Best tool ever:
Take a cotton swab and cut off the end
Take a tiny amount of aluminum foil and shove it inside the hole
Make sure the foil covers the tip but doesn't wrap around it
100% foolproof and you never lose contact with the pad!
Thanks for that chuckstudios i just flashed my new black dslite (and i buyed it just today
It didn't worked at first time because the aluminum foil was not placed properly. It was a little to deeper inside the cotton swab than it should be. After i pull the aluminum foil outside just a little bit (but i DO NOT wrap it around the cotton swab as you said) it worked like a charm.
Also this was my first DSLite to flash (i flashed successfully 2 phat ds's in the past) and also the audio cues at flashme v8a are really helpful.