GUYS!!!! I have found my problem, the micro sd card I was using is a sandisk 32gb sd card sdhc. I used a 4gb card for the flashcart and this time I switched the contents on both the cards so the 4gb card was in the console this time and it worked.
If anyone else looks at this and has the same...
what exact files?
This is what i have on my console SD Card
boot9strap (folder)
Nintendo 3ds (folder)
boot.3dsx
boot.firm
in the boot9strap folder i have:
boot9strap.firm
boot9strap.firm.sha
I've tried that a quite a bit and it just stays black and the blue led light just fades away like before o: I tried different magnets, I've tried different timings, and tried redoing it over and over again. It does't seem to work for me
although i ended up accidentally changing my nand with no way of going back bc i didn't know you needed a gamecube controller to restore it (i have a wii minus/1.1, which doesn't have gamecube controller support)
and if i find the sd card i have my NAND backed up on, i can not only restore the NAND if i solder the right part in, but i can also put my NAND on dolphin, then i can play dolphin online, like PMEX Remix or MKWii Riibalanced