are you a virgin?

[Sinkhead]

Yes, I am a virgin, but I am friends with almost everyone at my schools (even the ladys) and some I know like me but I'm not that interested. So I guess time will tell.

Same with me.

 

[Agjsdfd]

Am no virgin...
Actually I woudnt mind being one, but did my first time when I was 13, for a funny(twisted) reason.
Then later on for the similar reason with another girl. Now sometimes(rarely) with my girlfriend...

 

[drizzt8886]

haven't been for a long time. Cant really remember when, around 10 years old though.

 

[ynot914]

I have had sex with three patners and I am 19 years old. The first time I did it I was 15, and was with the girl for around 5-6 months, thought it was love obviously. It's difficult weather or not I believe it to be as life changing as many are acting. If many of you have spoiled it, then how could you even know that it would be SOO much better with someone you need. I believe when you find that someone, even if you've done it in the past, it will feel new and much different. I do not think it matters on what you have or have not done. Currently I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 and a half years, and going extremely strong, and when we rarely partake in an activily (we are still young and have the rest of our lives..) it is much different than other experiences.

P.S: I just want to say I absolutely love this community, even though I have not been here long. It seems very close knit, and I love that.

 

[Pici]

We should make a map of gbatemp to see the areas of virginity.

 

[cherryduck]

I'm not a virgin but I've only ever had it with my girlfriend of two and a half years, we lost our virginities together, and I have to say I'm glad I waited for her because it made it feel so right and special. The sex calms down after a year or so but it's still damn good when it comes! It's also better in a way because we both have matured and know what each other likes, so staying with the one partner I believe is better because there's just something so right about it. Of course I have no experience of it being any other way but for me ignorance is bliss, I'm EXTREMELY happy with the way things are and wouldn't want it any other way. lol we even have our 'sexiversary' 18th June, to mark both our first times

 

[Elisa_]

If you count masturbation, no. If not, the yes, I'm 14

LOL Masdurbating at 14

I first did it at like 18

 

[moozxy]

If you count masturbation, no. If not, the yes, I'm 14

LOL Masdurbating at 14

I first did it at like 18

You're the one who started late >_>

 

[xanth]

I would love to reasure you that it gets better, but I am finding it increasing difficult to find the enthusiasm let alone courage to find that special someone. Rejection is a fucker. But that might just be me, I have never been the most social person in the world.

To quote Dan Savage,
"Every relationship fails, until the one that doesn't."

QUOTE(moozxy @ Apr 26 2008, 11:49 AM)You're the one who started late >_>

Not true, everyone has a different sex drive. There's no such thing as a standard age to start masturbating or having sex at. Some people don't even have a physical sex drive in the first place(although depending on circumstances, that may be due to a hormone deficiency, which should be checked out with a physician).

For those who have said they're born again Christians and/or happy to be virgins, I'm happy for you. I'm also happy for the people who've had sex. I've seen a lot of condemnation of the other side from both groups in my life, so it's refreshing to be in a discussion where neither has been demonized.

 

[legendofphil]

Who the hell is Dan Savage?

 

[Bob Evil]

Who the hell is Dan Savage?

Search engines ... find one ... learn to use it

 

[xanth]

Who the hell is Dan Savage?

Search engines ... find one ... learn to use it

I'll answer anyway, since some people may not be in a position to search for him comfortably.

He's a sex/relationships advice columnist, who's written a regularly syndicated once-a-week column for The Stranger and hundreds of other magazines and newspapers around the states. He also does a weekly podcast, and a daily blog on thestranger.com.

His stuff is very NSFW (not safe for work) to read or listen to. That said, I have anyway.

 

[Salamantis]

If you count masturbation, no. If not, the yes, I'm 14

LOL Masdurbating at 14

I first did it at like 18

You're the one who started late >_>

Exactly

 

[Panzer Tacticer]

This thread sure has been a surprise in how it has NOT gotten nasty, or stupid.

Regarding starting late or early, myself I was a virgin to 25 and stopped being one on my wedding night. I simply was too interested in things like books, military career not to mention I wasn't all that datable. But by 20 I was no longer interested in being single.

