Why I have been hardly posting anything on the temp for the last few months.

That was a fairly fast progression from your earlier posts.

Hope you get where you need to be.

My deepest sympathy! It's never easy to lose one of your parents (I lost both of mine). If it's any consolation, there is no better way to pass away than in your sleep.

I only can tell nothing hurts like the first moment, but with time you will start to replace the sorrow with the happy memories, she'll be with you fir ever on they.

FAST6191 said:

That was a fairly fast progression from your earlier posts.

Hope you get where you need to be.

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The last six months was just Brutal. She went from being able to have a proper conversation with you mind you with the odd forgetful moment and she was up walking about and doing good. Then she preety quickly went downhill. First she was unable to walk without any help then as the weeks went by she got more and more forgetful and she couldn't get out of bed at all. Then about w weeks ago she stopped eating anything and we could only get her to drink water and protein drinks the Dr recommended. Then last week the Dr put her on end of life care.

As for me we'll I'm just keeping myself busy organising everything and letting everyone know. If I stop I think and I'm running out of things to keep myself busy with.

I has been there with my father. The pain gets "easy".
But for my has been 20 years and still some days I woke craving for call him just to realize I cannot, and the tears come again. My best wishes for you and your family.

AmandaRose said:

The last six months was just Brutal. She went from being able to have a proper conversation with you mind you with the odd forgetful moment and she was up walking about and doing good. Then she preety quickly went downhill. First she was unable to walk without any help then as the weeks went by she got more and more forgetful and she couldn't get out of bed at all. Then about w weeks ago she stopped eating anything and we could only get her to drink water and protein drinks the Dr recommended. Then last week the Dr put her on end of life care.

As for me we'll I'm just keeping myself busy organising everything and letting everyone know. If I stop I think and I'm running out of things to keep myself busy with.

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That really was quick then. Seen similar but usually only when someone on the downhill gets put with the rest of the vegetables ("your kids choose your nursing home" is more than a joke); keep them thinking and they will stick around longer.

Never really sure what is better though. I have seen people linger in some atrocious states for years, I have seen those fade out slowly, and those burn out fast. Sounds like you made something of it though and likely have no regrets beyond the "I could have done more" thing that everybody has -- sounds like kids around, eating own food, in own house, presumably the odd trip somewhere fun (whatever that might be -- most people with dementia, especially late stage, are incapable being duplicitious so if they looked happy with a trip to the shops then they were)... don't underestimate that one.

Wish you all the best!

Sorry to hear that @AmandaRose
I truly mean it when I say that I'm feeling your grief.

I hope to not sound like an asshole with the following... but living/caring for a relative with dementia is pretty awful. Experienced that with my grandpa and it's an awful memory I have to live with.

Wish you a fast recovery.
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