If it is just a 4 pin connector* then fly some wires instead. You might end up having to do it anyway if the pads are ripped off** -- you might be lucky there and have those 4 pads not traverse the layers and thus just have to scrape back and solder on.
I can understand not wanting to do 30 but 4 is nothing, and looking at the ribbon that might even just be three traces that do anything.
*the back two looking more like mechanical fixings or maybe a ground plane connection. Easy enough to sort otherwise.
**from the shots you provided that is either white (common colour of PCBs) or silvery (common colour of solder). I can't tell from them though. I have seen both happen when something is ripped off, more pads gone than not when it gets this small but not enough talk in any kind of absolutes.
Desoldering plastic connectors like that such that they can be reused is a pain. I have yet to find a particularly reliable way of doing. I usually go with hot air, flowing some nice glorious leaded stuff on there to drop the temperature that little bit more, a bunch of flux, maybe some tin foil to shield the plastic and surroundings from the heat as much, solder wick to remove what solder you can. If you can do one pin at a time or section at a time then do that too. You have some partially hidden pads at the back
"but there is a lot of black around the socket and several chips, its fu#ked!"
If it still plays then there are other means to charge a battery and at least have a portable device. Those wireless charging addons people use for phones without it inbuilt being a good place to start looking.