Now I knew this girl, (hung out with her, went dancing) but I was eventually just the honorary brother type to her. Watched as she went through boyfriend after boyfriend. She's had 3 kids through 3 fathers. She married the one that gave her #3. The first 2 were utter disasters (ladies, pick a man for man for more than his meat's dimensions). I personally think she made as many wrong decisions as it is possible to make.

My sister, I have no idea how soon she started. But she's been drop dead gorgeous all her life. She's 40+, and life has not yet decided to deliver her mr right. She's had two kids with mr absolutely f**king wrong though (she agrees about the wrong part).

So just how you end up not a virgin is largely up to you. Try and pick a fun person to find out what sex actually is. Don't kill yourself looking for a magical person, it's just sex. You put part A in part B, lots of hydraulic like activity later and you're covered in sweat and one of you has empty testicles. That's about it. It feels great. The last 15 seconds is the reason for the smile. And it's primary reason is to have children (which happens when you are stupid and don't plan in advance).

If you want a life partner, look for a life partner. If you end up having sex, fine, but keep in mind, you don't look for a life partner just for sex.
And you also don't marry a person for their appearance at age 20. Picture them old, fat, wrinkled and ask yourself, could you sleep next to that? That's how everyone generally ends up.
After childbirth, most women make great pillows

 

[xanth]

This thread sure has been a surprise in how it has NOT gotten nasty, or stupid.

Agreed

I'm quite impressed actually. Says something about the maturity of everyone who's responded.

 

[Artheido]

I'm 15, virgin, never masturbated (I find it disgusting) and never will. I'll lose it probably after marriage since I want to ensure I am the only one if you know what I mean.

And due to religion, of course.

 

[ScuberSteve]

I'm 15, virgin, never masturbated (I find it disgusting) and never will. I'll lose it probably after marriage since I want to ensure I am the only one if you know what I mean.

And due to religion, of course.

Aww, how cute!
He thinks he has a choice!
j/k, but on a more serious note, I commmend you for being able to blindly follow your religion.

 

[Kramzy]

dude go jerk off

 

[Ace Gunman]

If you count masturbation, no. If not, the yes, I'm 14

LOL Masdurbating at 14

I first did it at like 18

Everyone develops at their own pace. However, men tend to start masturbating earlier on than women in my experience. I started at an extremely young age, myself.

I'm 15, virgin, never masturbated (I find it disgusting) and never will. I'll lose it probably after marriage since I want to ensure I am the only one if you know what I mean.

And due to religion, of course.

QUOTE(Kramzy @ Apr 26 2008, 12:32 PM)

dude go jerk off

In response to both of these comments, it's unnecessary. The body performs the ejaculatory function regardless of stimulation. If he doesn't masturbate he will eventually have wet dreams; it is unavoidable. Regardless of religious beliefs, or personal philosophy, without masturbatory or sexual stimulation, you will climax at some point, involuntarily.

On the broader subject of intercourse, I respect anyone and everyone's opinions on when to have sex. It's time when you feel it's time. However, I do suggest that you don't just do it when you're physically capable, but also when you're emotionally ready. There are a lot of things that come with sex (no pun intended) and a person should have a mature understanding of the consequences before engaging in said activity.

Branching off that subject, I do believe it's a good thing to have sex before marriage. No offense intended to those who wish to wait, but I'd rather have phenomenal sex with the person I settle down with due to skills learned outside of said relationship... rather than poor to mediocre sex, and spending a lifetime trying to improve (and failing, as neither one of us can teach the other). Women have different needs than men, and while 2 minutes may be good for you, it's not for most women. We no longer live in an era where it's socially acceptable for the man to orgasm and the woman to quietly lay their in eternal sexual frustration. With sex, practice makes perfect.

 

[ScuberSteve]

If you count masturbation, no. If not, the yes, I'm 14

LOL Masdurbating at 14

I first did it at like 18

Everyone develops at their own pace. However, men tend to start masturbating earlier on than women in my experience.

Bullshit.
Girls just don't tell other people as much as guys do.