IM IN LOVE, but I fail so hard at it >>

Yet I didn't plan this to happen... I think I should fill you in guys.

Hi, another blog from your very own Solar Cell. As you may have read in the title, I have this problem. Yes, I think I'm in love. Thinking back of my history of dating, it's most likely zero.
So what's the situation, you may ask? Well the point is, I like her. She's nice, smart and somewhat cute :shy:. And there we go, I am the most inexperienced, say Noob, at the wide spectrum of boy/girlfriend relations. The last girlfriend i had was almost 6 years ago.

We talk normally to each other, and I have been able to hide my feelings for her, until... well friday I think. I thought it was a little crush, but then, she sat alone in class. I was thinking of making my move, and sitting next to her, but my heart began to beat like a crazy motherf***er, and left me immobilized. At first, I was like ARGH, but then I went like wtf.
Fun sidenote: I'm the shy silent, yet smartish character.
I blew the chance, and I literally banged my head to the wall when I came home from school.

BUT not all hope is lost. I have the feeling that she might like me too. I have yet to confirm any of this, but in class, I catch her sometimes glaring at me. When I look up to her, she quickly turns her eyes away. Well, I am doing the exact same, so it might lead me somewhere.

As for now, I think that I have let my feelings go a bit, and I have never ever felt this way about someone. Sure, i have a lot of Girls as friends, but I don't feel like this about them. its not like they make my heart skip a beat. Omg, im starting to sound crazy... Fuck me. I will keep looking into it, as I might have a chance here.

But there I am, too shy and silent, and I don't know how to approach her. I don't know how to tell her my feelings, let alone ask her if she feels the same about me. And that part really troubles me, because I do think about her a lot, and she even appears in the most random dreams I have. Not only that, I'm starting to see her everywhere.

This is where I ask the 'Temp for help. I'm a complete mess, and I need help on this part. I really do. Can you guys help a fellow temper out :(

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Tom Bombadildo
Ha, you're not a mess my fellow temper, and I wouldn't say...in love, you just have an extremely strong attraction towards this girl that might blossom into love! What you need to do though is sort of...hang out with her more. Whenever you get nervous just think to yourself "I bet she feels this way, too." It really does work. You should just go up to her, sit next to her, and ask her what she's doing (insert day here) and if she'd like to hang out. Start it off with something simple, if she says yes then go do whatever! If she says no, don't give up and see if she will another day! If you need date ideas, PM me and I can help you out if you'd like :)
 
boktor666
Well, it sorta was my tactic to do so.... but, my shyness isn't helping me. I really need to figure this out. And yes, I'm a mess, my whole mind is a big fuzz of things. This is so stressing :c But anyways, Thanks for the offer, i might need some help later I think. I just hope that the feeling is on both sides. I just have a hunch that being with her would be so great .. I am blabbing again. I'll give it a shot, it's not like anythings gonna stop me, except me (Read the part on friday again...it happens often and such.)
 
X
Protip: man up and casually tell her "hey, you're beautiful". Always works. Unless she isn't interested in you, but at least then you know and can start looking for someone else.

I mean it.
 
Edgedancer
Well I am looking at your age on your profile and thinking that your last girlfriend was at age 11, I really would not count something at that age a proper relationship to be honest, so dont let that sully your confidence. But I digress. I was in your situation last August, in that I was trying to tell the girl i was attracted to and I felt that I chocked so many times. I recently learnt that while I was trying to say it, she was waiting for me to say it. You just have to take the risk and sometimes, it will blow up in your face, but it may also be completely awesome and the start of something new. You just have to weigh up whether your feelings are strong enough to warrant the possible repercussions.
 
stinkoman
Listen to SuprGamr and Nathan. They have good advice, although you might not want to be that immediate with it. She might think you're shallow if you run at it head on and you might want to get to know her better first. You'll have a better chance at getting her if you're already friends. Any Halloween parties or anything coming up that you've both been invited to? I'd take the opportunity to get to know her a bit before jumping into it based on first impressions. Looks are deceiving and you'd be surprised what forms crazy can take. Just be yourself and remember that if she isn't into you then she isn't into you, but that doesn't mean you should stop trying.
"Those who matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter."
 
boktor666
BUT BUT, I know that and all. But I feel like I don't really... know her enough just to walk up to her and say " Hi, we talk a lot, and I like you". It's quite direct. Maybe too direct actually. @Nathan, I... think she's not the type that really falls for these comments, but thanks for the suggestion...
@Kevan, I know about that blog . I was actually reading that a while ago, but I didn't know the same thing would happen to me. See, it's kinda complicated. We were in class together, but we split up due to her moving to a higher level of education. (VWO that is.. its the highest of the Highschool branches here. Im doing HAVO, wich is 1 underneath, but also considered far above average. Then, after failing my exams, i had to redo class, and, though im not catholic or so, I made a small prayer that I would be able to be in her class again... And after summer, it was case that she's in my class now :O

I always had some feelings for her, but it's quite strange to have that feeling explode throughout my mind. It's blurring my thought process far enough, that i'm asking the Temp for help, while only YOU guys know about it. Haven't told anyone else yet, let alone her. I am just afraid that, if I say to her that I like her, that I would make her think I'm sort of a fruitcake, and have the whole sha-bang backfire at me. :C I need to reconsider my plans.. I was thinking of asking her out to some evening in the city, where all the streets will be lighted with candle lights. *sigh* what to do
 
X
Hey. Don't ask the internet (or anyone IRL, for that matter) for advice if you're not going to listen to it.

This may sound rude, and that's exactly my intention. Wake up and realise the world isn't going to wait for you to decide on what to do. For all anyone knows, some other guy asks her out before you've made up your mind and then you've lost her. Either go after her or don't even bother.
 

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