I'm in love.

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Her name's Sam. She's the sweetest, kindest, most beautiful girl I've ever met; inside and out. Every time I think about her I get butterflies in my stomach, and all the crap in my life that I have to put up with seems so trivial.

I'm 99.9% certain this is love. I don't think I've ever felt this way about anyone else I've ever met. And this isn't something I've just decided on; I've known her for almost a decade now and my feelings for her have always been constant.

I'm going to tell her how I feel, probably sometime this week. In the past, I always avoided letting my feelings be known because I don't think I could have handled the rejection, in the event that my feelings weren't reciprocated. But right now, I think I'm causing myself more pain just holding these feelings in. I have to tell her, no matter what.

This is probably the most poorly written and boring blog post ever, but I just had to get it off my chest. It's damn near 1 in the morning right now and I can't sleep because I just can't stop thinking about her. Hopefully this will help.

EDIT: Nope, didn't help.
 
Go for it
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Tell us how it went.
 
DaMummy said:
you will always be her "friend"

Probably, but I don't even care. I'm content with that. I'd rather be her friend and not feel like I'm suffocating, as opposed to being her friend and feeling like I'm suffocating.
 
Just go for it, if it fails, you can always just be friends, so what's there to lose, o ya, practice for awkward moments so that if she ever say no, you can rebounce back instantly.
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Anyway, good luck and go for it
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The rest of us will be cheering for u at a pub nearby
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@tiny: too bad i missed my chance, i had a crush on a girl when i was 9/10 years old, she was the sweetest and prettiest girl in class and she's kind to people as well. Even till now, my crush on her has never totally disappear... I still regret even till this day not just going up to her and telling her what i feel before she went to a different class.. and at that time i didnt have a handphone nor do i have the guts to ask for her house number...
 
yup i agree with what the others have said...its best to just go for it now you never know if she ends up meeting someone else and then you lose your chance
 
Berthenk said:
Go for it girl! And tell us how it went!
Normally I would assume that this is actually some snarky, underhanded comment. But I think I'll just take this one at face value.
 
DeMoN said:
I don't think your really in love, most likely you're just infatuated.
Either way though, good luck.
Haha, way to be depressing dude.
Though if you've read a few of my blogs it's not as if I really believe in love.
But maybe you're in love.
What have you got to lose?
Being awkward?
Being serious is overrated anyway.
 
I think you are trolling (or maybe I never felt that way).

QUOTE said:
I've known her for almost a decade now and my feelings for her have always been constant.
So you love her for almost a decade and are going to tell her only now?
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Brool story co.
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I have an opinion on this. Take it as you will.

FIRST of all, you are NOT ready to say all this to her if you are not 100% ready and prepared to handle nothing less than COMPLETE AND TOTAL REJECTION.

If so, good luck to ya.

If not, re-evaluate how you feel about her and WHY, think about your history with her, TRY AS HARD AS YOU CAN to ascertain if she feels similarly. Look at little things she says and does, such as eye contact, subtext and freudean slips, and especially things like if she goes out of her way to be around you when she has other choices of what to do with her time. Think about if you could replace her in your life.

Further, your statement about knowing her for "almost a decade" almost seems like you are trying to stretch the time you've known her to get up the nerve to tell her how you feel... which may not be a bad thing because I suppose all of us at some time or another realize we are not getting any younger, and better to find out what we need to know and move forward than sit around waiting.

I can tell you from experience (I am currently with a wonderful woman that I met back in high school, and we didn't see each other for 19 years and now we are together,) that friendships that last (and, as in my case, that can even be resumed upon,) definitely means you feel some connection to her, and if you want to pursue more of a relationship with her, then best to find out if she is open to that possibility now, and if not, find someone you CAN do so with.

Life is too short not to be happy my friend. Good luck to you.
 
If you think that she feels the same back, then go for it. If not then just drop it

she may say something along the lines:

"awwww that's so sweet... BUT...*input any kind of rejection here*"

Yet again, it may be:

"me toooooo, i can't believe it ....* input 'i'll love you forever' phrase here*"

Usually, the former one happens more oftern, anyway, hope its the latter, you seem really into this girl, wish the best of luck.
 
logical thinker said:
I think you are trolling (or maybe I never felt that way).

QUOTE said:
I've known her for almost a decade now and my feelings for her have always been constant.
So you love her for almost a decade and are going to tell her only now?
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Brool story co.
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As highly unlikely as it sounds, it's...possible!

But given the unlikelihood that you would wait that long, in addition to the fact that your feelings towards a person DO change after some time (ask your parents, kids), we're going to assume that part's a lie. The question then is, why lie? The only possible motive I can think of would be to get the point across to the forums (in addition to feeding his own ego). Given that he cares enough to throw the case in our faces, I would say that the actual length is around one or two months (as any shorter would not warrant a forum post at all).

