Valentines Day

Get her a gushy, super romantic, totally over the top Valentine's Day "I LUV U" card. Add to that: Candy and a stuffed animal/stuffed animals.

Fool.
Proof.

@Nathan

Quickest way to get rejected: tell a girl that you've never dated that you love her.

It's fucking creepy.

[quote name='DigitalDeviant' post='3451694' date='Feb 10 2011, 09:34 PM']So I know this girl, we're friends and she has a boyfriend though she's told me he's over protective and have broken up multiple times. We had class together last semester. Recently she told me(via facebook no less) that she missed me. I have some feelings for her but don't want to get too attached. Regardless valentines day is coming up and was wondering if I could get suggestions for a present, thanks in advance.

edit Kind of odd I joined gbatemp on valentines day![/quote]
what the shit? Im in the near exact same position (really didnt expect that). The difference is I went ahead with it. We hook up, we love each other (cant explain) but its all secretive. Were literally in the position of finally being caught tonight (fuuu..). My advice is slow down! That was my original plan and I failed at it. It probably would have been wiser to let the relationship die, wait for her to recover, then remind her why we care about each other so much. Yeah I love seeing her but secretiveness ruins it. I really dont recommend it. Dont let some BS holiday push you to do something youll regret.

[quote name='monkat' post='3451704' date='Feb 11 2011, 12:43 AM']@Nathan

Quickest way to get rejected: tell a girl that you've never dated that you love her.

It's fucking creepy.[/quote]

Any other advice?

Eeehhh...I don't think that you should get her a present if she's dating someone.

Even if she's considering breaking up with him for good, wait for things to play out. Let her know that you're interested, sure, but don't go doing something "big". Otherwise you'll either come off as a creep, or you'll cause a break-up that should have happened on her terms. She's a big girl, and she can do it.

If she can't, and she's looking for someone to swing onto at all times before a break-up, then she's being needy and greedy. Not necessarily bad, but something she should grow out of on her own.

Yeah. If she's not doing anything with her boyfriend (which ... she is, I can almost promise it), see if you can come over or something.

[quote name='monkat' post='3451715' date='Feb 11 2011, 12:49 AM']Eeehhh...I don't think that you should get her a present if she's dating someone.

Even if she's considering breaking up with him for good, wait for things to play out. Let her know that you're interested, sure, but don't go doing something "big". Otherwise you'll either come off as a creep, or you'll cause a break-up that should have happened on her terms. She's a big girl, and she can do it.

If she can't, and she's looking for someone to swing onto at all times before a break-up, then she's being needy and greedy. Not necessarily bad, but something she should grow out of on her own.

Yeah. If she's not doing anything with her boyfriend (which ... she is, I can almost promise it), see if you can come over or something.[/quote]

words of wisdom, thanks.

"Yeah. If she's not doing anything with her boyfriend (which ... she is, I can almost promise it), see if you can come over or something."

you mean?

[quote name='DigitalDeviant' post='3451751' date='Feb 11 2011, 05:30 PM'][quote name='monkat' post='3451715' date='Feb 11 2011, 12:49 AM']Eeehhh...I don't think that you should get her a present if she's dating someone.

Even if she's considering breaking up with him for good, wait for things to play out. Let her know that you're interested, sure, but don't go doing something "big". Otherwise you'll either come off as a creep, or you'll cause a break-up that should have happened on her terms. She's a big girl, and she can do it.

If she can't, and she's looking for someone to swing onto at all times before a break-up, then she's being needy and greedy. Not necessarily bad, but something she should grow out of on her own.

Yeah. If she's not doing anything with her boyfriend (which ... she is, I can almost promise it), see if you can come over or something.[/quote]

words of wisdom, thanks.

"Yeah. If she's not doing anything with her boyfriend (which ... she is, I can almost promise it), see if you can come over or something."

you mean?
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[quote name='zeromac' post='3451754' date='Feb 11 2011, 01:34 AM'][quote name='DigitalDeviant' post='3451751' date='Feb 11 2011, 05:30 PM'][quote name='monkat' post='3451715' date='Feb 11 2011, 12:49 AM']Eeehhh...I don't think that you should get her a present if she's dating someone.

Even if she's considering breaking up with him for good, wait for things to play out. Let her know that you're interested, sure, but don't go doing something "big". Otherwise you'll either come off as a creep, or you'll cause a break-up that should have happened on her terms. She's a big girl, and she can do it.

If she can't, and she's looking for someone to swing onto at all times before a break-up, then she's being needy and greedy. Not necessarily bad, but something she should grow out of on her own.

Yeah. If she's not doing anything with her boyfriend (which ... she is, I can almost promise it), see if you can come over or something.[/quote]

words of wisdom, thanks.

"Yeah. If she's not doing anything with her boyfriend (which ... she is, I can almost promise it), see if you can come over or something."

you mean?
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Seriously dude, why on Earth would you consider getting someone else's girlfriend a gift for Valentine's Day? That's a surefire way to get your ass kicked.

[quote name='m3rox' post='3451773' date='Feb 11 2011, 01:53 AM']Seriously dude, why on Earth would you consider getting someone else's girlfriend a gift for Valentine's Day? That's a surefire way to get your ass kicked.[/quote]

well I said there not exactly having a peachy relationship, and the dude wouldn't know(I don't think). But yeah you do have a point, lol.

I think the most importan reason as to why you shouldn't do something is that you said "I have some feelings for her but don't want to get too attached." Why would you do this if you are not prepared to go in 100%. Having a girlfriend simply for the status it gives you in stupid. Honestly, you do no one any favours if you pursue this since your heart isn't in it. And thats leaving aside that this could potentially destroy a relationship (tenous as it maybe be). Look, dont do anything. If she really cares about you, then she wont care if you did something for Valentines day, and if she does, well she isnt worth it.