I'm in love.

[Hachibei]

Well, she wasn't there.

Now I have to set up something along the lines of a date for the sole purpose of telling her.

I can't believe I deluded myself into thinking that this was going to go smoothly.

Spoiler

 

[logical thinker]

I don't even want to try to think how you feel.
Be strong.

 

[haohmaru6]

It's probably better you tell her one on one anyway. Smoothly might NOT have been how it might have went at that function you were talking about. If anything, the fact that you need to set something up to tell her might in fact be it going more smoothly than before.

When you finally ask her how she feels about you, just remember, be prepared for the worst, hope for the best. Remember to read the NONVERBAL communication as well as the verbal.

Here's to hoping she recognizes the opportunity in front of her, and that for you to put yourself out there like that is no easy task.

 

[Hachibei]

I actually did it. After driving school today, I just called her up and told her that I needed to tell her something, and went to her house. [Good idea? Bad idea?]

Once I got there, I just laid it all out. Told her everything (well, except for the part where I blogged about it on a gaming site. Let's just keep that between us).

She didn't know how to respond. I could tell my feelings weren't unwanted, it didn't weird her out or anything. Kinda shocked her though.

She said that she considers me a very good friend (which, realistically, is probably the best I could've hoped for, since I don't live in a Disney movie), but she wasn't sure if she wanted anything more from me.

This might get me a lot of flak from the more matured posters, but I think I'm going to wait until she can give me a firm answer. To be honest, I'm probably never going to get this far with any other girl, so I think I'm going to hold out for that slim chance of being with her. I don't care if I have to wait another 7 years or 70 years.

I'm actually pretty happy with the way things went today.

 

[Overlord Nadrian]

Bastard, I hope things go well!

 

[DarkWay]

I actually did it. After driving school today, I just called her up and told her that I needed to tell her something, and went to her house. [Good idea? Bad idea?]

Once I got there, I just laid it all out. Told her everything (well, except for the part where I blogged about it on a gaming site. Let's just keep that between us).

She didn't know how to respond. I could tell my feelings weren't unwanted, it didn't weird her out or anything. Kinda shocked her though.

She said that she considers me a very good friend (which, realistically, is probably the best I could've hoped for, since I don't live in a Disney movie), but she wasn't sure if she wanted anything more from me.

This might get me a lot of flak from the more matured posters, but I think I'm going to wait until she can give me a firm answer. To be honest, I'm probably never going to get this far with any other girl, so I think I'm going to hold out for that slim chance of being with her. I don't care if I have to wait another 7 years or 70 years.

I'm actually pretty happy with the way things went today.

I know that feeling. and if anyone says "wtf dude don't wait!! don't waste your time where your not wanted" then don't listen I waited 4 years and we're now together alot happened in those 4 years it brought us closer and closer together and know we couldn't be happier

 

[Hachibei]

Bastard, I hope things go well!

You're sending mixed messages here

 

[azntiger]

I was hoping for a different ending But thats life can't always get what you want.

 

[Retal]

She said that she considers me a very good friend but she wasn't sure if she wanted anything more from me.

That's what I told you. Give up and save yourself the butthurt.

 

[Hachibei]

She said that she considers me a very good friend but she wasn't sure if she wanted anything more from me.

That's what I told you. Give up and save yourself the butthurt.

Troll harder.

 

[haohmaru6]

SO! She is still holding you back to the "friend zone" eh?! Doesn't she recognize how much GUTS it took for you to lay that all out to her? Doesn't she see she the OPPORTUNITY before her?

One thing I CAN tell you from experience, when girls say they "don't know," what they REALLY mean is, they DO know, but do not want their answer to hurt anyone's feelings. Girls are just like that man. So to save you a HELL of a lot of time, let me translate for you what she REALLY is saying, and you will learn this is the truth I'm pretty sure.

Now I may not be 100% correct, but based on experience and learning over the years a lot about how females think, if there was no "female filter" making her words unclear, what she WOULD be saying is the following:

She was completely unaware that you felt that way. Even so, she does NOT want anything more from you than friendship.

As to her reasoning for this, frankly, it doesn't really matter. Everyone (FEMALES INCLUDED!!) has to take responsibility for their choices. She has made her choice, that she does not want anything more than friendship from you. HER LOSS.

Well kudos to you man, you told her. You can hold your head high.

But (again by EXPERIENCE!) I highly recommend you do NOT, I repeat NOT wait for her to change her mind. That gives her too much power, and another thing about females I have learned (both through research AND by experience,) is that females resent if you give them too much power, whether they be a friend, relative, or significant other. Also it takes power AWAY from you man.

Seriously man it sounds like yer the kind of guy who has a lot of love to give, and if she can't recognize the value of that, then totally her loss. Don't waste your time. You have proven to yourself that you have the guts to express your feelings to a girl when you had no way of knowing if she would reciprocate, and that shows growth man. I think it means you are ready to find someone who WILL reciprocate. So it's time to start looking. Remember man, none of us are getting any younger, although you have more time than some of us.

So good luck to you man, and take pride in your courage.