Is dating supposed to kill your sex drive?

Haha... well yeah, surprise surprise, shadowboy actually went out of his cave for once. We aren't actually "an item" yet. but she already told me she really likes me and I'm just waiting till our next date to make it more romantic when I ask her to be my girlfriend. And she is amazingly beautiful. And smart. And I could go on, but I won't.

But yeah, whats wierd is that ever since we started dating I just don't feel horny.
I mean, literally NOTHING can make me get even the slightest bit that way at all.
Porn, hentai, envisioning hot girls I used to know naked... the only thing I haven't tried is envisioning her naked, and that would just plain and simple be desecrating her image, so I haven't (and won't) tried it. Whats really weird tho is that I don't even want to have sex with her.
I just want to talk, and be romantic... maybe at most after a while a bit of foreplay... but honestly, thats the most I can see myself wanting to do. I think I'm in love, to be honest <3

So my question is: is this normal or am I a freak?

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Maybe
Ehh, it depends on your age and your past relationships, IMO at least...
 
Maybe
Yeah, once you 'go steady' with her, and you get to know her, be with her more, ect. I'm sure you will start to 'feel the way you want to' ;) Everything will come naturally, don't worry. Good luck.

PS: If you were a freak, you would get horny from looking at a soda can.
 
Relys
[quote name='shadowboy' post='1628741' date='Dec 12 2008, 09:23 PM']17. No past relationships.[/quote]

Well, at least I'm not the only one...

I'm good looking and everything.. I guess it was just because I've always been homeschooled.

I'm in college now.
 
ridgecity
I think you love her... lol... you like her so much you don't even feel comfortable about sex with her. relax dude, she'll make the first move probably, something like "where's the handle to open the car door? I can't find it!" than translates to "go down on me" lol...

if you don't feel anything at all, either you are virgin and afraid of sex or you don't like her for more than friends.

Like they say: you are putting pussy on a pedestal, it's just sex dude. Many seeing as the climax point of dating and others enjoy it like a pasttime.

Not to mention she approached you, you probably feel intimidated by her. Just get it on man! did you know 40% of 20-40 year old women enjoy having sex 2 times a day?
 
Hadrian
I can't ever say that dating has ever killed my sex drive, but then the longest I've dated before having sex with someone is 3 days.
 
jefffisher
i'm not exactly a normal person in the normal ways but am so very far from being considered a freak on anyone's calender. exact same thing happened with me while i don't know if it's normal it's definitely a good thing :)
 
EmperorOfCanada
I have the lowest sex drive of anyone Ive met. I almost feel bad for my girlfriend actually cause she aint gettin any from me :P
 
M
[quote name='EmperorOfCanada' post='1628843' date='Dec 13 2008, 07:48 AM']I have the lowest sex drive of anyone Ive met. I almost feel bad for my girlfriend actually cause she aint gettin any from me :P[/quote]

Get a boyfriend :P
 
Sir-Fritz
[quote name='m3rox' post='1628855' date='Dec 13 2008, 06:09 PM'][quote name='EmperorOfCanada' post='1628843' date='Dec 13 2008, 07:48 AM']I have the lowest sex drive of anyone Ive met. I almost feel bad for my girlfriend actually cause she aint gettin any from me :P[/quote]

Get a boyfriend :P
[/quote]Like gaydrian? but i've heard he's lesdrian these days.
 
shadowboy
hahaha... i've been in a daze the past few weeks, its all just happening too fast... glad to see that it seems perfectly normal for me to feel this way for now tho.
And who knows, I'm willing to bet that if she did something sexy (come-hitherish) i would go for it immediately. Right now were both more focused on grades and stuff, so i doubt thatll happen for the next few months at least.

But again, the crazy part is that I don't even care. Like I said, I don't even WANT to have sex anytime soon. ^_^

OMFG I still can't believe I'm actually dating tho...
 
dukenukethis
Look up the word "Platonic." it means "intimate and affectionate but not sexual." sounds like you, it's not bad or anything, a good few of my relationships started out that way.
 
Ace Gunman
To some people it's normal. But you're going to need to (and likely will) get over it eventually. You've mentally and emotionally put this girl on a pedestal and can't imagine wanting someone else or defiling her. Some would call this a symptom of love, or at the very least romantic emotions. It will eventually pass.

I've had similar experiences in the past, there are some girls I thought were just too wonderful to ever think my usual filthy thoughts about. It's usually only present in the early puppy love phases of a relationship, from my own experience. It's perfectly normal, one would think.
 
Chopders
I had already lived the same situation as you, but the girl wasn't THAT beautiful out side, maybe that's why. But I don't feel like this now.
Like someone said, she will makes the first steps, don't be stress. :wink:
 
K
It sounds like you like her. To be honest, you should probably take it slow. Don't think you love her just yet, that could be a mistake that could hurt later on. That is just my advise from experience.
 
xylos
Wow... coming out of my latest breakup and now I see this post LOL :wacko: I too felt like I liked her a ton but respected her in every possible manner. Most of the time she was making the first moves for me (it was like 50-50 at first). This could of been the mistake. Respect is a sign of true love and mabey wanting to take a calm relationship...
 

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