after a bit of stress, a shitload of reading of stuff on this site i managed to get everything working. My biggest problem was once i was semi bricked, i tried to use my bootmii nand backup i made during the whole process (thank goodness for that...) to try and restore my wii back to the way it was to try again. I kept getting an error saying the the nand dump was for another wii, which made me pull my hair out, but after reading a lot of stuff, i found the fix, restored my wii to the way it was prior to my latest foray into playing around with things i probably shouldnt be. (i am considering starting a thread to clearly outline the process of doing a restore using the nand backup, with all the necessary steps in one convienient location, and in simple step by step retarded noob language (which i speak fluently). it was with this problem of not being able to restore my wii, and searching for info on how to do it in many different places that cost me the most time and stress today)
I then follow the guide through once more, just as i did the previous time. What i realised (as i was watching every line of code being displayed like a hawk) that sometimes during the online method, the network connection fails, or some part doesnt finish or install properly. I think that is what may have happened somewhere during the first time i tried, so when it came to the final steps, some important shit was missing. In any case, this time when i did notice something not download/install perfectly, i went back and did the same step again. and ususally the second pass was perfect (i only had to do this for 2 steps, .... i cant remember what they were...). And finally, everything has turned out good.
The only things, as a semi noob, that i think would help out some people when it comes to this guide, is to let them know that they should keep an eyes out for any download or installation errors, and if they have any, to repeat the step.
One other thing i came across was that even after i had upgraded to 4.1J (i have a japanese wii. i live in japan.) when i put in the wii sports resort disk, it still asked to do an update anyway, i just went a head and did it, and no problems with any of my homebrew etc. i can play original japanese and us games, and backup copies of them too. in fact i would probably suggest that if you are running a lower firmware, 3.2, 3.3 or whatever, you should just go ahead and update via nintendo to 4.1, and then use this guide. it really is awesome (just make sure you watch each step and squash any troubles before they lead to semi bricking or your wii)
i just wanted to say thanks to all the people that figure out all this stuff, and are kind enough to put in the effort so that others that arent quite as tech savvy can somehow muddle our way through it. this guide was awesome. and i hope my extra little comments help make it even better