So it's been two months now

Two months ago I left my boyfriends and last month I came back from the grave to bother the Temp, so I felt like it's time for another update blog on how my life has been since then.

Late last month I actually moved back into my old apartment with my girlfriend, Rhi (she gave my permission to use female pronouns while she figures things out,) and it was not pretty. My exes left the place both trashed and empty for us and of course left without warning me about large patches of mold that I am very much allergic to. So it was not a fun experience as we ventured through the place and found that they had basically taken everything of value, regardless if it belonged to them or not and then literally left us with their garbage and nearly all of their clothing. After about two weeks of cleaning and damage reporting, we found they left us with several hundred dollars in cleaning and damage repair, coupled with stealing well over 2000$ in computer parts, video games, consoles, trading cards, and much much more. This was a really heart breaking situation and I am still really tore up over this because they stole my GPUs, my N64 (that I had since launch,) DK64, Rule of Rose (along with several other extremely rare PS2 games,) my Switch, and most of my anime (several costing well over 100$ for just one disk.) That all being said though, we've started replacing all the furniture that they had taken and my friends are working on replacing the things mentioned above. The place has since been cleaned up and declared mold free, so it's not all bad outside of their shitty actions.


So what has happened since then? Since then we've gotten ourselves new phones along with getting the internet, lease, and electricity setup to us, and we've started just living life together. There's really nothing too amazing going on, which is actually really nice. Our relationship hasn't really suffered since living together, we've been working together to help each other, and it's just a normal relationship for once. It's nice finally feeling happy and comfortable with someone that I know feels the same about me. I don't feel like I am going to be hurt by Rhi and I see a bright future with her. I do plan on posting a picture of us together at some point so you all can see the one who helped me through the hardest parts of my life and brought me so much joy in my life now.


Now to address a few questions before they are asked; How were those two able to steal so much from me? Well because I wasn't living with them and refused to help them pack. I knew they would corner me if I was there and would only do more damage to me if I had helped me, so instead we agreed through chats on Facebook and verbal agreements. Instead of respecting those agreements they went out of their way to take everything that they agreed was mine. I trusted that they would have had some respect me, but it appears I was wrong and that they were just bad people with no real respect me.

Did I sue them or take legal action? I wanted to, but I am still debating and working on this issue. There are a lot of concerns that just make it harder for me.

1: It's a lot of time and effort to deal with them. They want a reaction out of me and it's obvious just how badly they wanted me react. They spent so much time time digging through my stuff to take everything of value, that they didn't even pack most of their own clothing. It's one thing to be spiteful, it's another to be this level of spiteful. I don't want to feed into that kind of complex because I know they are just trying to use this for their own kind of twisted mind games.

2: They had already sold a lot of the games of value, so they most likely sold everything else. I came to find out weeks later that they had sold all of my PS4 games and most of my Wii U games. Since they stole everything of value, they've most likely already sold them or have been working on selling them. That just adds another layer of shit I will have go through that only adds more of my time to the courts.

3: Chances are high that I won't get anything out of it. I need to prove everything and there's just a lot much to prove and too little to back it all up.

4: Rhi and I plan on going to Japan in the near future and honestly it's not worth staling that move for them. I need to move forward and I can't do that with two feet firmly planted in the past. Bring them to court could take months to deal with and even possibly years if they feel like dragging it out. That will only stale our move and even possible kill it if they want to keep pushing it. I am not willing to deal with something like this when the future is so much brighter than the past.

So those two can have my stuff, they won't get a reaction out of me. I have a bright future ahead of me, they just have stuff.


Thanks for reading my blog and here's another great Lilith pic for y'all! ^_^
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Today is a hand drawn picture of Lilith dressed as my character from Monster Hunter Story. This one was drawn by my lovely Rhi <3
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You really should get the police involved for your stuff, especially given the monetary value of all of it. That's not petty theft anymore, that's actually a robbery. At the very least, talk to your/a lawyer and see what can/should be done on your part

On a side note, though, I'd be willing to buy you an N64. There's a video game store near me that sells them for a relatively low cost and I feel like you deserve at least that much
 
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> left my boyfriend's
> my exes left the place trashed
> my girlfriend rhi

how many partners did you have? Am I right in counting 4 here? Or is the boyfriend one of the exes - with there being 3 total?

Sorry a bit confused :P
 
"Boyfriends" and "exes" are the same, which are two (she was in a poly-amorous relationship), and Rhi is her current girlfriend(/partner, it sounds like they're questioning their gender). As far as I can tell, only two at any given time unless there was an overlap, not t hat it matters
 
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Over 1000$ is Grand Theft, and it’s a felony. If you can get them on tape saying they took the stuff without permission, you can file a police report and they’ll put out a warrant. Me personally, I’d leave the cops out of it and find those mother fuckers....
 
