Normie patterns

[Deleted member 718560]

I love making new friends and I'm easy to get along but sometimes I feel LGBT+ exists inside a bubble. I'm starting to notice a few usual patterns when I hang around guys:

- It's taken for granted that you are straight
- "men this woman that"
- Bisexuality isn't real
- Talking about girls = hyping about your sexual interests
- Transphobia. This one is incredibly common it seems

I hardly confront about any of those things unless people directly ask me what I think about it, which turns out it never happens lol. So I'm talking about it here instead.

I don't get as many chances to hang out with circles predominated by girls so I wonder what those are like.

And yeah, I'm talking about tendencies, not everyone or every group

 

[SylverReZ]

You just have to find the right person to be with. Not everybody is accepting of their sexuality because it could be right-wing political or religious reasons.

 

[AncientBoi]

Of course I've been with guys

And yes.. I've been with grils [don't tell my dead wife I said that]

I definitely Lve being with the guys. I feel, more "Happy" in my life this way.

 

[SadOrigami]

It’s actually pretty common for people to act insensitively toward things they don’t have personal experience with. Since LGBT+ people are a minority, not every group of friends will have someone representing that perspective. Without that connection, some people might not think twice about saying hurtful things, simply because they don’t realize how it could affect someone.

When I was a teenager, my friends used to make really awful jokes about sensitive topics like r**e. At the time, I laughed along with them, it felt like they were just being edgy. But then I became close to someone who had actually been a victim of it. That changed everything. Suddenly, the jokes weren’t funny anymore, as if something in my brain just turned off. I realized I had been desensitized because it wasn’t something I had personally confronted before.

I think it’s natural to become indifferent to things we don’t encounter in our own circles. As kids, we even pick fights over something as small as liking different cartoons, it’s all about what we’re exposed to. If you spend time with people who play sports all day, they might make fun of those who stay home watching anime, and vice versa.

Maybe the solution is to seek out, or create, a more diverse group of friends. By opening up and sharing your experiences, you can help others understand your perspective, and they might start to see things differently too. Or they might start to bully you, life is very mysterious you know...

 

[AncientBoi]

It’s actually pretty common for people to act insensitively toward things they don’t have personal experience with. Since LGBT+ people are a minority, not every group of friends will have someone representing that perspective. Without that connection, some people might not think twice about saying hurtful things, simply because they don’t realize how it could affect someone.

When I was a teenager, my friends used to make really awful jokes about sensitive topics like r**e. At the time, I laughed along with them, it felt like they were just being edgy. But then I became close to someone who had actually been a victim of it. That changed everything. Suddenly, the jokes weren’t funny anymore, as if something in my brain just turned off. I realized I had been desensitized because it wasn’t something I had personally confronted before.

I think it’s natural to become indifferent to things we don’t encounter in our own circles. As kids, we even pick fights over something as small as liking different cartoons, it’s all about what we’re exposed to. If you spend time with people who play sports all day, they might make fun of those who stay home watching anime, and vice versa.

Maybe the solution is to seek out, or create, a more diverse group of friends. By opening up and sharing your experiences, you can help others understand your perspective, and they might start to see things differently too. Or they might start to bully you, life is very mysterious you know...

I myself am a victim of said thing, Twice

 

[Xdqwerty]

I love making new friends and I'm easy to get along but sometimes I feel LGBT+ exists inside a bubble. I'm starting to notice a few usual patterns when I hang around guys:

- It's taken for granted that you are straight
- "men this woman that"
- Bisexuality isn't real
- Talking about girls = hyping about your sexual interests
- Transphobia. This one is incredibly common it seems

I hardly confront about any of those things unless people directly ask me what I think about it, which turns out it never happens lol. So I'm talking about it here instead.

I don't get as many chances to hang out with circles predominated by girls so I wonder what those are like.

And yeah, I'm talking about tendencies, not everyone or every group

I feel that people in my country are quite lgbt-phobic and i'm afraid to come out irl due to that

 

[The Catboy]

I find hanging out with guys from the city tends to not have as many of these issues. But I also don't really hang out with guys that much.

 

[AncientBoi]

I feel that people in my country are quite lgbt-phobic and i'm afraid to come out irl due to that

I feel for you hun

Still, enjoy LIFE to the fullest.