Is marriage actually worth it?

So recently my girlfriend and I have been looking at some engagement rings and we've been really talking over the idea of marriage. Both of us aren't really opposed to the idea, but we also both came from families where our parents remarried several times and it's left a bit of an impact on our perspective of marriage. At the same time I am starting to really deeply love the idea of marrying her and spending our the rest of our lives' together, but I still wonder if it's worth it? I don't have many married friends and those who I did have married out of high school and it their relationships didn't last long. So obviously I felt like making a blog to really get the Temp's thoughts on this topic.
Edit: Just want to clear up that Rhi and I aren't planning on getting married any time soon. We were actually taking a visit to one of our favorite jewelry sites and found this ring. We both really liked the ring and of course it sparked a conversation about marriage and our thoughts on the topic. But we both are working more towards getting me the medical attention I need and working on college related stuff (her classes and getting me into college.) The topic just happened to be fresh on my mind and I felt like making a blog about it.
Right now in my life after my last relationship, I am not willing to make another life changing decision. Ending my last relationship was a hassle enough when dealing some the leasing of my apartment and bills, I don't even want to think about how bad it would have been if marriage involved.
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H1B1Esquire
@DinohScene

You've been lulled into the thoughts that weddings have to be more than what they are (to an extent, as you realize that, to a government it's just a binding agreement to fuck you hard on taxes (when applicable), a way for photographers to make a few bucks with a shitty "DJ", shitty catering company, and a few shitty relatives/friends to get shitfaced and request shitty music while eating shitty food and fucking up shitty pictures), but ideally, a couple should just go to city hall, get married, and if they make their marriage last, have a "traditional" wedding.

Looks like Chary's going to disagree XP...or at least her dad (yes, I'm totally bringing that up from months ago).

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@Jayro
Do it. Do it now. Most divorces are "cheap", compared to all of the stress you'll incur if you wait.
Not saying it's going to happen to you, but my uncle (not capitalizing) didn't get a divorce, had kids with another woman, and when he died, his legally-bound wife tried to claim all the benefits--and no one can really do anything about it.
 
F
There was a time I strongly believed that people do not change. I was wrong.

It cost me dearly. I work hard for a living but I literally sleep on a friends living room floor whilst she lives it up in the house I paid for. Sorry to be a killjoy, have a nice life with your girlfriend but whether you marry or not protect yourself ! Prenupituals are not just for celebrities !
 
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leon315
@DinohScene if you are lucky enough u will probably do ur marriage ceremony just once per life, as you said if marriage is just a paper with couple of names, don't think you are very cheap?
 
VzUh
I just cant get over the confussion over marrying!=wedding that some folks here seems to have
marrying: you'll know, Im not the one that will tell you what to do with your life
wedding: if you can and dont mind the money, do it. the hardest of the parties :toot:
 
AxlSt00pid
Definetly not married, but as I can see, if you love eachother and know you'll always be there for your couple, then yes marriage is worth it.

At least you are interested in getting married, not like me, who I'm scared of marriage and don't want to ever get a wife nor gf (and my parents don't want to understand my thoughts)
 
onibaku
I don't see why people would become more committed after they get married, that just sounds strange to me. I think both partners should be as committed to the relationship regardless of their marital status. My feelings for my partner shouldnt change because of our relationship status (unless we're both single... which means we broke up.. woops sorry bad joke)


To me marriage is like the idea of royalty. Royalty doesn't really serve any purpose anymore, they have no political impact and are there mostly out of tradition and entertainment (well at least in Sweden). The only thing I can understand is the marriage ceremony itself (not that it matters to me though), declaring your love to your partner in front of all your friends and beloved ones and celebrating it, doing something very special I guess, something that no one would normally do in their spare time.


I can also understand it from a legal perspective (eg. getting married so u dont get deported), that I'm not sure I agree with though but I can understand why people would do it.
 
FAST6191
Hells Malice said:
If you're happy with someone and genuinely think you could be together forever, there's really no reason not to get married. Weddings are fun even if you're not a social person. Being common law isn't a whole lot better in a lot of cases, if you're looking to avoid trouble.
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Around here it can really mess up your tax situation and some financial tricks you can do, a big one being a married couple is only allowed one primary residence which makes buying houses to flip somewhat harder. Perks wise there is essentially nothing (if you are really really old, or if you want to have a kept partner, which means basically nobody then you have something, and there is a minor quirk with capital gains that basically nobody uses either).
 
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I been married for 7 years. Never marry. I don't care how much you love her or care about her. She'll fill your heart with joy and promises..everything will go great and then when you least expect it,She'll rip your heart out of your ass and crush your soul for all it's worth. I would like to divorce as we both gave up and no one cares now,I don't have anywhere to go and due to my panic and anxiety disorder I don't do well with people and come to hate them,money is the only issue that's holding me back. I'm exhausted and was much happier single. Now I can speak for all marriages. There are successful marriages,I obviously speak from my own experience. I am 36,tired,bitter and just F**k all. If any of you decide to marry and are happy with it and continue to be, congrats. I don't feel marriage is worth the struggles,heart ache,resentment,disappointment,failure and bitterness it tends to bring. Just put me in a hut with basic needs and I'm good.
 
nando
only if the other person is uber rich and doesn't make you sign a pre-nopt
 
k3rizz3k
Comments like the ones posted are why I'll never let my wife adopt my son. I'm already tired of the way she is.
 
DeadSkullzJr
@nando if you have an issue with signing a prenuptial agreement then that indicates you are only in it for the money lol. That is terrible lmao. So what if the person is rich, doesn't give you a right to use them.
 

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