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Sorry to hear about your bad experiences, but see bright side, you started living a joyful life again with a really nice person by your side, and after all, that's what really matters.

Electronics and stuff could be recovered or bought back later in the way, but as of now, both of you enjoy your lifes together. Never let people like those bullcrap ones get over your head.

greetings~

btw, what a cute drawing. I see they have a lot of talent! Encourage that talent, they can be an amazing artist! (sorry, trying to be gender neutral with partner since i do not have permission for an especific gender)
 
It's not too horrible and I have been looking into getting a lawyer since there are other legal issues that need to be dealt with. I am actually still very much in the fence as to how I want to deal with the theft and still actively building a case against them if I choose to press charges. It's still a matter of proving ownership since we did live together. A lot of it wasn't stuff I paid for, it was often parts I got in exchange for work that I did, so there's no real records until I track down everyone I worked with.
The other issue is that they are across state lines and that's something I will have to take into consideration as well. This would not be a simple case and even for the value lost, it's debatable just how much effort I want I want to put into this.
I know this sounds dismissive, but it's been tearing me apart for weeks now. It's a lot to deal with on top of literally restarting my life. It's extremely hard to determine what's more worth my time and energy, when I have so little of both.
 
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If it's stuff you got in exchange for a service then see if you can track down the people you provided the service for. If you can get them to testify that they did indeed give them to you specifically then that alone might be enough to put them away
 
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I updated the wording of my blog because that issue is still an ongoing on. Right now it's still being worked on, but there's a lot of hiccups and a lot priories that need to be dealt with as well. There's also the matter of proving ownership, for example Rule of Rose, Michael got it for me as a gift. He tried to argue it was his since his money went into, but it was a gift. He's technically right that he did pay for it, even if he technically bought it for me. That's one of many examples and a side effect of a relationship, determing true ownership of items bought in a 10 year long relationship is an extreme undertaking. That's one of the biggest issues when addressing this case. I may say that they took over 2G from me, but I also need to prove it and prove all things taken were without a doubt mine. This would all be piled on top of our plans to move to Japan and all the the things that come with that.
 
Again, talk to a lawyer, you'd be surprised what they can do to pull strings with legal theory (source: my best friend's parents are a judge and a lawyer, respectively, and I've seen the lawyer argue some pretty impressive cases)

On that subject, though; how much of your property are we talking about that they paid for, and in what capacity?
 
Like I said, working on getting a lawyer already for other legal issues, I was already planning on clumping this in there.
Actually that's something I am still working out. I have lists my stuff from before this breakup, I am still working through those lists.
Everything is a matter of proof, I am withholding a lot details until I have everything I need.
 
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that fucking sucks
and mold? what kind of shit stains on our species are they?
I've attempted to get mold to grow from a mess before and never succeeded
so they must of treated the place like crap
actually worse than crap

there's probably also problems with pipes too
my great grandma who died from alsthimers had bkack mold growing at her place because it was extremely humid and had several damaged pipes
so you should get pipes checked and leave windows open for a bit

but its good you left them
mightof gotten even worse if you didn't

and you should take legal action
it was your stuff that they stole
and they also stole anime
anime theft is a crime punishable with that Chinese mutilation thing they do to rapists (I just made that up but anime theft should be punished like that)
if you take action you can probably (assuming they haven't sold it yet) get your stuff back and get damages paid by them

I hope the situation improves soon
 
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Getting mold to grow in your wall/ceiling corners is easy! You just need to live in a humid place, turn the heating up and refuse to open the windows during the whole winter because "it's really cold". Yeah, I know it. Achievement unlocked. It was a PITA to clean that mess up. Lesson learned.
 
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whelp
that's an achievment I can't unlock
I picked the merc rogue class for this playthrough of life so my fire and water resistances are -1500 and -400
 
Yeah we had mold in my home growing up in the weirdest places. Black stuff on walls. Easiest is in the fridge and on old dirty dishes.

Tbh that stuff grows very easily if you're a pig.
 
so in nutshell, tc, you let ur ex use ur apartment, ur body, ur stuffs, play and sell ur games, eat ur food, ur credit card... IT'S SEEMS UNBELIEVABLE to me, it's really hard to find parasites like those, and it's even HARDER to find a person like TC.

if all things TC wrote are truth, then you really should seek some professional mental health assistance ASAP, possibly cancel UR CREDIT CARD... and get a paid one.
 
@sarkwalvein i usually only read the 1st 5 lines because i'm lack of patience.

p.s. never trust credit cards, get a paid or a debit ones.
 

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