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But what if you are asexual?
Idk about that so i can't say anything about it.


For me, as a cis male, about general (non-sexual) matters, i'm myself, i do what i do as i always did, there's no question or confusion about my gender identity (not implying others are, btw).. i try to learn new stuff whenever i can (have the time/ correct mood to do so), including activities like cooking, trying new recipes etc. stuff that women do more than men, or atleast supposed to.. I can be caring, receptive, compassionate, within reason of course, if the other doesn't appreciate what i'm doing, or tries to exploit that/me in some way, i stop or steer away from that person, it doesn't matter if it's a man or woman..

I also i prefer the company of women more than men tbh, if i like them and they respect me back -also to learn from them, observe the way they think etc.- also because they're less "competitive", because many men are and they can be very egotistical too (i'm right and you're wrong scenario), you could call it one of the primary "masculine" traits (never to back down), which proves to be a real problem in discussions between men.. Again, not all men are the same.
Hope i answered something & that i wasn't just rambling here.. 😅
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Bend over! :evil:
You're confusing me with AncientBoi :creep:
 

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Idk about that so i can't say anything about it.


For me, as a cis male, about general (non-sexual) matters, i'm myself, i do what i do as i always did, there's no question or confusion about my gender identity (not implying others are, btw).. i try to learn new stuff whenever i can (have the time/ correct mood to do so), including activities like cooking, trying new recipes etc. stuff that women do more than men, or atleast supposed to.. I can be caring, receptive, compassionate, within reason of course, if the other doesn't appreciate what i'm doing, or tries to exploit that/me in some way, i stop or steer away from that person, it doesn't matter if it's a man or woman..

I also i prefer the company of women more than men tbh, if i like them and they respect me back -also to learn from them, observe the way they think etc.- also because they're less "competitive", because many men are and they can be very egotistical too (i'm right and you're wrong scenario), you could call it one of the primary "masculine" traits (never to back down), which proves to be a real problem in discussions between men.. Again, not all men are the same.
Hope i answered something & that i wasn't just rambling here.. 😅
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You're confusing me with AncientBoi :creep:
Well its good to read the rambles too since its all subjective experience after all. Personally there is nothing womanly about me and yet I still don't feel like a man.
 
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Well its good to read the rambles too since its all subjective experience after all. Personally there is nothing womanly about me and yet I still don't feel like a man.
I think it's also about the idea of what a "man" is, or should be, and that's dictated by society, which is different from one culture to the next. For example, If man is supposed to work a 9-5h job, hang out with friends, drinking beer and watching sports etc. then im certainly not a "man". One wouldn't fit the mold in an environment like that, so it's only natural to feel out of place or whatever. That's something to think about/consider.
I personally couldn't care less, as i hate sports, politics, national/international news, and many men talk /are interested only in that garbage. So no thanks, i'll pass.
 

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I think it's also about the idea of what a "man" is, or should be, and that's dictated by society, which is different from one culture to the next. For example, If man is supposed to work a 9-5h job, hang out with friends, drinking beer and watching sports etc. then im certainly not a "man". One wouldn't fit the mold in an environment like that, so it's only natural to feel out of place or whatever. That's something to think about/consider.
I personally couldn't care less, as i hate sports, politics, national/international news, and many men talk /are interested only in that garbage. So no thanks, i'll pass.
That's funny and its really interesting. I thought about that a lot too, that your gender identity is often defined by what your friends or the people you surround yourself with is, especially when growing up.

The social culture of groups of friends that consist entirely of cis people of one gender I've always found really hard to deal with, almost toxic, but if you feel comfortable with those kinds of groups it probably influences your sense of self a lot over time.

The question I guess is also why I was never comfortable with them in the first place, but with all these "wierd" communities online where many people "randomly" happen to be nonbinary or transgender. Maybe its just bad social skills. Ah, its all guesswork.
 
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