Another Girl thread

Took my awhile to convince myself to actually post this but so far only one person has been helping me through this. I decided that i may need the opinion of others to help so i decided to add yet another girl related issue to Gbatemp

So over the past three months theres been this girl who I can't seem to stop thinking about. It all started when she decided to move closer to her friends in my 3rd Period Class. I noticed a small things about her thats rare in girls in at my school such as liking anime's, playing video games and the ability to actually use her head instead of complain to the teacher about how much work was given. Anyways we started talking in 3 period. She ask to use my book and what not and sometimes would let me copy her work if she see i hadn't actually done it. In 5th period Algebra i was moved to a seat next to her because my teacher said i was to busy talking to my friends. So we began to talk a lot more. We'd talk about the work i couldn't be much help though because i suck at algebra but she was really good at it. I notice the she would make me do work and actually learn it. by thanksgiving break i was sure that i Like her.

After 5th period we wont talk again until the next day because of lunch and we both had a different set of friends. I got a Dsi the day we came back from break and the same day my supercard dsonei came. I went to school and started playing Pokemon Black. she would ask if she could play. her birthday was the 8 of December and i didn't get black and white as promised. All the way up to winter break my affinity for her grew stronger, I found myself becoming depressed because every chance i had to tell her something personal would be interrupted. She noticed this and after a while (maybe a week) turned to me and said She knows why, i didn't believe she did but she wouldn't tell me exactly what she knew. She would beat around the bush. All she said is that i was depressed cause i liked a girl. I couldn't get her to tell anything else. The first week back from Christmas break i had gotten an R4 and loaded White so that she could play it and told her it was a Christmas present/ late birthday present.

My friend told me to write a note to tell her how i feel Which i always though was sort of a corny idea but after realizing that every chance i had to tell her got Fucked i decided to do it he is the only person who knows i like her. I would tell him stuff and he'll keep telling me she likes me back and that i was blind for not noticing it but i didn't really believe it. She also said she had a boyfriend and would brag about him, but what she told me about him and what she told others didn't add up and it lead me to believe that she actually didn't and was saying that to judge my reaction. Before Christmas break i had told her that one of her friends (who was also my friend) had been making fun of her.

he some how got her to believe what he was saying sometime on Wednesday and had the situation turn on me. I noticed that she wouldn't talk to me as much as she used to even though she said she wasn't mad i could tell she was. I tried to tell her but i couldn't find a good enough wording to so i decided to give her the note, apologizing and telling her the true reason why i was all depressed. Tomorrow i go back to school and i have this bad feeling that the response i'm going to get is not going to be satisfactory. Any help, or suggestions is welcome :unsure:

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Been in your situation and it didnt end well. Not saying it will turn out like that for you as well but it echoes my past.
I would say just ask if you can speak to her privately. I know that there is no "perfect moment" to ever tell someone how you feel as the anticipation you build up about it often dwarfs the actual act of saying "I like you (or whatever you want to say)" and though the note is a nice sentiment, sometimes you need to say it out loud as you get an instant reaction and you dont stress yourself while waiting for a reply.
In terms of having a bad feeling, its natural to be honest. My mind would always dredge up the worst case scenario and it was never like that. You are never going to be able to 100% correctly predict what the reaction is going to be but I can safetly say that if she likes you, even as just a friend, she is not going to destroy you and is going to entertain the idea at the very least. I am going to be blunt here though and say that relationships at 16 or so complicate things dramatically and dont worry too much if nothing happens from this as you have a whole life ahead of you.
I hope this helps and apologise if any of this seemed rude.
 
The best thing to do is be honest and true to yourself. If you don't talk behind people's backs or participate in triangular communication (he said / she said), things will be much easier for you.

I'm in college now but I remember when I was in High School I was terrible at communication and scenarios like yours would happen (where someone hears/assumes something and feelings get hurt), but now I can look back and laugh thinking about it and it was all due to simple communication stuff.

And that's another thing to remember, even if you're able to communicate your thoughts or feelings, others are just as young and might not be used to communicating, so even if you do your part and apologize things may still not work out, but you'll be able to smile thinking back on it as long as you know you tried and were honest and didn't talk behind anyone's back from that point on.

Train your pokemon, study for your classes, eat and sleep right, hang out with your friends, work out if you like to, etc. and try not to worry about it. And remember, even if this girl doesn't work out (not saying it won't, just an "if it doesn't"), God has someone picked out for you that you'll find physically and mentally attractive in your life. (16 is really young too, lol).

So yeah, hope it goes well for you, and be proud that you tried and stay strong no matter what the outcome ;)
 
Girls like it when guys know what they want. Just dont take no for an answer. If she does not answer just assume its a yes and start to act like she was yours making her compliments.
If she totally rejects you (she wont), just strike back and back and back you will get her in the end.
Stop thinking and be yourself. You ARE AWESOME.
 
[quote name='Magsor' post='3380984' date='Jan 9 2011, 10:20 PM']Girls like it when guys know what they want. Just dont take no for an answer.[/quote]

You're telling him to be a rapist? What daphuck?
 
[quote name='Magsor' post='3380984' date='Jan 9 2011, 09:20 PM']Girls like it when guys know what they want. Just dont take no for an answer. If she does not answer just assume its a yes and start to act like she was yours making her compliments.
If she totally rejects you (she wont), just strike back and back and back you will get her in the end.
Stop thinking and be yourself. You ARE AWESOME.[/quote]
No means yes, and if she rejects you, strike her. Best advice ever.
 

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