How do you talk to a girl?

[Quantumcat]

I'm often getting girls' numbers, usually daily

They are probably the sort of girls looking for a quick fling, not interested in a relationship with you, which isn’t what the OP wanted (I believe). If they DID want a relationship then you’re being extremely douchey by continuing to accept numbers and not calling any of the people who previously gave you their numbers.

 

[Thirty3Three]

Youtube tutorials on dating tips are lame.

I'm just saying there are probably some. If he has to ask this question, it may benefit him. Thanks for your opinion.

 

[Quantumcat]

But here's the thing. Are the fellow humans the ones that get you twirling your hair and biting your lip while they talk to you? There's a way to approach women, because they're women, just to flirt.

They aren’t going to end up with a long term relationship. They would be just having some fun/looking for a fling.

 

[Thirty3Three]

They are probably the sort of girls looking for a quick fling, not interested in a relationship with you, which isn’t what the OP wanted (I believe). If they DID want a relationship then you’re being extremely douchey by continuing to accept numbers and not calling any of the people who previously gave you their numbers.

Not really. A few of them I dated for a while. The ones I've gotten any other times, either we didn't mesh or I learned that the connection just wasn't there. You shouldn't read into things so much. You're making so many assumptions. Also, getting attacked for trying to help! Cool!

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They aren’t going to end up with a long term relationship. They would be just having some fun/looking for a fling.

You don't know this at all. You really can't make that assumption. New Year's Eve, a girl was making eye contact with me. That's it. But a lot. It didn't end in sex that night. Later yeah, but that night I asked her out to dinner for the following week. We went on a few dates, and we ended up dating for 6 months. Sure that wasn't a while but I just... lost any feeling I had for her. We weren't compatible.

 

[WeedZ]

They aren’t going to end up with a long term relationship. They would be just having some fun/looking for a fling.

Actually, I think you may be right. A lot of my relationships have been..

"I think you're hot"
"I think you're hot too, let's fool around"
"You're good in bed"
"So are you, we should date"

Then it ends a few months later when we get to know each other, with a lot of screaming.

Btw, what's with all the asking for dating advice on the temp today? I've been bouncing between like 3 threads.

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You don't know this at all. You really can't make that assumption. New Year's Eve, a girl was making eye contact with me. That's it. But a lot. It didn't end in sex that night. Later yeah, but that night I asked her out to dinner for the following week. We went on a few dates, and we ended up dating for 6 months. Sure that wasn't a while but I just... lost any feeling I had for her. We weren't compatible.

Ayy, that sounds like the example I just posted.

 

[Hells Malice]

Btw, what's with all the asking for dating advice on the temp today? I've been bouncing between like 3 threads.

You probably shouldn't be, to be honest.

 

[WeedZ]

You probably shouldn't be, to be honest.

I don't recall actually giving any advice, just sharing experiences. But hey, telling people what pussies they are and being your usual asshole self seems to be profoundly enlightening for these kids. So keep that up.

 

[ThoD]

I many times talks to girls because they are girls. I always try to surround myself around girls as much as I can. When i'm in class I try to form groups with mostly girls. I love girls. And its a lot of fun making them laugh. And I love it when they get nervous around you.

I'm the same, because who doesn't love a good harem?

 

[GhostLatte]

Just bring them in your white van as no one else would be around

Just talk to them like any ordinary human being.

 

[BlueFox gui]

people like to help? well
i am shy what do i do?

 

[xpoverzion]

I'm reluctant to ask this question for several reasons

- When people ask questions like this online most of the answers range from useless (just be yourself) to both stupid and useless (all the examples that come to mind would instantly derail the thread).

- I've learned a lot more about girls from real life than posts online.

- My friends who do get laid tell me my social skills are up to the job. I believe them and just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it won't happen.

But with that said, I have never had a girlfriend before and you do find some useful pieces of information in threads like these.

When you talk to a girl, don't think of her as a woman, or person that you want to end up in bed with. Think of her has just another human being that you genuinely want to get to know, and develop a friendship with. Since most guys are clueless pigs, women appreciate, and become interested in a man that can treat her like a human being. But, most importantly, the attraction factor has to be there. One thing that we all men and women learn sooner or later is that if the attraction isn't there, then it doesn't matter how amazing the personality, or friendship is. Without the attraction, every relationship will eventually end, or one will cheat on the other. So it's a little more complicated than just starting out by talking to a woman as if she is a neutral friend.

 

[BlueFox gui]

When you talk to a girl, don't think of her as a woman, or person that you want to end up in bed with. Think of her has just another human being that you genuinely want to get to know, and develop a friendship with. Since most guys are clueless pigs, women appreciate, and become interested in a man that can treat her like a human being. But, most importantly, the attraction factor has to be there. One thing that we all men and women learn sooner or later is that if the attraction isn't there, then it doesn't matter how amazing the personality, or friendship is. Without the attraction, every relationship will eventually end, or one will cheat on the other. So it's a little more complicated than just starting out by talking to a woman as if she is a neutral friend.

you need to be attractive?
oh well i will give up then XD

 

[xpoverzion]

you need to be attractive?
oh well i will give up then XD

No. Attraction is different for everybody. But some men, and some women, are more attractive to the general population than others. Obviously this increases your chances of success with the opposite sex. It is what it is. It's called biology, nature, natural selection, etc.. Don't be mad about it.

 

[BlueFox gui]

No. Attraction is different for everybody. But some men, and some women, are more attractive to the general population than others. Obviously this increases your chances of success with the opposite sex. It is what it is. It's called biology, nature, natural selection, etc.. Don't be mad about it.

be mad?
i just said i give up i'm ugly lol

 

[linuxares]

Huh... I never dated a girl that didn't start as a friend. I guess that's why my relationships are often long?

 

[Spectral Blizzard]

Hi, how are you?
*starts a disscussion topic*
...

 

[AxlSt00pid]

Idk, just be yourself?
The first thing I said to the girl that weeks later would be my gf (And now ex-gf) was "What the fuck are you looking at? I will fucking kill you" (joking ofc) while she was looking at me and laughing non stop
I'm dead serious
EDIT: I might actually have said this on this thread? I don't actually remember it but I remember saying this on a similar thread

 

[Chary]

Honestly, I wouldn't date a guy that hadn't been my friend prior. My current relationship basically started as a really solid friendship that sorta moved on from there. Talking to a girl is quite simple, you just try to find out what they like, and such, as stated above by @xpoverzion. From there, you try to see if there's a mutual interest from the other party, and see where things go. And, I mean, Rule #1 is definitely "Don't be a creeper". There's no better way to make a girl run away and never want to talk to you, if you come across as some perv/creep.

 

[BORTZ]

I found that the easiest way to get people (girls included) to like me was just to be myself and not really care what others think. Mileage may vary but if you can crack a joke here and there you might have more success. Make yourself fun to be around. I am not saying try to be the center of attention, but just being entertaining is huge.

 

[Spectral Blizzard]

Honestly, I wouldn't date a guy that hadn't been my friend prior. My current relationship basically started as a really solid friendship that sorta moved on from there. Talking to a girl is quite simple, you just try to find out what they like, and such, as stated above by @xpoverzion. From there, you try to see if there's a mutual interest from the other party, and see where things go. And, I mean, Rule #1 is definitely "Don't be a creeper". There's no better way to make a girl run away and never want to talk to you, if you come across as some perv/creep.

Welp, I fell sorry for half the guys over here.
I'm only creepy on the internet.