Oh wait, about the kids: I just went and read up about that now, and apparently kids are based on the father (or main character)?
So just to confirm: even with the "all paralogues unlocked" edit, the children take on hair colour/stats based on their parents, so I do want to recruit them only after they have parents, right?
And excepting the player, I'm going to get 2 kids when I pair men together and no kids when I pair women together, right?
That seems a little sad, but if that's how it works then I can work with it.