Now, assuming that the crush has been going on for one or two months (again, I didn't actually read the OP, so I'm just basing this off of what you said), that's not a terrible length of a school-age crush (including college-age). Hyperboles are a part of writing, fiction and, ironically, non. Get used to it.

So anyway, @OP, if my whole post was all wrong and it has been ten years, that would make you a creepy stalker. Especially given (given your ridiculous hyperbole and expectation of acceptance as truth, I'm going to assume that you're about 14-15) that you found her sexually attractive since about kindergarten. If I am right, however, and it has been one or two months, ask her out. Seriously, there are worse things in the world than getting turned down. In fact, that just means you move on to a girl that will accept you.

(Side Note: Up until this point, I feel like Phoenix Wright. Fuck yeah.)
(Side Note: After this point, I feel like a rambling old man. Oh no.)


Anyway, if I may go off on a tangent, kindergarten is a neat word (this has been on my mind since I said it in the previous section). In fact, the word comes from the Germans, and literally translates to "child garden". Given that the word has always referred to the schooling (and not some creepy B-rating horror movie), it is a very romantic and fanciful word. Children go to school so that they can blossom and grow into something useful for mankind. Incidentally, both children and fruits just end up feeding the rich anyway.

Which brings me to my next point; employers do not know what they are doing. Naturally, they are out in the world to make money, as are we, but they are often much too selective in hiring processes, and physical appearance takes far too large a role in non-customer service areas. Tattoos, piercings, and completely unprofessional attire will naturally send a bad impression, but what serious difference do pants make in an employee? Is there a secret power to khakis that I have yet to grasp? If employers do not hire people, those same people are not able to purchase products from their store, thus benefiting no one. I suppose that's the economic mess we're in right now, isn't it. Ah well. One other thing: employers hire, often, based on tax credits. Minorities suddenly have a huge advantage, as opposed to equality, over white males. That happened to me (quite obviously) at a Walgreens near me. A black male was late to his interview, so I had to wait as he went before me. Naturally, I don't really care, I mean I have all day to waste. Besides, the guy is wearing jeans and a sarcastic t-shirt while I'm in professional attire - what could go wrong? I overhear them talking, and after the first question or two, the manager offers him the job! He says that he has to think about it, and leaves, and lets me go to my interview. I go through a long interview process where the manager seemed very out-of-it, and I go on my way. Guess who I saw next time I needed a prescription filled. Sigh.

That also brings up a good point. What is with our fucking government? I can understand giving tax credits to companies for being diverse...back in the '60s, but is it really necessary to cripple 40+% of the population (white males)? We, for eight years, spend money that wasn't ours on a voluntary war, throwing us into a big mess. The war still isn't won, nearly 9 years later, we're still borrowing more money for it, and the new administration brings in even more high-spending bills. How does that help anyone? Taxes are going to skyrocket in the next 5 or so years, or maybe even less, and the recession will blow up into a full-blown depression that the United States may not get its way out of! I'm no economist, so I could be wrong on this whole thing, but damn!

So back to my original point, yeah. Go for it. Relationships. Wooh! Something like that, right?
 
So yeah, "close to a decade". I seem to be getting a lot of negative reactions to this point, so let me elaborate a little.

1. "Close to a decade" does not equal "a decade". If you wanted the exact length of time I've been interested in her, I would say it's been 7 years.

2. I chose not to act on my feelings until now because of a number of factors. When I first met her, we were both just kids, and at that age, I didn't know what the hell any of those feelings meant. A few years later, I moved away and didn't have any form of contact with her. A few years after that, I moved BACK (yeah, my life has been kinda crazy), but at this point, she was already spoken for. I started talking with her (and her boyfriend), and decided that, at that point, I would rather have both of them as good friends, instead of trying to steal her away (which I probably wasn't capable of doing anyways) and making an enemy of her boyfriend. This is approximately 1 year ago. As time went on, my feelings for her became stronger, but because of my friendship with her boyfriend, I couldn't act on them.

4 months ago, I had a falling out with her boyfriend. He wasn't as good of a guy as I thought. Apparently, Sam (short for Samantha, just throwing that out there) agrees with me; they broke up a month ago. And now, here we are.

As for love vs. infatuation: I've been infatuated before. What I feel right now is significantly different from what I felt when I was infatuated. Also, "love" isn't a word I throw around freely. I've been gaming for 16 years now, with no chance of ever stopping, and I can't bring myself to seriously say "I love video games".

Anyways, take from this what you will. I didn't write this blog to feed my ego, I simply had something on my mind at 1 in the morning and felt like ranting about it. To the people supporting me, thank you. The internet isn't entirely a hive of scum and villainy. To everyone else:
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