flux is the ticket just as everyone else said. best solution for me is to use a flux pen (if you can get ahold of one) but you can just as easily use the liquid kind that comes in the small jars, and a tiny tiny tineeee paintbrush from the hobby store. as far as removing that oxidation, if the desoldering braid won't pull it off, go down to radioshack and get yourself a soldering accessories kit for $4 it includes a couple of pointy scraping devices(similar to a dentist's tooth scraper), a small brush, etc. Now you have to be careful when using one of these things on a PCB, don't just go stabbing it in there. If you rip the lead off the board you will be in a pickle. Just gently and carefully try to remove the top layer of oxidation by scraping the surface of it until you see the shiny surface emerge. I also recommend using a small flashlight or bench light and a magnifying device of some kind, makes life much simpler when soldering very small things, and you will be able to see if you have gotten through to the solder pad before you stab your lead out. Hope this helps bud.