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Everyone learns differently. Most people are not independent learners. There are a few exceptions to this. Myself, someone can show me something and I'll forget it right away. I have to struggle through things, screw up a few times and walk myself through it in a closed room with no distractions. I prefer it this way and am just thick-headed like that however it is always nice to have someone I can go to and say "this is what I'm doing, this is what I've done and what am I doing wrong" and them not show me how to fix it but steer me in the right direction.
Also, you need a goal to work towards to be motivated to learn. This is just common sense. Without having anything to accomplish what is the point in learning?
You don't want to be involved. I totally understand and respect that, my point is simply that you have someone coming on here telling them they are going completely in the wrong direction without telling them which direction they should go in. Maybe that is because they don't have the capacity to go in the right direction, maybe not but what is the harm in telling one of them which is the correct direction/where they should be concentrating on to learn what they need.
What's better, for someone to come in and tell us that we're doing something wrong and learn what not to do next time, or to do something wrong for a long time only to end up being disappointed having known we did it wrong? Sometimes, we need to learn the hard and painful way; I'm not discouraged by what he said in the least, I look at it as an opportunity to pick ourselves up and move on. Sometimes, people need to be frank and maybe even overbearing when correcting another person. I can certainly choose to be annoyed or pissed off at what Marcan said, but why should I get upset? It solves nothing, I'm trying to do what I believe to be right, I try to learn from past mistakes of taking things too personally and being hard on myself. It solves nothing, but only makes others bitter or antagonistic (no one in particular, but it can certainly create tension). If anything, what he said pushes me to want to actually start learning even more.