Helping someone who does not appreciate it ...

Well i have a very good friend who has no work since ~2 years and now in the company where I work there are two jobs and hardly anyone who wants the job even thaught its a rather nice job with good payment.

Now my friend says he badly wants the job and I already annoyed several higher ups and they sayed they would give him a chance ... now he wrote a application which sucked bad ass with extremely bad grammar and so on and they sayed they normaly can not take someone like this but because of me they are thinking it over again.
I told my friend he should make another letter of application and go to the one responsible for hireing ppl and giving her (yes her) a the new better version and say sorry for the bad one.
Now i tried all to help him make it better but he is allways like "its to late I am tired and can not work on the application right now" and "my girlfriend is visiting I have no time" and so on.

I already told him I would not help him any more, but he still is my best friend even thaught i am extremely pissed cuz I do look bad at work because of him.
What would you guys do ? abondon your best friend or taking the risk that your higher ups would think bad of you ?



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I already even told him I would not mind if he has no interest in working cuz I can understand that its easyer to life on your parents pocket and doing nothing the whole day but still he at least pretends to want the job
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Sanderino
I think yuo should say that he needs to tell the truth, otherwise, what your doing is pointless and maybe the higher ups think bad about you.
 
G
At first I thought it might make sense for you to write something up for him... on second thought though thats dumb. Well. I guess the only thing you have left to do is:

Talk to him direct and get the facts straight ( I know its hard to talk like that to a friend, but this seems to involve your job status too).

Maybe talking to his girlfriend might also help ? I don't know who your friend might listen too, but if several people keep telling him the same thing it might help.

Also: Maybe it would be wise to help him writing his application. Did he just not try hard enough to write his "suckey" application, or does he have trouble writing applications in general ?
Scratch that... I saw you already did :(...

Even if he miraculously gets the job you should always keep in mind that if he screws something up it might fall back on you.
 
luke_c
If he doesn't show interest in getting it, then he doesn't deserve it, tell him to write the Application form again, and tell him you will help him, if he declines, it's obvious he doesn't give a shit.
 
Jamstruth
Sound's like he's just lazy. Having a job is probably just a drain on his free time to him, tell him he needs to pull his act together or he'll wind up living off benefits the rest of his life (not a good way to go.)
 
Raika
Life isn't always smooth. If he can't be assed to do things right then you shouldn't care about him. After all, you'll have to separate work from personal relationships. Rules are rules, he won't get far in life with such a lazy attitude.
 
Youkai
Well like I said i told him my opinion already, and i think you are right i should not do more than I did now.

If he comes to me in the next days asking for help I might think it over but I for one won't make the first step to help him any more.

Even thaught i can understand him somehow (I was more or less the same) I still can't understand why someone would try to evade any help -.-V
When i was jobless i was like "boooooring" but still I hardly wrote any applications but when i got help from my father who was helping me getting a job where he is working I hardly worked and did a good application in no time and so on ...
I would never even think about not doing something like this especially when I recieve help.
 
Hotzdevil
one of the reasons he's become lazy is coz he hasn't not been working for the past 2 years, hence he has gotten used to the routine of not doing anything and finding excuses when there an opportunity to better your life(i went through almost the same rut once but not as severely thank god the urge to move on with my life > than being lazy :P).. I'd say IMO u have done the best you can as a friend now its his turn to step up and grab hold of the opportunity provided...
 
D
You stuck your neck out for this person and he responded by making you look like an asshole to your superiors. Whatever relationship you have with this person should no longer apply to your professional life.
 

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