it's slow-paced and realistic. Call of Duty is very fast paced, and features a lot of customization. Halo has a deep story and tons of features that allow user-made content. The list goes on.
I can accept this one. Good job.
However. To someone who doesnt really care about FPSs none of those mean anything to me. Especially if i cant get past number 1.
So from a broader perspective, the generalization (that is my own opinion) is exactly that, FPSs are bland and boring.
3) Saying "lolcod or FPS's are gay" makes whoever says it seem more stupid than the person that likes whatever is being questioned. If you can't back yourself up with a valid reason that isn't "lol it takes no skill hurr" then don't bother arguing. RPGs don't require a ton of skill, puzzle games don't require a ton of skill, but people still love them. It may not require as much skill as say a fighting game, but it's not a piece of cake either. You'll get a lot of kills, and you'll get a lot of deaths. Either way, it's still fun if you aren't a sore loser.
I get no kills and im not a sore loser (some of my friends are lol) but i get no enjoyment out of it. I dont like them cause my friends wont play anything but these games and my contempt for these kinds of games grows.
4) If you genuinely don't like them, that's cool, but to that people that don't like them for no reason/a stupid reason need not argue. I'm sure a majority of people that hate FPS's hate them for the sake of hating them and "fitting in" with the popular online crowd (lolonlinepopularity). It's like 3DS haters. We know you think 3D is a gimmick, so why are you still constantly bringing that up?
tl;dr: Don't hate an FPS unless you have a genuine and not-half-assed reason as to why you do.
Note: This wasn't directed to anyone in specific. Just saying that now.